Caring Enough to Confront Matthew 18:1-17
Goal: Unity of mind and heart on matters of importance
Goal: No one ever leaves Red Oak because of, or with, an  unresolved relationship issue.
Goal: No divorces.  Zero.  Ever.
Goal: Every member of Red Oak does everything within his/her ability to live at peace with everyone (Romans 12:18)
<ul><li>Table Talk </li></ul><ul><li>What are some bad things she could have done? </li></ul><ul><li>What are some good op...
<ul><li>The Right Attitude </li></ul>
<ul><li>The Right Attitude </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Humility </li></ul></ul>
<ul><li>The Right Attitude </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Humility </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Concern for Others </li></ul></ul>
<ul><li>The Right Attitude </li></ul><ul><li>The Right Approach </li></ul>
<ul><li>II. The Right Approach </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Speak the truth in love </li></ul></ul>
<ul><ul><li>Speak the truth in love </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>“… speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in every w...
<ul><li>II. The Right Approach </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Speak the truth in love </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Speak grace, not l...
<ul><ul><li>Speak grace, not law </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>“… Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only su...
<ul><li>II. The Right Approach </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Speak the truth in love </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Speak grace, not l...
<ul><ul><li>Speak less, listen more </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>“… Let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow t...
<ul><li>II. The Right Approach </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Speak the truth in love </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Speak grace, not l...
<ul><ul><li>Speak with God’s wisdom </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>“ If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives ge...
<ul><li>The Right Attitude </li></ul><ul><li>The Right Approach </li></ul><ul><li>The Right Outcome </li></ul>
“ My brothers, if one of you should wander from the truth and someone should bring him back, remember this: Whoever turns ...
<ul><li>The Right Attitude </li></ul><ul><li>The Right Approach </li></ul><ul><li>The Right Outcome </li></ul><ul><li>The ...
<ul><li>The Right Attitude </li></ul><ul><li>The Right Approach </li></ul><ul><li>The Right Outcome </li></ul><ul><li>The ...
Table Talk <ul><li>Talk about differences between “caring confrontation” and confrontation where love isn’t obvious.  How ...
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20080518 Caring Enough To Confront

  1. 1. Caring Enough to Confront Matthew 18:1-17
  2. 2. Goal: Unity of mind and heart on matters of importance
  3. 3. Goal: No one ever leaves Red Oak because of, or with, an unresolved relationship issue.
  4. 4. Goal: No divorces. Zero. Ever.
  5. 5. Goal: Every member of Red Oak does everything within his/her ability to live at peace with everyone (Romans 12:18)
  6. 6. <ul><li>Table Talk </li></ul><ul><li>What are some bad things she could have done? </li></ul><ul><li>What are some good options? </li></ul>
  7. 7. <ul><li>The Right Attitude </li></ul>
  8. 8. <ul><li>The Right Attitude </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Humility </li></ul></ul>
  9. 9. <ul><li>The Right Attitude </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Humility </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Concern for Others </li></ul></ul>
  10. 10. <ul><li>The Right Attitude </li></ul><ul><li>The Right Approach </li></ul>
  11. 11. <ul><li>II. The Right Approach </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Speak the truth in love </li></ul></ul>
  12. 12. <ul><ul><li>Speak the truth in love </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>“… speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in every way into him who is the head, into Christ …” </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Ephesians 4:15 </li></ul></ul>
  13. 13. <ul><li>II. The Right Approach </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Speak the truth in love </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Speak grace, not law </li></ul></ul>
  14. 14. <ul><ul><li>Speak grace, not law </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>“… Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear. ” </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Ephesians 4:29 </li></ul></ul>
  15. 15. <ul><li>II. The Right Approach </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Speak the truth in love </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Speak grace, not law </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Speak less, listen more </li></ul></ul>
  16. 16. <ul><ul><li>Speak less, listen more </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>“… Let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger . ” </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>James 1:19 </li></ul></ul>
  17. 17. <ul><li>II. The Right Approach </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Speak the truth in love </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Speak grace, not law </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Speak less, listen more </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Speak with God’s wisdom </li></ul></ul>
  18. 18. <ul><ul><li>Speak with God’s wisdom </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>“ If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him. ” </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>James 1:5 </li></ul></ul>
  19. 19. <ul><li>The Right Attitude </li></ul><ul><li>The Right Approach </li></ul><ul><li>The Right Outcome </li></ul>
  20. 20. “ My brothers, if one of you should wander from the truth and someone should bring him back, remember this: Whoever turns a sinner from the error of his way will save him from death and cover over a multitude of sins”. James 5:19-20
  21. 21. <ul><li>The Right Attitude </li></ul><ul><li>The Right Approach </li></ul><ul><li>The Right Outcome </li></ul><ul><li>The Right Determination </li></ul>
  22. 22. <ul><li>The Right Attitude </li></ul><ul><li>The Right Approach </li></ul><ul><li>The Right Outcome </li></ul><ul><li>The Right Determination </li></ul><ul><li>The Right Response </li></ul>
  23. 23. Table Talk <ul><li>Talk about differences between “caring confrontation” and confrontation where love isn’t obvious. How do you feel and respond differently to confrontation when you know the other person has a genuine love and concern for you? Do you think that caring confrontation is more effective than “uncaring” confrontation? Why? </li></ul><ul><li>Which of the four Scriptural instructions about how to approach another person do you personally find most difficult, and why? How might you overcome that problem? </li></ul>
  24. 24. Points to Ponder

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