Title pageChoosing a coach Sub Heading goes here… Are you interested in coaching but don’t know where to start? Interna7onal coach Danielle Marchant shares the top twelve myths that will stop you ge>ng started!
Life is becoming ever more complex. The more you achieve, the more you want, and the more you know is possible both at home and at work. Yet as the demands and rewards of life grow, it Title page becomes increasingly necessary to have strong support structures around you that enable you to ﬂourish. Those around you, your bosses, your peers, your family, and your friends are equally striving and surviving the modern era. Whilst they do their best to oﬀer advice and a listening ear, all too oKen they need this as well. More and more people are turning to professionals Danielle’s coaching skills are excep2onal, she does Sub Heading goes here… her work with such humanity that I can trust her to get the personal, individualised support that they need. As a result there are a myriad of mentors, with anything. counsellors, therapists and coaches oﬀering a huge range of services. I have been on an incredible journey and I would not have succeeded without her Making a decision can be overwhelming. In this support. short document I dispel the top twelve myths that may prevent you from ge>ng started with a coach. Jane Craig I hope that by reading this you will be informed and Custom Learning, Mars University feel conﬁdent to go out and choose a coach who can help you to thrive. Enjoy! Danielle x
As a board level execu7ve coach Danielle has worked with leaders in twenty diﬀerent countries, delivering large scale transforma7onal change programmes across mul7ple sectors. She was the MD of a successful interna7onal coaching company Title page in Asia where she lived for three years. Danielle’s style is warm and engaging with a challenging edge. Within the coaching rela7onship she creates a safe environment and builds trust easily. Her natural talent of understanding what makes you who you are allows Danielle to quickly build rapport and work with you at both a prac7cal and emo7onal level. Danielle will coach you beyond Danielle seems to have a 6th sense in her coaching which is very authen2c. Sub Heading goes here… the boundaries of your comfort zone, sensi7vely suppor7ng you to be daring. She will facilitate you to challenge and stretch yourself whilst connec7ng I came out with a far deeper resolu2on to my you to yourself more fully. enquiry than I expected, and felt more whole as a result of the understanding I gained. Through deep listening, powerful ques7oning and thoughSul challenge she will help you gain clarity of Helen Sanderson purpose and vision, and support you to follow the Design Director, Quiet Room Designs steps needed to get there.
It certainly is possible to work many things out by yourself and having a coach does not mean that your capability, intelligence or ability to work things out are in ques7on. AKer all it is very likely you “I should be able have reached this point in your life successfully without having a coach! Title page to work That said, the way humans are designed means it is impossible to see yourself en7rely. Whilst you will everything out see some aspects of yourself, or a new challenge or even a problem it is diﬃcult to achieve a 360 degree myself” view without help. Having a coach is like having a living mirror held up ~ Myth One ~ to you. The ques7ons your coach asks will allow Sub Heading goes here… you to generate greater insights than you could by yourself. Coaching by its design accelerates your ability to work things out by helping you see yourself and situa7ons more clearly. ~ Tip One~ Working with another person to explore what you cannot see is an insighSul process. It is also meant to be fun! When choosing your coach consider if they are someone who you would enjoy spending 7me with.
On the contrary! Sports people have been using coaches for years to enhance brilliant performance to enable them to be champions. “I must have a Whilst it is human nature to focus on weaknesses, Title pageproblem before I coaching does not have to be about “fault ﬁxing”. hire a coach” Coaching for peak performance is designed to help you understand what makes you shine and to leverage these strengths. ~ Myth Two ~ The star7ng point for coaching therefore does not have to be a problem or an issue, but can be exploring something you excel in and want to Sub Heading goes here… extend even further. ~ Tip Two ~ When choosing your coach discuss with them how they will support you to uncover and enhance your areas of strength.
You may have a nagging feeling about something, a vague sense that you want to explore, or a deﬁnite idea of something you wish to change. Whatever “I must know your star7ng point is OK! Title page what I want to Not everyone who starts a coaching rela7onship does so with the end in mind, or with a clear picture achieve before I of what they want to change. This is where your coach comes in! start” Your coach’s role is to help you understand the current landscape and in partnership with you explore your focus for your 7me together. OKen ~ Myth Three ~ not knowing and having a blank canvas is far more Sub Heading goes here… fun than being really clear at the start. I oKen coach people who are amazed at how diﬀerent the result was from the place they thought they were heading. ~ Tip Three ~ Stay curious and be relaxed with not knowing where you are going. Discuss with your coach the sense or feeling you have -‐ this will be enough for you to begin.
Living in this genera7on, in this 7me aﬀords you many great privileges. Your life is undoubtedly rich and full as a result of this. It is also likely that you “I don’t have time feel squeezed and oKen overwhelmed to ﬁt in your current commitments, desires and dreams. Title page for coaching” It is easy to think that coaching is just another thing to ﬁt in, and that you really don’t have the 7me to do it. In fact this mindset is not uncommon. What ~ Myth Four ~ gets missed is that coaching can help and support you to really connect you to your desires, help you focus on your goals and enable you to bring your dreams to reality. Sub Heading goes here… Viewed like that who wouldn’t want a coach! ~ Tip Four ~ When exploring coaching talk honestly to your coach about the 7me commitment that works for you. The structure of your coaching can be ﬂexible -‐ ask for what you want.
Sadly this is not always the case. Being qualiﬁed simply means that a person has done what is needed to fulﬁll certain criteria or standards. Whilst this can be useful it is not really what will make a “A good coach is great coach. I have recruited a hundred coaches around the Title page a qualified globe and there are two things I always want to know. The ﬁrst is what has been their journey to coach” become a coach. The second is what do they stand for. ~ Myth Five ~ What does this really mean? For me the journey is about their dedica7on and responsibility for their own personal growth and development. What have they done to support their emo7onal growth? Who Sub Heading goes here… is their coach or supervisor? What they stand for is about their purpose in life, their vision for themselves in the world and their connec7on to their values. I want to know who they are beyond their cer7ﬁca7on and so should you! ~ Tip Five~ In your chemistry mee7ng go beyond the qualiﬁca7on and explore what personal development has your coach completed. What supervision do they have, and what do they really stand for?
Vulnerability builds trust and trust creates peak performance. It is easy to see why again and again if you ask someone what the cri7cal element of their coaching rela7onship was they will say trust. “I must meet my You may be the kind of person who trusts easily; Title page alterna7vely you may be someone who believes coach in person trust is to be earned. Either way there is no ge>ng away from it, trust is crucial to successful coaching. to build trust” As a result I hear people worldwide say again and again that they must meet their coach in person. ~ Myth Six ~ Fundamentally this is not true. It is equally possible to build trust with a person on the telephone or via Skype. I have global clients in far ﬂung corners of the world who I never meet. One client worked Sub Heading goes here… with me for over two years before we met. Trust and rapport are essen7al and a masterful coach will be able to partner you to create safety through mul7ple mediums. ~ Tip Six ~ If you have found a coach in a diﬀerent geography to yours, don’t let this stop you have a remote chemistry mee7ng. Who knows your ins7nct could be leading you to just the right coach for you!
If you want to select a mentor then industry or role experience would be essen7al as a mentor will need to bring this to the rela7onship. In coaching where “A coach must you are partnering with another person to draw out new insights industry experience is not necessary. Title pagehave experience A coach’s role is to work with the individual on the in my industry” areas and topics of their coach. As such a coach needs to be ﬂexible, responsive and adaptable to whatever the client wants to discuss. That is their job! ~ Myth Seven ~ I believe people want to select coaches who have similar industry experience as it helps them believe Sub Heading goes here… that they are understood by their coach. A good coach will be able to understand you whatever their background or experience. ~ Tip Seven ~ Don’t be afraid to branch out when choosing a coach! Building a partnership where you bring two diﬀerent backgrounds and industries can lead to really exci7ng and innova7ve coaching conversa7ons.
Above all else I believe it is essen7al for you to choose a coach who you feel connected with. There are many types of coaches available, “I need to choose execu7ve coaches, life coaches, career coaches, business coaches, wri7ng coaches the list is endless. Title page When you are searching for a coach I would suggest the right type of you cast your net widely. Talk to friends who have had coaching, ask your peers about their coach” experiences and spend some 7me on Google. At this stage having a list of “right” criteria such as: similar industry background, lives in your town, is ~ Myth Eight ~ senior to you or younger than you, male, female is really restric7ng. Instead let your ins7ncts guide you and then set up several chemistry mee7ngs. Sub Heading goes here… You won’t know if you connect un7l you have spoken to them either on the phone, on Skype or met in person. ~ Tip Eight ~ Coaches are used to being in a “pool” when people are choosing a new coach to work with. Be open and let them know you are talking to several people. This will make it easier for you to tell them if they weren’t the coach you decided to work with.
Simply put coaching is a dialogue between two people. It isn’t any more complicated than that. Remember that your coach is a “living mirror” help “I need to you obtain a 360 degree view of yourself, a new challenge or a problem that you face. It is a Title pageunderstand the partnership between two people where the coach will use their experience to help you draw out science behind insights and new understanding. There isn’t a science behind the coaching process coaching first” although some coaches may draw upon diﬀerent methodologies such as Transac7onal Analysis, Neuro-‐Linguis7c Programme (NLP) or Cogni7ve ~ Myth Nine ~ Behavioural therapy (CBT) for instance, you won’t Sub Heading goes here… even no7ce that this is happening. For you the experience will be of a thought provoking, interes7ng, some7mes challenging conversa7on that stretches you to see and understand things diﬀerently. ~ Tip Nine ~ When choosing a new coach do ask them about their preferred methodology and what this means for the way in which you will work together.
As a coach myself I tend to steer clear of coaching people who are very close to me! Generally speaking your friends and family are not the best “My family and people to coach you. They hold views, stories and perspec7ves about you that will colour or cloud the Title page friends can way they respond to you. Addi7onally they may have an agenda (consciously or unconsciously) that coach me” can unduly inﬂuence their posi7on. Having a coach gives you a completely safe, conﬁden7al space where you are free to discuss the ~ Myth Ten ~ important things in your life in a focused way. Remember coaching is designed to draw out Sub Heading goes here… insights and help you understand yourself or a situa7on more clearly. Unless they are a coach (in which case I suggest you set clear boundaries about the coaching process) most of your friends and family are unlikely to have honed the skills required to do this gracefully! ~ Tip Ten~ For clarity and objec7ve perspec7ves ﬁnd a coach who is outside of your circle of friends and family.
This is a surprisingly big worry for a lot of people. In par7cular people who really want the coaching process to work and are afraid of le>ng their coach down or somehow failing with their coaching “I am experience. In my view (and I have worked with hundreds of Title pageun-coachable” people) no-‐one is uncoachable and that includes you. You may be afraid or unsure but you are not uncoachable. ~ Myth Eleven ~ It is a joint responsibility between you and your coach to build a partnership that enables the coaching process to be successful. Of course if you don’t turn up to your coaching sessions then you are going to be diﬃcult to coach. Sub Heading goes here… Apart from that all that is needed is to show up and hold a degree of curiousity and interest in your session. The rest will take care of itself. ~ Tip Eleven~ Give yourself and coaching a chance -‐ you might surprise yourself!
The American Society for Training and Development states that: “Coaching The probability of achieving a goal is: Title page doesn’t 10% if you hear an idea work” 40% if you decide you will do it 50% if you make a plan to do it 65% if you commit to someone else you will do it ~ Myth Twelve ~ 95% if you have a speciﬁc accountability Sub Heading goes here… appointment with the person you have commi9ed to. ~ Tip Twelve ~ Get a coach and enjoy the journey!
Danielle is an intui7ve coach and has been working with individuals, organisa7ons and coaches around the world for nearly twenty years. Her talent lies in helping you connect more deeply Title page with your life purpose. Danielle provides an oasis of calm in an ever increasingly fast-‐paced world. She oﬀers a place for you to be s7ll, to dream and to create. Danielle is passionate about helping you restore your rela7onship to yourself and others. She believes that coaching is a unique and in7mate journey that you take with yourself, the des7na7on Ive had many coaches over the years, both Sub Heading goes here… business and personal and I can say Danielle is unknown. one of the most professional, present, giving and She works using her intui7on, feelings and felt sense nurturing coaches Ive ever worked with. rather than goals, models and theories. She helps you to explore your inner world as you weave an Russell James in7mate pathway back to your deeper self. Owner, The Raw Chef