Empowerment of a High Achiever - Stockholm, September 2011


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A lecture on how to boost your performance through insights in self confidence and self esteem.

From Self Confidence to Self Esteem - Empowerment of a High Achiever

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Empowerment of a High Achiever - Stockholm, September 2011

  1. 1. It’s business time<br />
  2. 2. TERMS<br />Performance<br />High potential<br />Buddy<br />Selfconfidence<br />Selfesteem<br />Achivements<br />WHY<br />Goals<br />How / when<br />Learning journal<br />High achiever<br />
  3. 3. Individual performance; a critical success factor<br />Motivational messages include:<br />Be Prepared <br />Details Matter <br />Stay Calm <br />Have Fun <br />Give It Your All <br />Improve Constantly <br />Celebrate Success <br />Motivational messages include:<br />No One Wins Alone <br />Be Confident <br />Support Your Team <br />Focus On The Goal <br />Communicate <br />Synchronize<br />Quitting is never an option <br />"I think the day that I stop having those goals of<br /> continually improving, then that's the day I better stop."<br />
  4. 4. From Self Confidence to self esteem….empowerment of a high achiever<br />4<br />friisnaes.com - performancemaster.com<br />
  5. 5. From self confidence to self esteem( Fraselvtillidtilselvværd )<br />friisnaes.com - performancemaster.com<br />
  6. 6. 6<br />Talent coach<br />Leadership coach<br />Salesman and marketeer<br />44<br />Married<br />2 boys<br />Passions<br /><ul><li>Personal development
  7. 7. Travelling
  8. 8. Hockey</li></ul>Thomas Friisnæs<br />friisnaes.com - performancemaster.com<br />
  9. 9. ACHIEVED<br />Previousresults<br />Goals and <br />WHY<br />Actions<br />How/when<br />NOTES<br />Commitments<br />Notes<br />MENTAL CONTRACT<br />Learning journal<br />friisnaes.com - performancemaster.com<br />
  10. 10. High achievers<br />Primary strength is self confidence<br />Performance driven by self confidence<br />Highest wish: more performance<br />Self confidence is fragile<br />Self confidence is grounded in self esteem<br />8<br />But whatarethese terms?<br />friisnaes.com - performancemaster.com<br />
  11. 11. Clip from ”Whowants to be a millionaire”<br />What is this?Is thisselfconfidence?<br />friisnaes.com - performancemaster.com<br />
  12. 12. 10<br />Means to perform<br />WHY<br />Burning<br />platforms<br />True drivers<br />Clear goals<br />SOLID<br />Selfconfidence<br />Overview–priority–focus - decisiveness<br />friisnaes.com - performancemaster.com<br />
  13. 13. Exercise<br />What have you achieved the past 5 years?<br />Looking back to September 20th 2006 and till NOW<br />Top 10<br />Positive<br />Professional Personal<br />15 minutes<br />10 minutes sharing<br />11<br />ACHIEVED<br />friisnaes.com - performancemaster.com<br />
  14. 14. SelfesteemSelfconfidence<br />What I am<br />What I do<br />Your merits<br />Dine ”bilkort”<br />Results<br />Position<br />Education<br />Fitness<br />House<br />Friends<br />Car<br />Seminars<br />Clothes<br />Customers<br />Jewelry<br />Gadgets<br />Watches<br />Purses, bags<br />Network<br />Shoes<br />Restaurants<br />Travels<br />Maturing<br />friisnaes.com - performancemaster.com<br />
  15. 15. American Psycho<br />friisnaes.com - performancemaster.com<br />
  16. 16. SelfesteemSelfconfidence<br />Underlying<br />Goal (surface)<br />Externalrecognition<br />Internalrecognition<br />BEINGS<br />DOINGS<br />Your merits<br />Dine ”bilkort”<br />Being in the performance<br />Beyourself<br />Break yourcomfortzone<br />(and develop)<br />Stay in yourcomfortzone<br />Accepts thatwe do everythingwe<br />can, with the resourceswe have<br />Must beperfect<br />Wants to correct the world<br />Accepts that the world is perfect<br />Knowbest<br />Knowsthat I candevelop<br />Time for reflection<br />Alwayson the move<br />Constantlytowards new goals<br />Present in the now<br />Definesowndreams<br />Pursueothersdreams<br />Maturing<br />friisnaes.com - performancemaster.com<br />
  17. 17. Self esteem – to take it to next level<br />What I can do anything about – I do!<br />What I can not do anything about – I accept!<br />Without your own dreams, you accept to become a resource for others – those who have found and live their dreams<br />15<br />Insights in reactionpatterns<br />Releasing full potential<br />Findingnessesary courage to leave comfortzone<br />Insights in internal preventions<br />friisnaes.com - performancemaster.com<br />
  18. 18. Selfesteemexercises - I<br /><ul><li>Don’t act to pleaseothers
  19. 19. Don’tjudgeothers
  20. 20. Show courage - Break yourcomfort zone, playwithout limits
  21. 21. Enjoyyourowncompany
  22. 22. Admitthatyou’re vulnerable
  23. 23. Makeyourownpersonal mental contract -
  24. 24. Set yourgoals– and rewardyourself
  25. 25. Acceptyour present situation (and moveon)
  26. 26. Acceptyourpast - yourweaknesses– and focusonyourstrengths–NOTES FROM YESTERDAY
  27. 27. Don’tbetooserious, everyonecanmake a mistake
  28. 28. Loveyourself–you’reunique
  29. 29. Praiseyourselfwhenyousucceed–HOW CAN YOU DO IT?
  30. 30. Visualizeyoursuccess–rolemodelling</li></ul>friisnaes.com - performancemaster.com<br />
  31. 31. Selfesteemexercises - II<br /><ul><li>Focusonyourqualities, take a strength test
  32. 32. Strengthen the faith in yourself
  33. 33. Sayno–move from respect to selfrespect
  34. 34. Practiceyourability to accept
  35. 35. Take chances – it is OK to makemistakes
  36. 36. Practiceyourselfpep-talk
  37. 37. Learn to recognize at berecognized (for whatyouare, not whatyou do)
  38. 38. Meetotherswith a smile, a firm handshake and look the intotheireyes
  39. 39. Showgratitude and appreciation, whenyou’rerecognized
  40. 40. Don’t brag
  41. 41. Don’tfocusonprobems and negativity in yourconversations. Think positive thoughts
  42. 42. Seemistakes as a tool to improve and learn
  43. 43. Respond to pressure by increasingyouractivitylevel
  44. 44. Say it whenyoudisagree</li></ul>friisnaes.com - performancemaster.com<br />
  45. 45. Exercise<br />What do YOU dream about doing within the next 5 years?<br />From today and untill September 20th 2016<br />Top 5 personal - private<br />Top 5 professional – to share<br />And WHY –whatwill it give YOU and PHILIPS<br />(finding the underlyingreasons and true motivation)<br />Write it down<br />20 minutes<br />20 minutes sharing<br />18<br />INCLUDING FOLLOWING 2 Q’s<br /><ul><li>What canthis organisation and yourdirectreport do for you?
  46. 46. Howcanyour talent optimizethis organisation?
  47. 47. Shareabovewithyourbuddy and directreport</li></ul>GOALS<br />friisnaes.com - performancemaster.com<br />
  48. 48. SelfesteemSelfconfidence<br />BEINGS<br />DOINGS<br />USE insight and consciouness/awareness<br />To take it to the nextlevel<br />OBTAIN insight and consciouness/awareness<br />friisnaes.com - performancemaster.com<br />
  49. 49. Exercise<br />WhatwillYOU do TODAY<br />to getone step closer to each of yourgoals? <br />WhatwillYOU do THIS WEEK<br />to get the next step closer to each of yourgoals? <br />Specific<br />Measurable<br />Attractive<br />Realistic<br />Timeframe<br />20<br />HOW/WHEN<br />15 minutes<br />10 minutessharing<br />friisnaes.com - performancemaster.com<br />
  50. 50. More on motivation<br />Dan Pink – motivation in anotherperspektive<br />ted.com–approx. 19 minutes<br />RSA Animate<br />youtube.com– RSA Animate motivation<br />10minutecartoon<br />friisnaes.com - performancemaster.com<br />
  51. 51. ”The Path”<br />Going from<br />High Achiever<br />to<br />High Potential<br />to<br />Top Potential<br />High achieverHigh potentialTop potential<br />HiAc–HiPo - ToPo<br />Philips<br />Going from<br />Performer<br />to<br />Grade 70-80-90<br />to<br />EXE L1-L2<br />friisnaes.com - performancemaster.com<br />
  52. 52. 23<br />Build your self confidence on a basis of self esteem<br />Slingshot / boost your self confidence<br />Perform even more<br />Find insight<br />Become conscious<br />Use consciousness<br />Find the courage to break out of your comfort zone<br />Concluding<br />friisnaes.com - performancemaster.com<br />
  53. 53. Buddy Principle<br />Sparring and coaching will bring individualperformance<br />up to a higherlevel–useyourbuddy for mutualcommitment and follow up<br />PHILIPS coaching BUDDY teams willbe:<br />X and Y X and Y X and Y<br />X and Y X and Y X and Y<br />X and Y X and Y X and Y<br />X and Y X and Y X and Y<br />X and Y X and Y X and Y<br />X and Y X and Y X and Y<br />
  54. 54. Individual performance; a critical success factor<br />Based upon today's discussion please imagine three changes in your own behavior that could improve performance of your colleagues and/or direct reports<br />Discuss them with your new buddy and report short back to the group<br />Don’t ask what your company can do for you, <br />but what YOU can do for your company<br />
  55. 55. You and me<br />I willfollow up individuallyon:<br />Todaysgoals, hows and whens and first (immediate actions)<br />Mail and phone<br />Follow up and through<br />HOW/WHEN<br />CONTACT<br />You and your BUDDY<br />TODAY – Right now: Enablefixed meetings withyour new buddy – suggestion; in the beginningonce a week<br />friisnaes.com - performancemaster.com<br />
  56. 56. Performance improvements Mathematic proven<br />What makes 100% in life?<br />K-N-O-W-L-E-D-G-E <br />11+14+15+23+12+5+4+7+5 = 96%<br />H-A-R-D- W-O-R-K <br />8+1+18+23+15+18+11=98%<br />A-T-T-I-T-U-D-E<br />1+20+20+9+21+4+5 = 100%<br />B-U-L-L-S-H-I-T<br />21+12+12+19+8+9+20 = 103%<br />A-S-S-K-I-S-S-I-N-G<br />1+19+19+11+9+19+19+9+14+7 = 118%<br />BUT<br />AND<br />
  57. 57. 28<br />friisnaes.com - performancemaster.com<br />Questions? Comments?<br />CONTACT<br />
  58. 58. Selfconfidentorplain arrogant – find yourbalance<br />Selfconfidence<br /><ul><li>Non namedroppers
  59. 59. Keeps the eyecontact
  60. 60. Is thereon time
  61. 61. Alwayslistening
  62. 62. Admitsflaws
  63. 63. Noneed to brag</li></ul>Arrogance<br /><ul><li>Name-droppers
  64. 64. Eyeflashers
  65. 65. Late for meetings
  66. 66. Interrupts
  67. 67. Neverwrong
  68. 68. Beenthere– done that</li></ul>friisnaes.com - performancemaster.com<br />