18 Ways for Parents to Conquer the High School Years
Finding the Right Balance• Students who participate in extracurricular activities seem to prosper after high school than those who do not.• Extracurricular activities provide an opportunity to learn social skills such as getting along with peers. Strong academic skills plus social skills and work ethic seem to be a strong predictor for future job success..
Recognizing the Importance of Good Grades• Erica brings home her report card and hands it to her mother.• Her mom looks at the grades and tries not to frown.• The grade point average is shown for each class and for the entire semester.• Most of the grades are either 3.8 or 4.0. Her AP class has a 4.5 beside it.• Her mom is wondering what do all of these numbers mean?
Know High School Courses and Class Schedule• In determining classes, think about what your childs future plans include. If a four year college seems to be likely, then a strong academic schedule is necessary in high school.• English or language arts will be taken every year of high school.• These classes will develop your students ability to write and give a speech, as well as expose them to American and English literature.
Review Graduation Requirements• If you feel unsure about graduation requirements for your child’s school, talk to the school counselor.• He or she should be able to provide you with a list of required courses.• The counselor can also recommend classes based on your child’s record and future plans.
Think About College Early On• As a parent of a teenager, you may wonder, "Will my child go to college?" Perhaps you have always planned that he or she will do so; you have saved money for college since their birth.• If you did not attend college, you may not have really considered it until your child entered high school.• Whatever category you fall into, it is a major decision that you and your teen must make together..
Capitalize on Teen’s Strengths• Everyone learns in different ways. The three basic styles of learning are visual, kinesthetic (touch), and auditory.• Many students combine two styles when they learn, although one style will be their primary learning.• Parents often use a different style of learning from their children.• Parents can help their teens find the way they learn best and understand that it may be different from the way they learn.
Take Advantage of Special Programs• Many different areas fall into the category of "special program".• A high school may offer special services for adults who are returning to get their diploma. Classes may be offered at night to accommodate nontraditional students.• High schools also may offer other classes to the community after hours such as computer technology and financial planning.
Address School Work Struggles Immediately• Is your child struggling with schoolwork in high school?• Mary Taylors son had cruised through elementary and middle school with As and Bs and an occasional C.• Now he is failing algebra in ninth grade and Mary does not know what to do.• She feels frightened and embarrassed for her son.• What would you do in this situation?
Encourage Use of Technology• You may wonder how much technology is too much in your teens life.• Teens today have grown up with technology and are very comfortable with it.• It is a part of our world today and parents have to accept this.• Young people often have to teach their parents how to use various devices and are often more tech savvy!
Communicate with Your Teen• One of the first ways you can try to improve communication is to practice active listening with everyone, especially your family.• It is easy to think you are listening while you are multi- tasking, and later discover that you did not comprehend what was related to you.• Stop what you are doing and look at the person speaking. Make sure you understand what they are saying.
Teach Teens the Value of Relationships• Do you want your teen to develop healthy relationships throughout their life?• You can assist now by modeling and providing tips for better relationships with friends, teachers, and you, as a parent.• All relationships must be based upon respect for the other persons feelings.• Other relationship tools include dealing with anger in acceptable ways, solving problems in mutually beneficial ways, and negotiating solutions.
When Teens Lie and Cheat• Have you noticed your teen lying about something small that really doesnt matter?• Perhaps you are worried that the lying will continue to grow.• Is your teen tempted to cheat on a test at school?• What can you do about lying and cheating?• Parents can follow strategies to stop these behaviors and prevent them from recurring.
What to Do About Peer Pressure• Teens are influenced by both negative and positive peer pressure.• As a parent, you can help your child know what to do when confronted with difficult peer situations.• Parents can learn what peer pressure is about today and ways to prepare your teen to cope with it.
Teens and Money• Parents must take a hard look at their own financial habits and realize that they are passing these on to their kids.• Teens can learn valuable lessons in financial management from parents that can save them years of heartache in the future.
Be Aware of Bullying• Many high school students worry about being bullied.• As a parents would you know if this was happening to your child?• How can you protect your teen from cyber bullying?• What would you do if your teen was the one doing the bullying?
Teen Health Issues• Many teens have erratic eating habits and are not really concerned about any aspect of their health.• Work with your child to develop healthy eating and exercise habits so he/she will be able to enjoy a lifetime of good health.
Know the Signs of Teen Depression• Teen depression is a condition that causes feelings of sadness, inadequacy, and withdrawal from life.• Teens who are depressed may see every event in life in a negative light.• Some signs of teen depression include irritability, changes in appetite, memory loss, loss of mental focus, tiredness, and loss of interest in activities that were once enjoyed.• Other symptoms may be disruption of sleep patterns, talking about death or suicide, and feelings of hopelessness.
Face the Tough Issues• Does the thought of discussing sex, teen pregnancy, and homosexuality with your teen make you sweaty and uncomfortable?• Most parents feel this way; you are not alone.• Your teen may feel uneasy discussing these types of tough issues also.• It is important for parents to communicate their values on difficult issues.• Teens really do listen and care about their parents beliefs, even though they may not show it.
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