Parenting- Chapter 17


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Parenting- Chapter 17

  1. 1. Chapter 17Parenting<br />Kimberly Elder<br />Women’s Health<br />
  2. 2. Today more than ever the choice to become a parent exists because of access to birth control, legal abortion and reproductive technology. <br />
  3. 3. Changing Times<br />Changing laws and social mores have led to greater acceptance of women who decide not to have children. As well as:<br />Single mothers<br />Same sex couples<br />Other nontraditional families<br />
  4. 4. Decisions….<br />The decision weather to have a child is influenced by:<br />Our Families…<br />Our Culture…<br />The society in which we live…<br />
  5. 5. Government Support<br />US Society presumes that motherhood is central to women’s identity and fulfillment, yet our government provides little concrete support for children and families. <br />The US unlike other industrialized countries has:<br />No paid family leave<br />No guaranteed health care<br />Little affordable high quality child care<br />
  6. 6. MEDIA <br />The media has created “Mommy War” stories. A competition of women who “choose” to be “full time” mothers (stay home) and mothers who “choose” paid employment (working mothers). <br />
  7. 7. Statistics <br />US Census reports in 2002 over 50% of women with infants and 72% of other mothers were in the work force.<br />Currently there are 10 million single mothers in the United States.<br />
  8. 8. The PLUS side<br />Children are engaging, inventive, interesting and funny.<br />Teach us as they grow and change. We change and grow with them.<br />Challenge and inspire us to make the world better.<br />Give us a way to be part of the continuity of life.<br />Tremendously moving and satisfying adventure. <br />
  9. 9. The NOT so PLUS side<br />Parenting involves exchanging spontaneity and relative control of everyday life for huge responsibility.<br />Complicated schedules, relative chaos.<br />May not enjoy the day to day reality of being with children.<br />Fear bringing up children in a troubled world.<br />Want to pursue dreams incompatible with child rearing.<br />More personal freedom, time, money, work, interests and passions. <br />
  10. 10. Questions to ask yourself….<br />How will children affect my relationship?<br />How will children affect my economic security?<br />Do I have a stable household?<br />Are there any family medical problems that could be passed on genetically?<br />Do I have parenting skills ? Am I eager to learn them?<br />How will I juggle work and child care?<br />Do I have adequate health care?<br />What would I do if my child developed disabilities?<br />What values would I encourage in my child?<br />What kind of community would I raise my child in?<br />Am I ready to prepare a child for the difficulties of life?<br />
  11. 11. Support Systems<br />Talk to your partner. What is your plan?<br /> Would someone be a stay at home parent?<br />Who would provide childcare?<br />How will you both balance work and parenting?<br />Evaluate other emotional support systems:<br />Friends Co-workers Church<br />Family Neighbors <br />
  12. 12. Common Challenges<br />1- Avoiding a conscious decision.<br />2- Letting your partner decide for you.<br />3- Thinking your partner will change.<br />4- Thinking it’s a decision between no children and two children.<br />5- Making the decision without knowing what children are really like.<br />6- Worrying that you won’t be a good parent. <br />
  13. 13. Dividing Your Time<br />One way to help make the decision is for you and your partner consider how your life would change. On a sheet of paper make 2 columns. Column one write down the amount of time you spend now, column two the amount of time you would spend after you have a child at:<br />Work<br />Recreation & Socializing<br />Hobbies<br />Relaxation (yoga/meditation)<br />Sports<br />Political Activities<br />Religious activities<br />Time alone with your partner<br />SLEEP<br />Are you willing to change your schedule in these and other ways?<br />
  14. 14. Now to become a mother…..<br />Become aware of fertility and chart your menstrual cycle. Take care of yourself as you try to conceive. Depending on your situation you may consider insemination to conceive.<br />Adoption<br />
  15. 15. Types of Adoptions<br />Kinship or relative adoption<br />Public adoption (state agency)<br />Private adoption (charity organization)<br />Independent adoption (Dr’s, Attorney’s)<br />Domestic adoptions (within the states)<br />International adoptions (foreign countries)<br />
  16. 16. What will you decide?<br />Will you become a parent?<br />