1.
LONELINESS CONNECTS US:
Young People’s Experience of
Loneliness and Friendship
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2.
One: Include youth co-research in the
growing conversations on youth loneliness
Two: Develop practical action to help
young people navigate loneliness
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3.
Morning: Explore the research to
develop new understandings of youth
loneliness
Afternoon: Develop practical action
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4.
Morning
• Clean Break Theatre performance
• Loneliness Connects Us: Janet Batsleer
(MMU) and Kurtis Angel (42nd Street)
• Youth led-discussions from loneliness
and connection projects
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5.
Afternoon
• Developing scenarios to reduce youth
loneliness
• Taken forward through:
• Policy event this evening
• Inform a theatre performance
• Developed by the Greater Manchester
Housing Association Youth Assembly
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6.
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7.
Listening and writing notes…
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8.
LONELINESS CONNECTS US:
Young People’s Experience of
Loneliness and Friendship
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9.
“Loneliness means something
different to everyone because
everyone experiences things
differently. But I don’t think
people should be afraid of
loneliness. All your emotions
are important... if you’re
lonely it means it you’re
missing out on something,
you need that social
connection.”
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10.
Creative and Collaborative Methods
• It’s an awkward subject
• Come at it by stealth
• Find ways of talking about it without naming and shaming the lonely
• Make a convivial space
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11.
Which is worse?
•1 in 3? •2 in 5?
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12.
A Message to the Nation
• Tell them that Youth Loneliness
exists.
• Tell them that we need to be
able to talk about it without
being ashamed of it.
• Tell them it’s a real thing that
really, really hurts. It’s painful.
• But it might not be the worst
thing and that it does not need
to go on for ever. It can come to
an end
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13.
Focus on being young
• Because it is not always there
• Because of the ‘first time’ nature of experiences
• Because of the ‘transitional moment’ and how it is understood
• ‘You can’t keep running to mummy and daddy’
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14.
Social Conditions of Loneliness
•Poverty
•Isolation
•Stigmatised and
Distant Places
•Socially Conservative
Communities
•The costs of aspiration
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15.
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16.
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17.
“Nobody’s thrown a brick
through the window yet”
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18.
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19.
The Experience of Loneliness
• Getting to 13
• I’m New Here
• Loss
• Violence, Abuse, Shame, Stigma
• Being Different
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20.
“My parents don’t know but my brother started
smoking last week, just trying to fit in. He doesn’t fit
in anywhere else. I know that he is frightened of
being on his own and it causes really bad anxiety so
smoking lets him be part of something. I suppose he
hopes if he smokes he won’t stand out, he won’t be
the one who always has his head phones on. So he
hangs around with smoking group, but I think he still
feels alone. I’m really worried about him”
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21.
“I arrived in Manchester when I was 14 from Afghanistan. This was
the first place I came to in the UK. At first I was happy with lots of
new friends in a new country. I played football in the park with my
friends. Then, after a couple of years with my foster family, when I
was aged 16, the PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) kicked in.
I started behaving strangely and badly and couldn’t trust anyone.
I had to leave my foster family and I live alone. I can’t watch
television. I’m frightened of seeing violent scenes. My mind goes
blank a lot and I can’t concentrate. I feel nothing. Because of this I
dropped out of college and the motor vehicle course I was doing. I
couldn’t cope with studying because I can’t concentrate. I have no
friends now. I have very little in the way of belongings and I have
no friends but I hang on to my life. My life is more to me than any
object. If this were not so, I would not be here. I am alone all the
time. I often feel very, very lonely. Sometimes I go to the park and
just sit or sleep outside as it less frightening for me.”#YouthLonelines @YouthLoneliness

22.
‘Is it better to be
without friends
and safe or with
friends and
vulnerable?’
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23.
MAN
UP!
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24.
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25.
Loneliness, Friendship and Connection
• Online Spaces
• Youth Clubs and other Clubs
• Peer Support
• Going Global
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26.
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28.
Hints about ways of being friends - some
guesses….
• Google translate
• Creativity
• Advocacy
• Recognising
• Being outside: parks and
open spaces
•Small and not so small
acts of everyday
connection
• Families
• He’s my pal….
• Avoiding the Support
Hub
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29.
Final thoughts
•Recognising the work
that stigma does
•The power of
abjection
•Moving through
loneliness to
connection
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30.
The peer’s
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31.
• The bridge

32.
The tour

33.
Film ‘Missing’

34.
Questions
• 5mins on table
• 15mins report back
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35.
Micro-talks
• Youth-led discussions on youth loneliness and connection
• Youth Loneliness Project
• Proud Trust
• Barnados
• Off the Record
• Clean Break
• 5mins from young person/ 15mins discussion
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36.
Exploring practical action
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37.
Phase One
25 minutes
Develop a scenario
(People + Spaces +
Action + Reaction)
Individual level
Phase Two
35 minutes
Link scenarios
together
Groups/ community
Phase Three
60 minutes
Possible directions
forward?
Future focused
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38.
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You tell someone you
feel lonely
They tell other
people what you
told them
?

39.
Linking scenarios
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40.
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• Develop a scenario for your table
(two at the most)
• What other people, spaces and
actions are possible or needed?
• However, what other reactions might
there be?
• Listen, ask questions, and explore
relationships.

41.
Listening and expanding scenarios
•2 people stay and explain the scenario.
•The rest move onto another table.
•Listen, learn, ask questions.
•Return and expand the scenario.
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42.
Phase Three: Possible directions
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49.
Open Space
• Propose or join a discussion
• Whoever comes is the right people
• Whatever happens is the only thing that could've
• When it starts is the right time
• When it's over, it's over
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