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The newft boundarytemplate

  1. 1. The New Finding Time Boundary Template: 9 Simple, Sequential Steps to Find More Time and Recharge Your Energy! By Paula Eder, Ph.D. Finding Time http://www.findingtime.net/http://www.findingtime.net Finding Time Boundary Template© Paula Eder, Ph.D. All rights reserved Page 1 of 9
  2. 2. The New Finding Time Boundary Template: 9 Simple, Sequential Steps to Find More Time and Recharge Your Energy! By Paula Eder, Ph.D.Think of time as a basket. Each day, like a basket, can only hold so much.Spillover creates stress, mistakes and disappointment. Developing boundaries isthe art of keeping whats important to you in the basket by keeping whats lessimportant out.Using The New Finding Time Boundary Template, you will develop skills andstrengths to eliminate the spillover.And theres a bonus. When you put these strengths to use as you make yourtime choices, you will feel better at the end of the day than you ever thoughtyou could! Why?Each time you create a clear, realistic boundary: • You claim more positive control over your time. • Your self-esteem and sense of personal power grows. • You clarify your relationships with others.http://www.findingtime.net Finding Time Boundary Template© Paula Eder, Ph.D. All rights reserved Page 2 of 9
  3. 3. • You align your time choices with your values. Boundaries make your life work betterThe better you understand boundaries, the more you can put them to work foryou. Quite simply, each time you set a boundary, you define what you will or willnot do. You also assert what you will and will not tolerate in terms of demandsupon your time and space. So really, in developing a boundary, youre setting alimit. Youre deciding what goes out and what stays out of your basket of time,every day of your life. This is how you make time for what matters the most. Setting Boundaries for Yourself: You Hold All the Power…You exert great power over your life when you set boundaries for yourself. If youare easily distracted, this may be hard to believe! But learning how to set andmaintain these boundaries will put this power in your hands. Because all thepower to make these boundaries effective rests within you, we also call theseinternal boundaries.Focus can be developed by anyone who becomes self-referenced. And internalboundaries are tools to build self-reference.http://www.findingtime.net Finding Time Boundary Template© Paula Eder, Ph.D. All rights reserved Page 3 of 9
  4. 4. 1. Your internal boundaries help protect your priorities Internal boundaries require no cooperation from others. Each time you consciously limit an activity, you successfully establish an internal boundary. It may not always be easy for you to maintain, and you may experience internal conflict or resistance. But it is relatively simple, because you exercise total control over internal boundaries. It is your choice! With practice and the willingness to establish firm priorities, youll develop the focus you need to maintain your internal boundaries.2. Internal Boundaries strengthen your relationship with yourself Maintaining internal boundaries gives you power to use time in a way that’s consistent with your values. You can be authentic with yourself and give yourself what you need. Ultimately, you are creating a way to make and keep a promise to yourself. And the more you look to yourself, the less you give your power away to others. One of the notable benefits of a template is that filling it out and using it step by step concretizes the change you want to bring about. If you are used to skimming material, print this out, use it and experience how powerful thishttp://www.findingtime.net Finding Time Boundary Template© Paula Eder, Ph.D. All rights reserved Page 4 of 9
  5. 5. time management tool can be to put you in charge of your life. It works if you work. The New Finding Time Boundary Template - Internal Boundaries1. List activities youd like to limit that are completely within your control. For example, the time you spend flipping through catalogs. _______________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________2. Describe one boundary you want to create. Write it down. To facilitate your success, make this boundary one you are highly motivated to maintain. _______________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________3. No beginning is too small. Identify the first step you want to take to begin creating this boundary for yourself. Make sure it is a manageable one for you. For example, reading catalogs: limit your reading time to four days a week. Gradually decrease thehttp://www.findingtime.net Finding Time Boundary Template© Paula Eder, Ph.D. All rights reserved Page 5 of 9
  6. 6. time you spend reading catalogs to whats optimal. Build on each success by validating the time youve saved. _______________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________4. Structure your environment for success. One option might be to set aside a basket to toss all interesting catalogs into as soon as they arrive. And set the recycling basket for paper right next to it! _______________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________5. Reward yourself. Give yourself something to look forward to and work towards. For example, spend some of the time you save on a pleasurable pastime you feel really good about! Rewarding yourself consistently is a powerful way to reinforce your new behavior. Reward possibilities: ______________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________6. Catch backslides with compassion. Notice any of your sticking points with friendly curiosity, not judgment. For example, do you read catalogs more often when you really wish you were out with friends? What happens prior to reverting to old habits? Take thishttp://www.findingtime.net Finding Time Boundary Template© Paula Eder, Ph.D. All rights reserved Page 6 of 9
  7. 7. opportunity to get to know yourself better. Then identify how your old patterns work against you. _______________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________7. Create a fast track back. Brainstorm how to support yourself when you backslide. Envision your ideal coach, and then be that coach for yourself! _______________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________8. Fine-tune your boundary. Modify your boundary in whatever ways enhance your chance for success. If a full array of catalogs is too tempting to pass up, limit yourself to 2-3 favorites. Set your catalog storage basket, along with your recycling basket, out of easy reach. _______________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________9. Schedule friendly check-ins. Checking in with yourself periodically helps you assess how well your new boundary is working, and enables you to integrate lessons - a cornerstone of self-reference. • How consistently do you maintain this boundary? _______________________________________________________________http://www.findingtime.net Finding Time Boundary Template© Paula Eder, Ph.D. All rights reserved Page 7 of 9
  8. 8. _______________________________________________________________ • What changes in your life as you practice this boundary? _______________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________ • Will modifying the boundary increase its effectiveness? If so, how? _______________________________________________________________Bonus Tip #1: Build on your success. Review your list to select another boundary to establish. Then repeat the process. _______________________________________________________________Bonus Tip #2: Celebrate yourself. Validating yourself consistently for successes of any size helps you in 3 ways: • Positive reinforcement is your most important ally in keeping on track. • When you keep the promise you made to yourself, you build self-trust, and that’s something to celebrate. • Affirming and rewarding yourself feels good, and this will always energize you. So when you experience success with your boundary, take time to celebrate (and record it in your Reward Log)! Reward log: _______________________________________________________________http://www.findingtime.net Finding Time Boundary Template© Paula Eder, Ph.D. All rights reserved Page 8 of 9
  9. 9. _______________________________________________________________I hope you find this template helpful, and wish you the very best of successin finding time for what matters most to you! I invite you to visit my sitehttp://www.findingtime.net/ to learn more about Finding Time.And for even more time thoughts and techniques, visit our blog athttp://www.thetimefinder.com.http://www.findingtime.net Finding Time Boundary Template© Paula Eder, Ph.D. All rights reserved Page 9 of 9

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