And opened an entire new Pandora’s box of trouble….
‘A WOMAN’S VALUE STARTED GETTING MEASURED BY THE POUND’
THE OBJECTIFICATION OF WOMEN"When one person objectifies another, it is difficult, perhaps even impossible, to treat that person with empathy... If girls and women are seen exclusively as sexual beings rather than as complicated peoplewith interests, talents, and identities, boys and men may have difficulty relating to them on any level other than the sexual”...The Sexualisation Of Girls, American Psychological Association report released in February 2007.
THE PORNIFICATION OF SOCIETYPsychologists and relationshipcounsellors say internetpornography is a new and growingcause of relationship strife
THE PORNIFICATION OF SOCIETYFilms, TV Magazines are under pressure to competewith pornography.No. of titles in porno : 3 as compared to filmsIn Italy 50% of porno consists of all video sales.Pornography earned 13 billion dollars • Source: The Beauty Myth by Naomi Wolf
INCREASE IN ASSAULTThe Rape Crisis Centre receives two or threereports each week of group assaults againstwomen.And the recent trend is not only to commit theact, but to record it and brag about it.
INCREASE IN ASSAULT88% women experienced sexual harassment at jobin UKIn France TV viewers see 15 rapes a week.Date rape is more common than left-handedness, alcoholism, and heart attack.• Source The Beauty Myth by Naomi Wolf
INCREASE IN ASSAULTAuburn University study found that 25% of undergraduate women had at least one experience of rape, inST Cloud University 29%.In UCLA a study of 14 to 18years of boys and girls was taken 50% of them thoughtit was okay for a man to rape a girl if he was sexuallyaroused by her.(The Beauty Myth 167)
ANOREXIAThis is the 3rd most common disease in Australiangirls under the age of 18. The average age ofanorexia is decreasing, it went down from 16 to 13 inthe past five years. Since 2001 there has been a 20 percent rise in the number of children being admitted tohospitals with anorexia. Hospitals are now treatingchildren aged between 7-11.• Marcus, SMH, Dec 06“…teenage depression has doubled in the pastdecade, eating disorders affect one girl in eight, self-harm, binge drinking and unhappy sexual experiencesstalk even the average teenage girl.”• Biddulph, June 2nd 07, SMH
ANOREXIAOn any day 25% women are on diet 1985 survey, in 1966 – 50% of girlsthought that they are too fat, though medically only 19 % were found out beas fat as they thought to be. In 1969, 80 %. In 2007 how many?Recent survey : 53 % girls are unhappy with their bodies by the time theyare 13 years of age. (Beauty Myth page 185) • Source The Beauty Myth by Naomi Wolf
ANOREXIA95% of anorexics are women. 3.5 million women anorexics in UKevery year 6000 new enteries.5 to 10 percent of American womenare anorexics.National Association of Anorexia surveyed at school : 31% of 9years old girls thought they were too fat. 81% of 10 years girlsdieted.Diet industry earned 33 billion dollars. • Source The Beauty Myth by Naomi Wolf
WHO’S MAKING THE MODELS? Modeling and prostitution are the only two professions where women earn more than men. BBC pays 6500 pounds less to women as compared to men, in same category 1989: Miss America earned 150thousand $ US as prize, 42 thousand $ as scholarship, 30 thousand dollars car. Cosmetic surgery earned 300 million dollars. Source: The Beauty Myth by Naomi Wolf
OUTCOME….Thinner Models Other women to feel inadequate
I LOVE YOU…BUT…Men and women will always have the desire to form relationshipswith one another.Men no longer value women enough to make a commitment tothem, and women no longer trust men.So the relationships of today are illegitimate, and a society basedon such relationships can only be heading towards destruction.
I LOVE YOU…BUT… Divorced cases have doubled45% of working women in US are between the 70 s and 80 s in everysingle, divorced, widowed, making The ratio of lonely old women to Western Country, 3 times in them sole economic support of lonely old men is 4:1 Netherland, 4 times in UK ( Beauty their children. Myth page 117) 2 out of 3 marriages in US end in divorce. In Mumbai 6000 cases of Source The Beauty Myth by divorces pending in court, in Delhi Naomi Wolf 8000
I LOVE YOU…BUT…The median ageof marriage for In the USA, themen rose from illegitimacy rate 28 to 31, and has increased for women it 66% since 1980rose from 26 to and is still 29 between growing.1993 and 2003.
CORPORATE PAEDOPHILIAThe sexualisation and pornification of society isnow hurting children as young as six.
‘SAD BEYOND BELIEF’ Sexual themes were found in one-third of teen-rated video games in one study.Even Disney characters such as the Little Mermaid and Pochahontas "have more cleavage, fewer clothes, and are depicted as sexier than those of yesteryear". “75 % of the content of Barbie magazine, aimed at 5-12year olds, is sexualising material, as is 50% of Total Girls (8-11 yr olds) and 50% of Disney Girl (6-13 yr olds)”
‘SAD BEYOND BELIEF’ “The effect on children of all this premature sex saturation is long- lasting psychological harm, resulting in depression, low self- esteem and eating disorders in children as young as six. Its sad beyond belief.” Miranda Devine, 15 April 07, SMH
ALWAYS REMEMBER THAT ITS RECIPROCAL “But there is no point in simply demanding that men change their attitudes.Why would a man respect a woman who doesnt respect herself, when most of societys traditional protections for women have been torn down, often by women themselves, in the name of freedom?” Miranda Devine, SMH, 3rd Dec 06 The results of this are even more disturbing.
NO SOFT SPEECH… Wives of the Prophet! you are not like any other of the women; If you will be on your guard, then be not soft in(your) speech, lest he in whose heart is a disease yearn; and speak a good word. (Al-Ahzaab:32)
ALLAH WANTS TO PURIFY WOMEN…And stay in your houses and do not display your finery like the displayingof the ignorance of yore; and keep up prayer, and pay the poor-rate, and obey Allah and His Apostle. Allah only desires to keep away the uncleanness from you, O people of the House! and to purify you a (thorough) purifying. (Al-Ahzaab:33)
JILBAB PRECAUTIONPerfumes/ Body parts makeup Tabarruj Jewelry Bodylanguage Clothes
RULINGS PRACTICED THEN….• Hajj• Travel• Salah in masjid * At Fajr & Isha * No zeenat * Last saff * Leave quickly
ALLAH WANTS TO PROTECT WOMEN O Prophet! say to your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers that they let down upon them their over-garments; this will be more proper, that they may be known, and thus they will not be given trouble; and Allah is Forgiving, Merciful. (Al-Ahzaab: 59)
TASHEEH UL FAHISHASurely (as for) those who love that scandal should circulate respecting those who believe, they shall have a grievous chastisement in this world and the hereafter; and Allah knows, while you do not know (Al-Nur: 19)
FOR MEN……Say to the believing men that they cast downtheir looks and guard their private parts; that is purer for them; surely Allah is Aware of what they do. (Al-Nur: 30)
MORE GUIDANCE FOR WOMENAnd say to the believing women that they cast down their looksand guard their private parts and do not display their ornaments except what appears thereof, and let them wear their head- coverings over their bosoms, and not display their ornaments except to their husbands or their fathers, or the fathers of their husbands, or their sons, or the sons of their husbands, or their brothers, or their brothers sons, or their sisters sons, or their women, or those whom their right hands possess, or the maleservants not having need (of women), or the children who have not attained knowledge of what is hidden of women. (Al-Nur: 31)
BODY LANGUAGEAnd let them not strike their feet so that what they hide of theirornaments may be known; and turn to Allah all of you, Obelievers! so that you may be successful. (Al-Nur : 31)
EXCEPTIONS TO THE RULE OF LOWERING THE GAZE… On Day of Judgment During war/ battlefield Natural calamities Hajj or Umrah Times of emergencies
OPINION OF VARIOUS SCHOOLS OF THOUGHTS• Sahabah• Ta’abaeen• Imam Abu Haneefah• Imam Sha’afi & Imam Ahmed
Let’s see what hijab is really supposed to be like!
PAIR ACTIVITY……15 MINWrite some positives and negatives about the pictures on the following slides.
FUNCTIONS OF HIJABMore than a religious symbolCommand and test from AllahPreservation of modestyElevation of statusLiberationSecurity and protectionSafeguarding of society
MORE THAN A RELIGIOUS SYMBOLHijab is a symbol since itrepresents a woman’s submissionto her Creator and her connectionwith the deen of Islam.
SO WHAT IS HIJAB REALLY?• Arabic for veil• Used to describe the headscarves worn by Muslim women.• Literally: Scarf that covers the head and neck but leaves the face clear.
NIQAB, BURQA• Veil for the face that leaves the area around the eyes clear.• The burqa is the most concealing of all Islamic veils.
AL-AMIRA, SHAYLA• Al-Amira: Two-piece veil: close fitting cap, and an accompanying tube-like scarf.• Shayla: is a long, rectangular scarf , wrapped around the head.
KHIMAR, CHADORKhimar: is a long, cape-like veil that hangs down to just abovethe waist. It covers the hair, neck and shoulders completely, butleaves the face clear.Chador: full-body cloak. It is often accompanied by a smallerheadscarf underneath.
DIFFERENT TYPES OF HIJABThere are a number of different veils worn by Muslimwomen….
CONTROVERSY…… Niqab, Burqa. These cover all but the eyes.
WHAT DO THE WOMEN WANT? To be To live in To feelrespected as peace and integrated individuals within the lawTo receive To have a To have a good decent job happy familyeducation (Europe’s Muslim women: potential, aspirations and challenges. Research report. King Baudouin Foundation, 2008)
ISSUES DEALT WITH BY THE SYSTEM OF HIJAB Men and women know How men what limits It creates aand women to set when dignified and interact dealing with respectful outside one another environment. marriage. in general society.
3 CATEGORIES OF DRESSLibaas Satar Jilbaab For For For beauty indoor outdoor
PREVENTATIVE MEASURESGuard you caution in Prevention of sexual gaze zeenat desires Exceptions: Body Fans For marriage Dress Crushes Court Make Internet matters up Doctor Movies Consultation Mahram/temporary mahram / non-mahram Company
ELEVATION OF STATUS “I am more than body and looks.” “I have a Mind.” “I have a personality beyond my physical appearance”.
LIBERATION From the vain and To compete selfish with other desire to women show off around herher beauty
SECURITY AND PROTECTION Not abused. Provides security and protection
EXCUSES GIVEN…….I am not convinced yet….. Its not obligatory….. Peer pressure/Hub pressure/society pressure…… My position does not allow me to substitute my dress for hijab….. It is very hot in my country and I have heat allergy……
FURTHER EXCUSES…….Im afraid, I will take it off at another time Nobody will marry me But Allah made be beautiful…… I will do it when Allah guides me to it…..
FURTHER EXCUSES…….Its not time for that yet/ Im still tooyoung for it/ Ill do it when I make Hajj! I am afraid I will be labeled
IRRATIONAL LOGIC……Men will have more urge, if werepress their natural desires This is taking women back in cave ages How will she study with Hijab? There are medical diseases due to Hijab?
Does Islam allow a woman to take off herhijab before a perseptive marriage partner?
Does Islamic dictate the exact style of hijab which a Muslim woman hasto wear? Can you tell me which hijab styles are allowed?
Could you please advise on sister who wants to be a nurse should doabout uniform. Also, what about the dealing with male patients? Is this right?
Is it Islamic to wear a sari if I wear it in such a waythat no part of my body or hair shows?
I am in the process of applying for jobs but I am concerned that at interviews the employer may discriminate against mebecause I wear hijab. Is it allowed for me totake it off for the duration of the interview?
My family does not supportme in wearing hijab…what to do?
My passport picture iswithout Hijab…Can I travel with it?
I have a friend who does not wear hijab and mymother has told me, not tobe friends with her….what should I do?
If I am sitting with non-Mahrams incomplete Hijab, is it ok?
I had always been with mymale cousins, and used to sit together, shake hands……what now?
SUMMARYIn the hadeeth, it is narrated that the Prophet (blessingsand peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Ahead of youthere are days of patience when patience will be likegrasping live coals, and the one who does good deedswill have the reward of fifty men who do deeds like his.”Someone else added: He said: O Messenger ofAllaah, the reward of fifty of them? He said: “Thereward of fifty of you.”(Narrated by Abu Dawood)
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