How the families we are from help to form the families we becomePAINTING A NEW FAMILYPORTRAIT
Where Does One’s current family come from?•The above question is reallywhat I asked myself whenthinking about this project.•The goals of the project arerelatively simple: 1. To examine the extent to which our Joseph Tuttle current family shows remnants of our families of origin Family Family 2. To discuss the influence our families of origin have had on our current families 3. To postulate on how these influences may effect our future family and eventually families generations removed from ours. Our Current family
My Current FamilyRight now, what I would describe as my current family exists as really only my wife, Bethany and I. I say this because we do not interact with members of our extended families on a daily basis such that most of our family communication occurs in a dyadic setting between her and I.
My Current Family Bethany and I are both 30ish, living and working in Portland. With 3 cats, and a couple reptiles; the house is already a little crowded. Soon it will be even moreso…
Our Future Family Come June of 2012, we are going to welcome a new little nugget to our growing family. It is our hope that the family he or she is brought up in both reflects and expands on our current family and our respective families of origin.
FAMILIES OF ORIGIN“refers to the family or families in which a person is raised(11)”.
The Joseph Family My wife comes from a traditional two parent biological family. Socio-economically they would be considered upper middle class with a nice house in suburbia and a yard. Culturally they are a mix of Irish and Lebanese heritages.
The Tuttle FamilyMy family is a step family and also a multigenerational family as my grandmother lives with my father and stepmother. Living in an apartment and having no automobile they would be considered lower middle class by economic standards.Ours is an “old school” Franco- American family, my Mamere (Grandmother)was unable to speak English into well into her teen years
RITUALS Family rituals include, “a voluntary, recurring patterned communication event whose jointly enacted performance by family members pays homage to what they regard as sacred, thereby producing and reproducing a family’s identity and its web of social relations(114)
Upta Camp and Doubling DownMy wife has told me many stories of her family’s annual camping trips and the joys of answering mother nature’s call in the midst of the mother nature herself. My family enjoys a family game night(mostly held during holidays now) where we sit at the kitchen table with a deck of cards and become totally absent from the television or any other electronic devices.
WHY IS IT IMPORTANT FORFAMILIES TO ENGAGE INRITUALS? The purpose of engaging in rituals in many fold, they: •Contribute significantly to the establishment and preservation of a familys identity • Serve central ongoing maintenance and relational functions •Help family members make sense of their lives(113,114).
My current family’s ritualsMy wife and I have tried our best to adoptsome of the rituals of our families of originto our own lives. Besides simply investingin the relational currency of spending timetogether it also helps us see each otheroutside of the context of everydaymundaneness and also harbors theoccasional friendly competition.
Humor“Through humor, you can soften some of the worst blows that life delivers. And once you find laughter, no matter how painful your situation might be, you can survive it.”-Bill Cosby
Importance of humor in ourfamilies of origin Humor has been an important part in both of our families of origin. It seems to facilitate creation of communication processes as humor is often an accepted and welcomed change of pace. Not too sure this one needs a caption at all!
My family of origin as aprotective family I would tend to classify my family of origin as being classified as a protective one on the Fitzpatrick and Ritchie grid(173). “Protective families rank low on the use of a conversational approach and high on conformity dimensions(173)”
Power in My Family of Origin My grandmother is the These orchestrators matriarch of my family of “delegate unimportant origin. She is the and time-consuming ultimate orchestrator of decisions to the partner power(think Emperor or older child(My dad), Palpatine from star who derives wars). implementation power by carrying out these decisions(184)”
Power in my Current Family My wife and I opt for a more democratic existence, an authority type that is syncratic. “A syncratic relationship, characterized by much shared authority and joint decision making, implies that each partner has a strong say in all important areas(185)”.
Finally…My attempt here was to not only paint a picture of a family, but to try and show how such portraits are made. Our current families can best be describe as a hodgepodge of the best and not so best traits of our family’s of origin.By looking at our origin families; we can better grasp onto how we see our current families and further how we wish our current families to be.
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