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The Popularity Myth - A Guide to Mean Girls with Julie Hiramine

We've all dealt with mean behavior. This presentation was developed to accompany Julie Hiramine and Generations of Virtue as they equipped an all girls school to deal with the subject of bullying.

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The Popularity Myth - A Guide to Mean Girls with Julie Hiramine

  1. 1. Generations of Virtue Transforming culture by »: .T«. :iilii"ig fiC1ilrJfi5 to o. genei‘CJiiOnSOivirlLe O irgovleorn www. generationsofvirtueorg
  2. 2. The Popularity Contest A Guide to Mean Girls ‘the org ca corcept cf these sccia r: ‘es = 'ci_eer‘ bee, sidekick. barker, ~: .eJ"-rebe. targeti rvf_r came frcrr Queen Bees an: ‘. "i.7:. ’”J': :2s l: -,J Qosa incl -. ‘-xisemar. 4., -cs. © Julie Hiramine, 2015‘
  3. 3. The Sidekic a. k.a. Cece: id Ti. C d M Banker _ The a. . . _he li“ifr: Ji"i’i"iati: :-ri Desk I V I Wannabe ~~ i" a. l<. a. r": i"“I"-K. " ll I Q The ka . _,- _. / (JO ‘the crlgicai corcept cf these sccia r: as 'CI_EEl‘ bee. sidekick, barker, '. -xarrabe. target? came from Queen Bees an: '. -'J. -'5."J*". :peS l'_"-; :33; Jed ’. -‘. -isernar. 2-3C= ‘9. © Julie Hiramine, 2015*
  4. 4. Bullying does mental health harm than abuse, study says he long—tc1‘1n vl‘l1*<‘t. « oflwinglnilliutl l)_'()il1(. ‘I'l{l(lS are '(IIl‘Sf: ' lliain being almsed by an adult. iiew I'_'. *»'L‘£! l'('ll . ~l‘mws. Among a large group of children in England, those who were bullied were 60% more likely to have mental health problems sexual abuse. And among a large group of children in the United States, the risk of mental health problems was nearly four tiinos g1'cziterfor viciiins (>fl>nll_'ingtl1;in lor 'lL'lllIl. ‘ of child ziluisc. as adults than were those who suffered physical, emotional or
  5. 5. Queen Bee a. l<. a. 5“; L Uses: Charisma, force, intimidation, money, reputation, will and manipulation Needs: Control, position, servants Fears: Exposure, losing postition Technology is: Her throneroom 1 “I will reign above all the other girls” 't"e 3' g"a corcept : ft"ese 9:-:32 F: es 'C'_EE-" tee. sidekick. barker: .'. 'e*rebe. ta'ge: :. cam; ._ / N - . ' . - . . . ,,, .._. , - l’ C"| ' 14.458" '; ‘56‘SG"C '. '. vS""CL‘€‘S E. ‘SE2 "fl . i'SE| "iET‘. 4u‘. .‘. '. © Julie Hiramine, 2015*
  6. 6. Sidekick a. l<. a. Le; : :2 T Uses: The Queen Bee, position, manipulation, back stabbing Needs: A stage, a queen, approval Fears: Being alone, displacement Technology is: Her trophy case and an effective weapon “I will be stronger than all the others” © Julie Hiramine, 2015* 't“e 3' g "a : or: e,r. : zftrese 3:-cia r: es -: I_eer bee. sidekick. ‘: ar‘<-: -r, .', a"rabe. target} came frcrr Case’ Esescr-5 ‘. '-. :”": L~: s l': . 335a rd Cdserriar, 23C’?
  7. 7. Banter, a. l<. a._‘t—: “ ” Uses: Information, words, stories, gossip, half truths Needs: Data, people, connections 0'0 23" Fears: Missing an opportunity Technology is: Her arsenal and database “I will always have a backup plan” 't‘“e crigra corcept cftrese sccia -*3 es ": I_eer bee. sidekick, barker, .r. -arrabe. target came frcrr C458‘ 5565 6’: .'-. :'': :es b, 335a rd '2"-. "iserr: a". 2'3Ci5?. © Julie Hiramine, 2015"
  8. 8. aka. ‘ I f — Wu see (ll Uses: Any chance to climb the ladder, her availability, clothes, makeup, time Needs: Recognition, to be included, exclusive access Fears: Being left out, being uncool LA Technology is: Her access card (even to her own detriment) “I will do whatever I have to. ..” - ~ - 1* 'tre srig-ratorcept cf trese 3:-cia r: es -: I_eer bee. sidekick, barker, v-, 'a. r.rabe, target} ©Julie Hiramine, 2015 l — . a W . - MC, came frorr Queen bees are . -“vs. ”-Cases l: -. ‘(SSE r__ . -x‘-serriarg Lia ‘v.
  9. 9. To rget aka. " ‘:5 Uses: Escapism, compartmentalization, lies to cover the pain Needs: A friend, an advocate, safety Fears: Revictimization Technology is: A battering ram “I will never make it out alive” © Julie Hiramine, 2015‘ - - . , . . -, , , =.. -a. '-. .. --'- M . - 1*»; '. .- , :.. - - . _., .-. .,. - I"- . I E‘ . , g c _c, ."_-, ... ,i L 653 '3.. - = .. ‘ES . _€E~ -_-€‘. '5I_. €kv-! ..t‘= l‘<. -i‘, ., : -<C‘E. L: 55. - P - . - , . l_PP CE! “-'= T"'C'l‘ -.458“ ZEi'SC’C I '.5“"S_’. ‘:"'. -' C. ‘CE-C "C . S5""E". Au
  10. 10. How ToiRespond Queen Bee Siclekick I Banker ; :2 Love unconditionally, but hold accountable Help identify motives of the heart «.9 Take away the power behind their power trip ‘tire origra cor t cf these sxia r3=e5 i: I.eer bee. sidekick, barker, r. »-. -arrabe, target} came from Q4531 4585 5'“: ,'-. ":”. ":: es b», Rosa rd ". v". "iserrua". 2'3C=9_ © Julie Hiramine, 2015"
  11. 11. Responding to the Wannabe 0 Help them find something to be a part of 0 Spend time with your children's friends 0 Help your daughter know how to stand up for herself 0 Clarify values . .yr-r-r"L ~ ~ - ‘tr i {ra 0 Ce tcftr s sci 3 {cu be , s'd k"-: '_ba k ©Ju| ieHiramine,2015"l “'5 C r F E. “ T“ “'5. e. ““. ... .e 'e I: -.n<>r er came from Queers beescrc , -.'c'": :es b». '<. :Jsa -rd -. -‘Isemar, Auk.
  12. 12. Listen Pray » Empathize ti Spend time together «:5 Make your home a sanctuary at Block people 9 Find new groups Develop character - - - t ‘tr-eo'ig "a' ccrcept of these sc-cia roles = Z:I_eer bee, sidekick, barker, nxarrabe. target? © Jul le H lramlne’ came from Quee’? Beescfic 'c. ”.": ':-:5 b, Rosa rd ‘: ‘.'iserr. a”. 2CC= '9_

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