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The Counselor


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attitude, skills, characteristics of a counselor
HMC ay 2012-2013, 2nd semester
Guidance Counseling Class

The Counselor

  1. 1. attitudes  skills  characteristics habla21312
  2. 2. One of the vital components of counseling is the attitude of the counselor. Some attitudes, such as being closed to new experiences, can impede the counseling process.
  3. 3. The counselor attitudes of particular relevance to counseling fall into five categories: 1. Openness toward self 2. Openness toward clients 3. Openness toward colleagues 4. Openness toward supervisors 5. Openness toward counseling willingness to learn, willingness to try new things and to see alternatives. viewing then as individuals seeking assistance, as complex individuals who are not helpless, as partners in the process. viewing them as colleagues, not competitors, with experiences and ideas that are valuable. viewing them as colleagues with unique and relevant experiences. the counseling process is often a developing, evolving process wherein the client’s skills and resources are developed. The counselor does not solve the problem, but offers alternatives and teaches/facilitates the client’s problem-solving process.
  4. 4. Other attitude a counselor must possess: - Delighted attention (smiling) - Loving Eye contact (without staring) - Exquisite listening (lean forward with interest) - Viewing the counselee as whole, wise, intelligent, utterly capable, and divine
  5. 5. Skills for counseling are initially very similar to social skills. Counselors are usually interested in connection with others. Here are some ideas for social skills and how to express them which will be magnified in the counseling session.
  6. 6. - They smile and share their good mood with others. - They know how to "small talk" and don't find it offensive or demeaning to do so. - They ask the people they interact with about themselves, expressing interest in their life and interests. They know that people like to talk about themselves, and will typically appreciate the audience. They understand that it is inappropriate (and often frightening) for people to share too much too soon. Small talk is a way of sharing very little, but still expressing interest in another person. After a little small talk, people feel more comfortable, and (depending on the relationship and the situation) deeper subjects may be brought up.
  7. 7. - They use body language to communicate their interest: * They lean forward slightly rather than reclining backwards * They look at people when they talk to them, making eye contact frequently * Their arms and legs are open, rather than crossed and closed. * They do their best to remember the contents of conversations, and show people they remember when they meet again. They know that people are appreciative of being remembered. * They are polite. For example, they say, "Thank you" when someone makes them a compliment, and "I'm sorry", when they want to express concern or apologize.
  8. 8. * They make sure they are reasonably well groomed, so that people don't look at them and form a negative first impression. * They behave reasonably well, showing awareness that they are in a public place. For example, they don't pick their nose or scratch their buttocks. * They are willing to be vulnerable as becomes appropriate to the situations they find themselves in. They aren't closed people, but instead are willing to share themselves appropriately. They are sensitive to the possibility of oversharing (saying too much, too soon), and avoid doing that. - They use body language to communicate their interest:
  9. 9. According to Cormier and Cormier (1985), the most effective helper is one who has successfully achieved a balance of interpersonal and technical components. They list six characteristics of effective counselors
  10. 10. 1. Intellectually Competent 2. Energetic 3. Flexible 4. Supportive 5. Goodwill 6. Self-aware counsellors must have thorough knowledge of many theories as well as the desire and ability to learn Counseling is emotionally draining and physically demanding. Counselors must have the ability to be active in their sessions Effective counselors are not tied to one specific theory or set of methods. Instead, they adapt what they do to meet the needs of their clients the counsellor supports the client in making his or her own decisions, help engender hope and power and avoid trying to rescue the client the nature of good will encompasses such qualities as the counselor’s desire to work on behalf of the client in the constructive way that ethically promotes client independence this characteristic includes knowledge of one’s self including attitudes and feelings about self, and the ability to recognize how and what factors affect those attitudes and feelings.
  11. 11. Other characteristics: • Open to, and aware of, their own experiences • Aware of their own values and beliefs • Able to develop warm and deep relationship with others • Able to allow themselves be seen by others as they actually are • Able to accept personal responsibility for their own behaviour • Should have a realistic level of aspiration