The good news? This study relied up self-report data, indicating that current college freshman, although perhaps struggling emotionally, are *aware* of their struggles.
Whereas cognitive intelligence is a TRAIT, emotional intelligence is a fluid and ever-developing STATE of being. A 14-year-old with an average IQ will become a 40-year-old with an average IQ. A 14-year-old with minimally developed social/emotional skills CAN become a 16-year-old with significantly better developed skills in these areas. For some people these skills seem to evolve naturally, without intention or significant effort. For others, hope for their development depends upon thoughtful, effortful experience. Why don’t we pay more attention to the development and status of the social-emotional traits, as opposed to those related to cognitive skill and ability?
A frequently cited explanation for the inability to take time for social-emotional teaching is the fast-paced, tech-focused nature of adolescence.
Not only are they distracted, but they are also becoming accustomed to a level of social-emotional disconnect. Habituation is a mixed blessing. At once it protects us against the effects of the stress of the world around us. But at the same time it negates the “shock-value” that things *should* have. Having become habituated to something, we no longer notice it. That is, we cease to be mindful of its presence on our daily lives.Relate also to: desensitization.
Did you ever notice that when things are important it’s best to pay attention to them?
Andrew Carnegie: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Andrew_Carnegie
What are the things that pull our focus, take our attention *away* from the things it should be on?
Not all “screens’ are created equal. In moderation, technology can help people feel connected, part of a network. This implies support. “Perceived support” is often a stabilizing factor, positively effecting one’s mental health.The Winter of our Disconnect by Susan Maushart.
Trainer Bob Harper from The Biggest Loser tweeted his 2011 new year’s resolution to turn his phone off one day a week.Rather than demonize technology, rather than pulling the plug, consider the alternative of finding ways to more closely monitor its use, and to leverage it to benefit a child’s well-being.So, the idea of limiting, but not eliminating the presence of distracting technology.
At the same time, athoughtful approach, in my opinion, is to teach social skills and coping, both with and without the involvement of technology.And PS, emotionally well children also tend to be more highly achieved in school.
How to do that?PP: Paradigm shift, learn from the people who got it right. If it worked for them, do what they do/did.Resilience: Why is it that *some* people come out of trying life experiences better for the wear?EQ: Including self-awareness, mood management, empathy, relationships, and motivation.Life: No shame in passing on life lessons, just be careful of “when I was your age…”
March 2nd Parent Night Evening’s Purpose: To Provide the NVHS parent community with the opportunity to learn from and interact with experts in the field of adolescent social-emotional health and development. Dr. Paul Mullen, Psy.D. KEYNOTE SPEAKER: Licensed Clinical Psychologist On the Paradox of Mindful Multitasking: Supporting social and emotional wellness in today's 24-hour teens Keynote Topic: Child and Adolescent Psychologist Dr. Paul Mullen will present a keynote address on the challenges of supporting social and emotional wellness in today's technology- focused, time-crunched adolescents. Dr. Mullen, who maintains a private practice in Wheaton and is a member of the Psychology faculty at North Central College in Naperville, will share insights and strategies for parents. Following the keynote address, we will host 2 breakout sessions. During each session, the following four topics will be presented. Topic: Trends in Adolescent Drug Use Claudia Evenson, CAADC Director of Outreach Services Rosecrance Health Network Claudia will discuss with parents; trends, parties, and symptoms of teen experimentation with Marijuana. The question “How do I Know?” will be answered. Topic: Digital Safety Theresa Geary Program Specialist, Policy Bureau Office of the Illinois Attorney General This presentation will touch on several aspects of digital safety such as social networking sites, exploitation, cyber bullying and sexting. This includes what youth are talking about online, who they are talking to, tips for what parents should look for or discuss with their child, and digital citizenship. Basic information on Facebook will also be presented. Topic: Emotional Wellness in Adolescence: There's no app for that. Dr. Paul Mullen, Psy.D. Licensed Clinical Psychologist Dr. Mullen will continue his discussion on promoting wellness in networked, busy adolescents. A discussion/Q & A with parents will address leveraging the realities of today's hi-tech, pressured, on-the-go teens to enhance social and emotional coping. Topic: Perceptions, Images and Stereotypes P.A.T.H.S. Parents—Parents and Administrators Together Helping Students • Pastor Michael Hurst • Crystal Porter, PhD Our view of the world and how we relate to each other is not merely based on someone’s character, rather it is more often based on perceptions, images and stereotypes. It is common to say that “we should not judge a book by its cover, however, the truth of the matter is, we really do. Please join PATHS (Parents and Administrators Together Helping Students), an NVHS African-American parent group, in a workshop designed to help our Neuqua family be more accepting and understanding of each other without the barriers of stereotypes.
Refer back to issues with multi-tasking
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www.drpaulmullen.com199 Town Square, Suite GWheaton, IL 60189630-653-1000
Life</li></li></ul><li>Break-outs…<br />Trends in Adolescent Drug Use <br />Digital Safety<br />Perceptions, Images and Stereotypes<br />Emotional Wellness in Adolescence: There's no “app” for that! <br />
“Life moves pretty fast. If you don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.”<br />
Read all about it:<br />The Secret, Rhonda Byrne (2006)<br />The Beethoven Factor, Paul Pearsall (2003)<br />Buddha in Your Backpack: Everyday Buddhism for Teens, Franz Metcalf (2002)<br />The Mindful Child, Susan Kaiser Greenland (2010)<br />Authentic Happiness: Using the New Positive Psychology to Realize Your Potential for Lasting Fulfillment, Martin Seligman (2004)<br />