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Dealing with Harassment


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Dealing with Harassment

  1. 1. Dealing with Harassment Presentation for the Concordia University Intramural Hockey Referees 2004 Season By Lior Doron M.Sc.
  2. 2. Agenda <ul><li>Introduction </li></ul><ul><li>Conflict Avoidance = Better Communication </li></ul><ul><li>When things go wrong </li></ul><ul><li> Ideal Responses </li></ul><ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Mental </li></ul></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Physical (Poses) </li></ul></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Getting Mentally Tough </li></ul></ul></ul></ul><ul><li>Q & A </li></ul>
  3. 3. Sports Psychology <ul><li>Create, recreate and maintain peak performance </li></ul><ul><li>Good performances and make better </li></ul><ul><li>Optimize thinking so that performance is enhanced </li></ul>
  4. 4. Communication <ul><li>One of the best way to avoid conflict in to work on your COMMUNICATION skills. </li></ul><ul><li>When can you work on this? </li></ul><ul><li>Use your judgment </li></ul>Communication Before During After
  5. 5. Communicating – Prior to the Game <ul><li>Upon Arriving to the Rink </li></ul><ul><li>1) Be professional in your dialogue </li></ul><ul><li>2) Look (somewhat) professional </li></ul><ul><li>3) Be on time (ideally 15 min before) </li></ul><ul><li>Pre-game warm - up </li></ul><ul><li>a) Meeting with captain? </li></ul><ul><li>b) Dropping the puck </li></ul>
  6. 6. Communicating – During the Game <ul><li>1) Use your voice </li></ul><ul><li>2) Verbal Cues – Listen to them </li></ul><ul><li>3) Penalty Procedures – Avoid path of </li></ul><ul><li>player </li></ul>
  7. 7. Hockey Rink Diagram <ul><li>  </li></ul>
  8. 8. Communicating – During the Game <ul><li>Dealing with “the FAN” </li></ul><ul><li>Avoid YOU and replace with I </li></ul><ul><li>I noticed that… </li></ul><ul><li>I hear your frustration but… </li></ul><ul><li>I realize that… </li></ul>
  9. 9. Communicating – After the Game <ul><li>Talk with players near referee circle </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Allows exchange of ideas rather than </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>us vs. them notion </li></ul></ul><ul><li>Talk with your partner </li></ul><ul><li>Communicate with myself, other referees, other tools </li></ul>
  10. 10. Communicating Your Image <ul><li>Realize that you are constantly being watched  (sounds scary) </li></ul><ul><li>The image you portray has an impact on the way players talk to you </li></ul><ul><li>Then, it affects the way players may talk to other referees </li></ul>
  11. 11. Friendly or Foe? <ul><li>Receptive? </li></ul><ul><li>Listening? </li></ul><ul><li>Good Communication? </li></ul><ul><li>Say “that’s enough”… afterwards onus on player </li></ul>
  12. 12. Friendly or Foe? <ul><li>In control (emotions) </li></ul><ul><li>Calm, cool collective </li></ul><ul><li>Use of hands (open vs. closed palm, pointing) </li></ul>
  13. 13. Friendly or Foe <ul><li>Eye contact, lacks confidence </li></ul><ul><li>One person at a time (especially with many penalties) </li></ul><ul><li>Sure of explanation, clear, concise, receptive </li></ul>
  14. 14. Friendly or LAZY?!? <ul><li>What does this communicate? </li></ul>
  15. 15. In Adversity <ul><li>Communicate in a calm, cool collective way </li></ul><ul><li>Think carefully of your words (I vs. You) </li></ul><ul><li>Be sensitive to your expressions, gestures and your poses  </li></ul><ul><li>Use your judgment </li></ul>
  16. 16. Mental Toughness <ul><li>Reaction after 1, 2 or 3 abusive games </li></ul><ul><li>Interpreting stress (yell at Jersey) </li></ul><ul><li>Not taking things personally </li></ul><ul><li>Focus on things that are in your control </li></ul>
  17. 17. Gaining Mental Toughness Readings Me Significant Other Experience Insulation Partner 20 Other Referees You
  18. 18. Abusive Games Procedure <ul><li>Question yourself & your abilities </li></ul><ul><li>Referee world (we do not win) </li></ul><ul><li>Evaluate your own performance </li></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Positioning on goals </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Enjoyment of game (notice a good pass, break-out etc.) </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Etc. </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><li>What do you do? </li></ul>
  19. 19. Comebacks – Responding to Abuse <ul><li>Ignoring, penalizing and responding </li></ul><ul><li>You missed a call Ref! </li></ul><ul><ul><li>I didn’t see it but I’ll try and look for the next one </li></ul></ul><ul><li>There are two teams out there! </li></ul><ul><li>- Yes, but your team is playing more aggressive </li></ul><ul><li>Is the player suspended? </li></ul><ul><li>- I do not know – speak to Mike </li></ul><ul><li>Other?!? </li></ul>
  20. 20. Questions? <ul><li>Questions related to dealing with harassment or other sports psychology issues? </li></ul><ul><li>Contact information </li></ul><ul><li>Lior Doron </li></ul><ul><li>Your Mental Skills Coach </li></ul><ul><li> </li></ul><ul><li>[email_address] </li></ul>