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Vampires at work place

  1. 1. Vampires at the workplace!
  2. 2. November 2004 issue of the American Management Association's e-newsletter has an eerie article to start with: "Protect Yourself from Workplace Energy Vampires."
  3. 3. <ul><li>No, it is not about switching off unnecessary lights, working without AC, or using eco-friendly chips in your computer. </li></ul>
  4. 4. <ul><li>The problem is with your neighbours, co-workers and colleagues who can &quot;suck the life&quot; out of you. </li></ul>
  5. 5. <ul><li>These energy vampires don't sink their teeth on your neck and drink blood, but have the energy to sap your exuberance. &quot;I've seen their fang marks and the carnage they've wrought throughout my practice and in my workshops,&quot; writes Judith Orloff in the article. </li></ul>
  6. 6. <ul><li>I guess you have stopped laughing, so we can go about and identify the vampires around us, using tips provided in Judith's book Positive Energy: Ten Extraordinary Prescriptions for Transforming Fatigue, Stress, and Fear Into Vibrance, Strength, and Love . Positively long title, that is, though workplace vampires don't have extra-long canines running down their chins. </li></ul>
  7. 7. <ul><li>The first energy vampire is the `sob sister' with a `poor me' attitude; she has more complaints than solutions. If Sob Sister is talking, you can hear her whine, so what do you do to `protect yourself'? </li></ul>
  8. 8. <ul><li>Limit the time you spend talking about her complaints. Else, you may soon join the SS category, bleating about paucity of time to do work, when the boss comes around. </li></ul>
  9. 9. <ul><li>Vampire number 2 is the `drama queen' who can with a flourish turn &quot;small incidents into off-the-chart dramas.&quot; The Drama Queen has endless stories. Judith gives the example of an employee who, when asked why he was late for work, said he had flu and &quot;almost died&quot;; another day, &quot;his car was towed,&quot; and so on. </li></ul>
  10. 10. <ul><li>How to protect yourself? Avoid getting caught up in the histrionics, counsels Judith. &quot;Say, `You must be here on time to keep your job. I'm sorry for all your mishaps but work comes first.&quot; Heartless, it may seem, but you need to save yourself, right? </li></ul>
  11. 11. <ul><li>Third is the `constant talker or joke teller' who may apparently be entertaining though uninterested in your feelings. &quot;You wait for an opening to get a word in edgewise, but it never comes. Or, he might physically move in so close he's practically breathing on you. You edge backwards, but without missing a beat, he steps closer again.&quot; Too real in social occasions, and at times in office. </li></ul>
  12. 12. <ul><li>What is the solution? &quot;Understand that these people don't respond to nonverbal cues,&quot; is a clue from Judith. &quot;You must assertively speak up and interrupt them.&quot; </li></ul>
  13. 13. <ul><li>Fourth energy vampire is the `fixer upper.' Means? &quot;This vampire is desperate for you to fix her endless problems, 24/7.&quot; For her, you are the `personal therapist' and she would monopolise &quot;your precious free time.&quot; You may simply be lured into &quot;her neediness.&quot; </li></ul>
  14. 14. <ul><li>  </li></ul><ul><li>But wait! Take Judith's help. &quot;Show empathy, but resist offering solutions.&quot; That can save your shoulder from getting wet! </li></ul>
  15. 15. <ul><li>Energy Vampire five is the `blamer,' who has &quot;a sneaky way of making you feel guilty or ineffectual for not getting things just right.&quot; Is that the boss who always has &quot;a negative comment to make&quot; to drain off your energy? </li></ul>
  16. 16. <ul><li>Judith suggests you protect yourself through visualisation. &quot;Whenever you encounter the negative person, imagine yourself surrounded by a cocoon of white light.&quot; Tricky stuff, but don't tell this to your boss, because he can blame you for being in a cocoon. </li></ul>
  17. 17. <ul><li>Last comes the `go for the jugular' vampire. Just the grisly thing you've been afraid of? Almost, this chap is `vindictive'; he can ruthlessly cut you down &quot;with no consideration for your feelings,&quot; saying things like: &quot;Forget that job. It's out of your league.&quot; </li></ul>
  18. 18. <ul><li>What to do? &quot;Understand that he is a wounded person and that his meanness is more connected to himself than to you. Try not to take his words to heart.&quot; Philosophical. Give it a try. </li></ul>
  19. 19. <ul><li>Before you begin spotting the vampires around you, check if there are the telltale fang marks on the neck. </li></ul>
  20. 20. <ul><li>Thank you </li></ul>