How are we doing? Outstanding. So I want to first thank Dream/Speakers/You guysSo what I’m gonna talk about today is a little different than what we’ve seen so far. “How to actually get good at PU.”90% of guys don’t ever get good. That’s not to belittle or talk down on anyone on this journey. IMMENSE respect – anyone put aside ego But the reality of it is that much like the gym, where only 1% of guys get buff, in pickup, only 1% of guys get laid with any kind of consistency.And I want this talk to change that. Let’s look at some things you’re going to learn.
What Macro and Microtweaking are… what they mean, the differences, and why they’re important to youEverything You Need to Know About Workshops – but that no one will ever tell youWhy 10 Words and 3 Seconds can make or break your setWho here has ever gotten flakey numbers? I’ll teach you today how to completely eliminate thatLast but not least, the 3 main concepts that will guarantee you success in pickup if you follow them
To Do: * Leave egos at the door – in fact, for the next hour or so, I ask all of you to temporarily forget everything you know. You want to absorb as much information as possible* Write down your questions and ask them at Q&A – I will never blow off a legitimate question -- ask even if you think it’s stupidIf you’re serious about getting good, you MUST take notes and continually review them.So let’s start… with a little background….
Some of you guys are probably wondering who I am…<Next>And… why you should give a shit. Or maybe you actually don’t give a shit. That’s ok, cause imgonna tell you anyway.So once upon a time, there was a short, Asian, 19-year-old-virgin. And he was far from good with women. In fact, he was REALLY BAD.
He grew up thinking that there were 2 people in this world: People who had it, and people who didn’t…And he was in the 2nd groupSo he spent his life trying to <next> overcompensate for this shortcoming…
He excelled in academics, sports, martial arts, and even went to the Marines, all in hopes that these things would compensate for zero social skills.
But one of the interesting things about the male ego is that it protects you.It tricks you. No matter how bad you are, it makes you think that you’re “average” or “cool” when in reality you’re actually socially retarded
But then life gets you subtle and sometimes not-so-subtle clues…It reminds you that you’re not as cool as you think you are.The first clue for me came in 8th grade.Actually, the first clue came at my 7th grade dance, when I asked a girl to dance and she responded by running into the girl’s bathroom. But I don’t really count that because I managed to convince myself that she was just shy. Right.
So my first big clue came at the end of 8th grade. I had the BIGGEST crush on Jamie Chen, this tall, thin, leggy Chinese girl with bangs and who always seemed to be wearing daisy dukes to school.I obsessed over this girl for years until I finally decided to make my big move. So at the end of 5th period, I decided I was going to ask her out.I was sweating bullets and I somehow managed to walk up to her without tripping. Finally, my chance to ask her out. But what came out was, “uhh…yeah…umm.. Jamie? I was wondering… if.. You know… maybe… you would… sign my yearbook?”Yeah, I bitched out hardcore. But I still BELIEVED. I was convinced she liked me and would write me a huge love letter in my yearbook that we could look at with fond memories as we grew old together with all of our children and grandchildren.Meanwhile, back on planet earth, I got my yearbook back the next period, and I tore it open, looking for her letter of undying love.I opened up the first page, the inside cover, to find…
-In 2002 I somehow managed to get a girlfriend by scouring the internet for girls who had a fetish for short asian guys. As I’m sure you’re aware of, there’s not too many of those floating around.-But a few years later I lost her because I didn’t know how to keep her. She ended up cheating on me and I had to end it with her.-The interesting thing though, is what a friend of mine said when he called me up one day. He had been talking to her and had asked her about me…
And that was the 2nd and final clue… that maybe I wasn’t as cool as I thought I was. And so I found the community after a lot of searching, and I went through what we call<Next>The Pain Period
Arnold talked about this in his book on bodybuilding and it’s what every athlete or champion must go through on his journey.For me: 6 months of 5-nights a week to get my first laySleeping at work in order to go outBlowing out of 19 out of 20 sets every nightLiving, breathing, sleeping, eating this stuffTraining and learning from the best – gonesavage/mystery/juggler/But I gradually got better, set by set.And pain gradually turned into pleasure as I started to get more consistentAnd then one night, it was about 4am and I couldn’t sleep. I was lying in bed with a new girl and I was looking at the shadows on the wall and it struck me all at once that everything I had worked for, everything I had dreamed about, everything I had wanted in terms of success with women… I now had. I just didn’t notice the change because it had been so gradual.And that’s what the change feels like. It doesn’t feel like a sudden rush of power you get one day. Guys are always asking me when I had that ONE moment when I knew I was good. It doesn’t work that way.
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Most recently, I resigned my position at Mehow Inc in order to start my own company, the Tao of DJ Fuji.Going off on my own has allowed me a lot more freedom in my teaching and training. It’s allowed me to teach only what I believe works best which has resulted in massive results for even my toughest students.My training philosophy revolves around live training, solid fundamentals, and individual attention. I don’t teach a method, I teach solid fundamentals and give you the ability to choose your OWN method, or make one up yourself. Think of it like the gym. Who here goes to the gym? A lot of you guys then have probably heard of supersets, high rep-low weight, HIIT, Max-OT, and so on. Which method should YOU use? It depends.My live workshops are called “Core Fundamentals” because fundamentals are what’s important. And it’s what we’re going to talk about today. I’m not going to teach you guys 3some techniques, advanced calibration models, or anything like that because while that’s fancy, it doesn’t get you results. Fundamentals are what get you results.It’s like basketball. The 3-pointer doesn’t win you games. The lay up wins you games.
So let’s get down to brass tacks.A LOT of guys out there are spending a lot of time and money doing this… and aren’t getting the results they want. By a show of hands, who knows someone like that?What I’m gonna talk about for the next hour is the FORMULA for SUCCESS. It’s called a formula because it’s a proven way of getting results.This formula is <next> DT&E, or what I now call “DaTE”Who can tell me what D stands for?
-Making the tough decisions even when you don’t want to-Preparing for the field before you take a shower: Doing your homework-Having a game plan-Sun Tzu – every battle is won or lost…-This is not an easy road-Drills/Exercises – we’ll work on later-Working on BL-Synthetic? Write a STACK!-Analysis & Fixing your sticking points
Training… Having mentors and people to guide you along your path-Instructors/Naturals/Guys better than you-Society says not to -- learn a sport or martial art from a book?-Ask yourself: If I use these skills to meet the woman of my dreams, how much is that worth to me?-Sooner rather than later – training with Sinn-Huge difference between a good pickup artist and a good coach-Learning from everyone around you – ElTopo, Adam, Savage, Mystery, etc.-It’s critical important to take good training from good instructors-What to look for in a good coach-Do your homework – read reviews, esp bad ones-Refund Policy-Doesn’t abandon students-Willing to demo-Knows his own sticking points-Doesn’t get drunk-Debrief-Pushes you-Gives 110%
-Getting out there and DOING it – implementing everything you’ve practiced-Opening. Escalating. Qualifying. Closing. Pulling the trigger.- Pushing yourself past your fears and your comfort zone.“There is no growth in the comfort zone and there is no comfort in the growth zone.”“Become comfortable with discomfort”
Not Being Well RoundedNot Working on YourselfBeing DogmaticEgo & Overinflated StandardsFocusing on OutcomeGuru Worship
Stalling/Too many questionsNo kinoNot qualifying or escalatingFalse EjectingFlakey NumbersNot Pushing Your Comfort Zone
Top 5 strengths/Top 5 weaknesses/3 actionable things to correct them
Must Have’sGood to have’sDon’t likeDeal breakers
* Where is the source of most symptoms you experience infield?* Give me 3 out of 5 of the most common tactical mistakes guys make in field* What is the 3 word formula for success & what does it mean?Answers: -2 stages prior-5 most common tactical mistakes5: Leaning In/Seeking Rapport4: Not Qualifying3: Stalling/Not Stacking2: False Ejecting1: Not Pushing Your Comfort Zone-DTE: Discipline, Training, Execution
All right Gents, so today we talked about:The keys to success: D/T/ECommon pitfalls and sticking pointsSaw the importance of first impressionGuys, I wish I had more time to talk, but I sincerely hope you guys learned something today. For those of you who are interested, I offer live training through workshops and long term training programs. Details are on my website.I want to finish up by telling you guys a quick story. Mystery/suicidal guyAnd THAT, gentlemen, is why I do this. It’s why I love my job, and it’s why I come to events like this. I’m sharing the stage today with an amazing group of speakers, many of whom helped me along my path at one time or another. It is an honor and a privilege to be here among them because it was not too long ago that I was in your seat taking notes. It CAN be done, gentlemen, I’m living proof of that. All it takes is discipline, training, and execution.Keep up the hard work, guys, stay disciplined, and I hope to see you all in the field. Thank you.___________QuestionsMost guys don’t know how to train to get good. They go infield and stand around talking to each other about PU. They eject out of sets early. They go out without a game plan and get discouraged. If you’re not getting consistently better every time you go out, or if you’re not getting solid results you can see, it’s time to revisit the fundamentals.The boot camp tonight is one night of hard core field training designed to teach you:- HOW to train- Identify and fix your sticking points- And shave off 6 months or more from your learning curve. Feel free to come talk to me during the break
Djfuji U21 2009
Getting Good:The Secrets To Success<br /> The Tao of DJ Fuji<br />“Maximize Your Potential”<br />www.taoofdjfuji.com<br />
Why Fundamentals Trump Methods<br />What You Need to Know About Workshops<br />The Importance of 10 Words and 3 Seconds<br />Completely Eliminating Flakey Numbers<br />How to Guarantee Success in PU<br />Some Things You’re Going to Learn<br />
Egos at the Door<br />Questions<br />Take Notes<br />Ground Rules<br />
Who I Am<br />…And Why You Should Give a Shit<br />4<br />
The “Unfuck Your Life” List<br />Grow taller<br />Get braces<br />Don’t starch your hair<br />Don’t wear your [rain] boots<br />Don’t lock your backpack w/ paper clipz OR lockz<br />Brush your teeth<br />Get a new wardrobe<br />Cut your hair<br />DON’T TAKE IT PERSONALLY<br />Love,<br />Your Biggest Crush<br />
Clue #2: My Ex<br />And what she told our mutual friend<br />
“He’ll never find another girlfriend. He’s only attractive on paper.”Ouch.<br />
Read Reviews<br />Refund Policy<br />Sticks with Students<br />Willing to Demo<br />Is Still Working on Himself/Knows SPs<br />Doesn’t Get Drunk<br />Debrief at End of Night<br />Pushes You Past Comfort Zone<br />What to Look for in Coaches<br />
Pop Quiz<br />What is the 3-word formula for success & what does it mean?<br />
Live Training<br />Seminars & Workshops<br />One-on-One Training<br />Long Term Coaching Packages<br />How to Contact Me<br />djfuji@TaoOfDJFuji.com<br />www.TaoOfDJFuji.com<br />310.817.2633<br />Training and Further Information<br />