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Love in the Age of Facebook

  1. 1. Love in theAge ofFacebookBy Eveline ToddPhoto by mkh marketing
  2. 2. Before Facebook and other social media,dating meant asking for someone’sphone numberand getting toknow eachotherin personPhoto by JD Hancock
  3. 3. Generally,only close friendsand familyknew about acouple’srelationshipPhoto by TheAlieness
  4. 4. Cutting off communication with anex-partner and his or her friends in real lifewas enough to move on from an endedrelationship Photo by you are your atman
  5. 5. If the ended relationship was a marriage,divorce lawyers often had todo a large amount of sleuthingand spying to uncoverevidenceofmisbehaviourPhoto by pasukaru76
  6. 6. However, now there isFacebook.Because Facebook hasreached the point of being“pretty much real life,”it has affected almost everystage of romantic relationshipsPhoto by Alessio85
  7. 7. Research has found that Facebookcan have bothpositiveandnegativeeffectsoncouplesPhoto by Nanagyei
  8. 8. For example, exploring a potentialpartner’s Facebookprofile can revealmutual likes andinterests, as well aspotential points ofdisagreement,and can helpremovesomeof theuncertaintyin datingPhoto by Red Flags
  9. 9. On the flip side, finding out everything abouta partner before actually getting to know themIn person takes away much of the intrigue andmystery that contribute to the excitement ofa new relationship.Photo by K. Sawyer Photography
  10. 10. Facebook offersa new challenge: to becomeor not to become Facebook OfficialPhoto by sebastien.barre
  11. 11. Where once there was the exchange ofclass rings, now there is the relationshipmilestone of changing one’sFacebook relationshipstatusto“in a relationship.”Photo by limetom
  12. 12. “Deciding to go FBO means laying youremotional cards on the table, face up.”– Tom Jacobs Photo by Ludie Cochrane
  13. 13. When both partners in a couple list themselvesas “in a relationship,” they are more likelyto still be together six months later, and mayexperience greaterrelationshipintimacyandsatisfactionoverall.Photo by catlovers
  14. 14. However, Facebook canalso be detrimentalto relationships.There is a great dealof potentiallyambiguous informationavailable that canlead to relationshipjealousy.Photo by Kikishua
  15. 15. The information available onFacebook can also make breaking upvery difficult. Facebook makes monitoring anex-partner’s activities temptingand easy, which research suggestsmay slow emotionalrecovery after a break up.Photo by woodleywonderoworks
  16. 16. Even when one does not wish totrack their ex, it can be hardto escape information aboutthem on social media.“People have somany online stringsthat bind them thatcutting one does notsever the relationship.There are always more.”– Liz PerlePhoto by mikemol
  17. 17. As well as affecting theemotional side of abreakup, Facebookand other socialmedia may affectthe legal sideas well.Photo by steakpinball
  18. 18. A survey released by the American Academy ofMatrimonial Lawyers in 2010 showed 81% of its1,600 members has usedsomething from socialmedia to support adivorce case in thepast five years.Photo by nikc.org
  19. 19. “Facebook has become an open book ofpeople’s lives ……..you can’t get better evidence than whatcomes from their own mouths or their owncomputers.” – Linda Lea M. VikenPhoto by Andalib
  20. 20. Viken’s comment on Facebook becoming anopen book of people’s lives rings true –real life dating, relationships, and breakupsare initiated through, maintained via,and affected by Facebook and other social media.Photo by Reeding Lessons
  21. 21. It remains to be seen whether Facebook’s impacton relationships will increase or decrease in thefuture. Whatever the future link between Facebookuse and relationships, Allison McCann hassome words of advice:“Don’t treat it anydifferently than youdo datingOUT THERE.Be normal, be cool,be nice.” Photo by Neal
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