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Liberal Arts & Humanities
Relationships 101Relationships 101
The Equally Yoked versus Unequally Yoked
Truth
equality*
Abid...
DisclaimerDisclaimer
• This material may be quoted for educational
projects – i.e., graduate students, clinical
researcher...
Liberal Arts & Humanities
““Equally Yoked”Equally Yoked”
“Equally Yoked” (also, equallyoked) is
pronounced.. …“Eek quel ee...
Liberal Arts & Humanities
“Civil Identity1”
- Ethnicity:
- Politics:
- Religion:
- Race:
- Color:
- Age:
- Sex: FemaleFema...
Liberal Arts & Humanities
Clinical PerspectivesClinical Perspectives
• “An equally-yoked relationship is born when
both ‘c...
Rate* the Importance of:
Physical
Attraction?
Beliefs
about
God?
Future
Plans?
Financial
Wealth?
*Rate: the importance of ...
Liberal Arts & Humanities
Personal Rights in a RelationshipPersonal Rights in a Relationship
• Individuals who are
conside...
Liberal Arts & Humanities
“…“…to refuse…”to refuse…”
THE RIGHT to
refuse to be in or
interact in an
‘unequally
yoked’ situ...
Liberal Arts & Humanities
“…“…feelings…”feelings…”
THE RIGHT to
express personal
feelings about an
‘unequally yoked’
situa...
Liberal Arts & Humanities
“…“…personal interest..”personal interest..”
THE RIGHT to
pursue and
achieve an
‘equally yoked’
...
Liberal Arts & Humanities
THE RIGHT to
have personal
needs met within
an ‘equally yoked’
relationship …as
important as the...
Liberal Arts & Humanities
THE RIGHT to
decide to be with
which individual
who fulfills the true
definition of a
‘equally y...
Liberal Arts & Humanities
“…“…to correct…”to correct…”
THE RIGHT to
correct a mistake
made in
choosing a
dating or casual
...
Liberal Arts & Humanities
“…“…to seek…”to seek…”
THE RIGHT to be
an independent
individual with a
unique ‘civil
identity’ ...
Liberal Arts & Humanities
“…“…any situation…”any situation…”
THE RIGHT to be
treated respectfully
in any situation
while o...
Liberal Arts & Humanities
“…“…be positive…”be positive…”
THE RIGHT to be
positive, cooperative,
and giving – and
reciproca...
Liberal Arts & Humanities
“…“…be safe…”be safe…”
THE RIGHT to
be safe …in an
‘unequally
yoked’ situation
or any other
situ...
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Relationships 101 - The Ideal Marriage - A Primer on Dyadics

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Relationships 101 - The Ideal Marriage - A Primer on Dyadics

  1. 1. Liberal Arts & Humanities Relationships 101Relationships 101 The Equally Yoked versus Unequally Yoked Truth equality* Abiding in social mores Moral choice Joy/enjoyment Lies inequality* Violation of social mores Perverse humor Fun/funniness** “Twisted”“Straight” *false equality **hysteria *true equality WEBINARWEBINAR
  2. 2. DisclaimerDisclaimer • This material may be quoted for educational projects – i.e., graduate students, clinical researchers, and post-doctorate professionals • All quotations here within are actually either direct or paraphrased quotes from personal interviews, public lectures, or: formal clinical research journals or mass media publications. • So therefore, the use of any quotations here within is understood and therefore may be used for educational purposes in: counseling practicums, social psychology research, supervised clinical psychiatry and psychotherapy.
  3. 3. Liberal Arts & Humanities ““Equally Yoked”Equally Yoked” “Equally Yoked” (also, equallyoked) is pronounced.. …“Eek quel ee-yoak‘d” and is when a (heterosexual) couple – - recognize, related to, identify with, believe in, bonds with, and marries one other purposefully and is of the same (or very nearly the same) ‘Civil Identity.’1 Social Psychology Research: Reference Couple Indices
  4. 4. Liberal Arts & Humanities “Civil Identity1” - Ethnicity: - Politics: - Religion: - Race: - Color: - Age: - Sex: FemaleFemale - Sexual (pleasure preference) Orientation: - Marital status: “Civil Identity” is actually a unique mosaic of one’s present: Ethnicity, Political Party, Race, Color, Religion, Disability, Sex, Sexual (Pleasure Preference) Orientation, Marital Status, Family Status, ….. - Ethnicity: - Politics: - Religion: - Race: - Color: - Age: - Sex: MaleMale - Sexual (pleasure preference) Orientation: - Marital status: “Civil Identity2”
  5. 5. Liberal Arts & Humanities Clinical PerspectivesClinical Perspectives • “An equally-yoked relationship is born when both ‘civil identities’ of the couple are matched, not mismatched.” • “A couple is considered equally yoked when both individuals have a civil identity that is the same or at least fairly equal.” • “The equallyoked couple may have very similar or exactly the same civil identities.” - Marriage and Family Therapy - Social Psychology Research: Reference Couple Indices - Sociology 101
  6. 6. Rate* the Importance of: Physical Attraction? Beliefs about God? Future Plans? Financial Wealth? *Rate: the importance of each issue in your Relationship. Rate 0 - 10 Insignificant=0, Low 1-2, Mod 3-6, High 7-10 Intellect Quotient? Emotional Quotient? Equally Yoked? Rated #1Rated #1 PreliminaryPreliminary results ofresults of Survey1Survey1 PreliminaryPreliminary results ofresults of Survey2Survey2 Rated the HighestRated the Highest Survey1 Survey2 Beliefs about God? On Campus Take Home* Equally Yoked? +/- 0.99% n=35 n=51 +/- 0.99% *may be hard-copy or on-line survey Spring Semester 2001 Fall Semester 2002 2001-2002Social Psychology: Surveys
  7. 7. Liberal Arts & Humanities Personal Rights in a RelationshipPersonal Rights in a Relationship • Individuals who are considered to be an equallyokedtarian have personal rights - just as anyone else does in society. EquallyokedEquallyoked
  8. 8. Liberal Arts & Humanities “…“…to refuse…”to refuse…” THE RIGHT to refuse to be in or interact in an ‘unequally yoked’ situation … concerning an unequally yoked relationship without having to feel guilty or selfish. EquallyokedEquallyoked
  9. 9. Liberal Arts & Humanities “…“…feelings…”feelings…” THE RIGHT to express personal feelings about an ‘unequally yoked’ situation …or a relationship including anger, as long as there is no violation of the rights of the violator of the social mores. EquallyokedEquallyoked
  10. 10. Liberal Arts & Humanities “…“…personal interest..”personal interest..” THE RIGHT to pursue and achieve an ‘equally yoked’ relationship …as an area of personal interest or life goal. EquallyokedEquallyoked
  11. 11. Liberal Arts & Humanities THE RIGHT to have personal needs met within an ‘equally yoked’ relationship …as important as the needs of any one else in society. “…“…needs…”needs…” EquallyokedEquallyoked
  12. 12. Liberal Arts & Humanities THE RIGHT to decide to be with which individual who fulfills the true definition of a ‘equally yoked’ relationship …to be with in whatever activities that will fulfill a personal need. “…“…to decide…”to decide…” EquallyokedEquallyoked
  13. 13. Liberal Arts & Humanities “…“…to correct…”to correct…” THE RIGHT to correct a mistake made in choosing a dating or casual relationship, … and if other than ‘equally yoked’ be responsible for the outcome in society. EquallyokedEquallyoked
  14. 14. Liberal Arts & Humanities “…“…to seek…”to seek…” THE RIGHT to be an independent individual with a unique ‘civil identity’ …in whatever moral/ethical way possible …to seek an ‘equally yoked’ relationship. EquallyokedEquallyoked
  15. 15. Liberal Arts & Humanities “…“…any situation…”any situation…” THE RIGHT to be treated respectfully in any situation while only seeking whether it is other than ‘equally yoked’ or actually while in an ‘equally yoked’ relationship. EquallyokedEquallyoked
  16. 16. Liberal Arts & Humanities “…“…be positive…”be positive…” THE RIGHT to be positive, cooperative, and giving – and reciprocate …in pursuing an ‘equally yoked’ relationship and not be taken over advantage of in society. EquallyokedEquallyoked
  17. 17. Liberal Arts & Humanities “…“…be safe…”be safe…” THE RIGHT to be safe …in an ‘unequally yoked’ situation or any other situation in society. EquallyokedEquallyoked
  18. 18. 18 Thank You Copyright:2002-Published with PermissionCopyright:2002-Published with Permission Relationships 101Relationships 101 WEBINARWEBINAR

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