Diets - Handling Failure


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Diets - Handling Failure

  1. 1. ==== ====Get more information here: ====How many diets have you "failed" at?If youre like most of us, more than one. Maybe many more than one.But, its not if you fail or how many times you fail that counts.Its how you handle failure that matters in the long run.The Same CoinFailure and success are two sides of the same coin.Think of just about everything in life. You almost never have success without failure.You learned to walk by falling down 100s if not 1,000s of times. But you never felt like a failureand were never labelled as a failure.Mom and Dad kept encouraging you and you kept getting up and trying repeatedly until you got itright.You learned to read by messing up your alphabet enough times to finally get it right. By messingup writing out the letters till you got them right. By misspelling and misreading the words until yougot them right. The mistakes were plentiful. But you were never a failure - you were just learning.Same with riding a bike, driving a car, playing a sport, dating, for gosh sakes. Choosing a careeror a mate, perhaps.Life is a trial and error process where failure and success are two sides of the same coin.Whats Different About Dieting?In some ways dieting is the same and in some ways its different from most other things.Its the same because failure and success should go hand in hand - 2 sides of the same coin.Its different because, lets face it, you dont really want to diet in the first place. And you probablyhave negative thoughts and feelings about dieting.Everyone wants to walk, read, drive a car, and have a great career and a great mate. No one
  2. 2. wants to diet."Dieting" connotations are negative.And so, when you fail or slip from your diet, since you start the diet with negative thoughts andfeelings in the first place - conscious or subconscious - you tend to blow those failures out ofproportion looking for an excuse - conscious or subconscious - to quit.And when you do quit your diet, you inevitably think of yourself as a failure, get down on yourself,and take a blow to your ego, self-confidence, and self-esteem.After a while the pain of that failure goes away.Thats when youre ready to try the next popular diet that comes along. Recent statistics indicatethat dieters "try" an average of 4 new diets per year.This is where the really big difference about dieting lies. This is the problem.You dont learn how to diet any better from your past mistakes. Youll approach and go on yournext diet exactly the same way you went on your last failed diet. And the one before that and theone before that.Sure, you change diets. You change from low-fat to high protein to low carbs to heart healthy andon and on.But you dont change how you go about dieting.Its an interesting phenomenon. You learned to walk by falling down lots of times and each timeyou fell you learned something from the fall and were a bit better at walking the next time.But as many times as you fall down at dieting and get up and give it another try, you dont get anybetter at it the next time. Or the next.Although every failure in life provides valuable feedback for our minds and bodies to learn to makechanges and give us tougher mental skills for the next try, it doesnt seem to work in dieting.Why Failure Doesnt Work In DietingThere are several reasons why failure at dieting doesnt work to help you learn to diet better thenext time.You would never give up learning to walk, read, drive a car, etc. You would never voluntarily "quit"trying those things, and so you never gave yourself the opportunity to be a "failure" at them. Younever took a blow to your ego, self-esteem, and self-confidence over them. You were absolutelydetermined to get them right, failure or quitting was never an option, and so you had to learn byyour mistakes.You see those other life events as the ends. Dieting is never an end...its the means to the
  3. 3. its entirely different. You allow yourself to give up on "this" diet knowing theres always going to beanother one around the corner. The end is...well...whatever it is for you: looking and feeling leanand sexy; getting the job youve been longing for; regaining your pride and self-confidence;wearing a bathing suit or swim trunks without embarrassment; playing with your kids withoutgetting winded; impressing your friends at your high school reunion; long-term nameit. Besides, if you quit or fail at dieting, you can (and do) always blame the diet. "Oh, that dietdoesnt work or didnt work for me." But you cant blame the car if you keep failing your driverstest.Youve never learned how to diet correctly - using all of the natural strengths you have that canhelp you diet successfully. You were encouraged and taught how to walk and read and all theother things weve mentioned. But no one has ever taught you your personal Dieting CompatibilityStyle™ so you end up taking on a difficult task (dieting) without the knowledge, skill, andsupport needed to do it right.Putting It All TogetherFailure is a teacher. It is nothing more than a teacher.In most areas of life youre able to use every failure as a learning step in the process of achievingyour goals. Failure teaches you and toughens you.But since dieting is never your goal or end game - its only the means to the end - you are actuallynever deeply motivated to diet.You probably confuse dieting with your real goal - that sexy body, for example - but at some levelyou know its not.So its easier to give up the diet than other things in life and yet, when you do quit another diet,you still suffer and feel the pain of failure without getting the valuable learning experience from it.Youre left beating yourself up for another diet failure while still longing for your sexy body andbeing no better prepared for the next diet than you were for the last one.There are scientifically based ways to diet correctly - regardless of the diet you choose - usingyour natural strengths and approaching your diet emphasizing those strengths and bending yourapproach to your diet to use those strengths to your advantage.A first step is to find out what your personal Dieting Compatibility Style(tm) is and how to use it.Although you think dieting should be intuitive and all the ads make you believe its going to beeasy this time, your experience and the experience of about 75 Million American adults who areon diets right now and are going to fail at them proves over and over again that its neither intuitivenor easy.Dieting effectively is a skill that you need to learn and apply in order to be successful at it. Its not adifficult skill to learn. But successful dieting without the dieting skill is virtually impossible - as mostof us have proven time and time again.
  4. 4. Success and failure are 2 sides of the same coin.Its time to put dieting in the right perspective, learn from your past mistakes, and use theknowledge to make your next diet your last diet.It can be as easy as walking or driving your car if you do it right.Copyright 2011 - Dexter Godbey - All rights ReservedClick here for instant access to a FREE, Unique, Personalized, Online Temperament And DietingCompatibility Style™ Analysis and Profile: It takes less than 2minutes to discover your personal dieting style.Uncover your unique Dieting Compatibility Style™. Learn how use your Dieting Strengthswith any diet of your choice to help make your next diet easier and more successful than everbefore - guaranteed - and make your next diet your last diet. http://www.DietingLaws.comArticle Source: ====Get more information here: ====