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Couple Quiz 2: Love and Respect

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This quiz helps you assess whether your marriage has the necessary amount of love and respect for marital success.

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Couple Quiz 2: Love and Respect

  1. 1. Dance With Me  Quiz  2:  Love  and  Respect  Dr.  Debi  Smith,  Clinical  Psychologist   www.OCChris9anCouples.com   800.705.6223  
  2. 2. Quiz  2:  Love  and  Respect  This  quiz,  based  on  findings  of  marital  research,  can  help  you  get  an  idea  of  how  well  you  are  doing  in  some  vital  areas  of  your  relaAonship.    Adapted  from  the  book  by  J.  GoIman:  Seven  Principles  for    Making  a  Marriage  Work  
  3. 3. QuesAon  1  •  My  partner  seeks  out   my  opinions.     Agree  =  1  point   Disagree  =  0  points  
  4. 4. QuesAon  2  •  My  partner  cares   about  my  feelings.     Agree  =  1  point   Disagree  =  0  points  
  5. 5. QuesAon  3    •  I  don’t  feel  ignored   by  my  partner  very   oMen.     Agree  =  1  point   Disagree  =  0  points  
  6. 6. QuesAon  4    •  We  touch  each  other   a  lot.     Agree  =  1  point   Disagree  =  0  points  
  7. 7. QuesAon  5    •  We  listen  to  each   other.     Agree  =  1  point   Disagree  =  0  points  
  8. 8. QuesAon  6    •  We  respect  each   other’s  ideas.     Agree  =  1  point   Disagree  =  0  points  
  9. 9. QuesAon  7    •  We  are  affecAonate   toward  one  another.     Agree  =  1  point   Disagree  =  0  points  
  10. 10. QuesAon  8    •  I  feel  that  my  partner   takes  good  care  of   me.     Agree  =  1  point   Disagree  =  0  points  
  11. 11. QuesAon  9    •  What  I  say  counts.     Agree  =  1  point   Disagree  =  0  points  
  12. 12. QuesAon  10    •  I  am  important  in  our   decisions.     Agree  =  1  point   Disagree  =  0  points  
  13. 13. QuesAon  11    •  There’s  lots  of  love  in   our  relaAonship.     Agree  =  1  point   Disagree  =  0  points  
  14. 14. QuesAon  12    •  We  are  genuinely   interested  in  one   another.     Agree  =  1  point   Disagree  =  0  points  
  15. 15. QuesAon  13    •  I  just  love  spending   Ame  with  my   partner.     Agree  =  1  point   Disagree  =  0  points  
  16. 16. QuesAon  14    •  We  are  very  good   friends.     Agree  =  1  point   Disagree  =  0  points  
  17. 17. QuesAon  15    •  Even  during  rough   Ames,  we  can  be   empatheAc.     Agree  =  1  point   Disagree  =  0  points  
  18. 18. QuesAon  16    •  My  partner  is   considerate  of  my   viewpoint.     Agree  =  1  point   Disagree  =  0  points  
  19. 19. QuesAon  17    •  My  partner  finds  me   physically  aXracAve.     Agree  =  1  point   Disagree  =  0  points  
  20. 20. QuesAon  18    •  My  partner  expresses   warmth  to  me.     Agree  =  1  point   Disagree  =  0  points  
  21. 21. QuesAon  19    •  I  feel  included  in  my   partner’s  life.     Agree  =  1  point   Disagree  =  0  points  
  22. 22. QuesAon  20    •  My  partner  admires   me.     Agree  =  1  point   Disagree  =  0  points  
  23. 23. How  did  you  do?   The  highest  possible  score  =  20    According  to  research,  a  score  less  than  7   indicates  that  a  marriage  may  lack  the  necessary  amount  of  love  and  respect  for   marital  success.    
  24. 24. How  did  you  do?  If  your  score  was  below  7,  you  and  your  mate  may  benefit  from  couples  counseling  that  focuses  on  developing  greater  love  and  respect  for  one  another  and  addressing  any  areas  of  conflict.  
  25. 25. Disclaimer  Please  note  that  all  informaAon  provided  is  for  general  informaAonal  purposes  only.  It  is  not  a  subsAtute  for  a  professional  evaluaAon.    If  you  are  experiencing  distress,  please  contact  a  mental  health  professional.  
  26. 26. Finding  Help  •  Look  for  a  licensed   counselor  who  has   specialized  training  in   working  with  couples.  •  If  you  are  a  ChrisAan,   you  may  want  to  find   someone  who  shares   your  faith.  
  27. 27. Finding  Help  •  Schedule  an   appointment  so  you  can   both  meet  the   counselor  in  person.  •  Make  sure  you  both   feel  comfortable  with   your  choice.  
  28. 28. Finding  Help  •  A  man  needs  his  wife’s   trust  and  respect  in   order  to  be  a  good   leader  (king).  •  A  woman  needs  her   husband’s  love  and   understanding  to  be  a   good  follower  (queen).  
  29. 29. Enjoying  the  Romance  of  Ephesians  5  •  Men   –  Learn  what  she  needs   and  desires  from  you.   –  Pray  for  her  daily.  •  Ladies   –  Learn  what  he  needs   and  desires  from  you.   –  Pray  for  him  daily.  
  30. 30. Submit  to  one  another  out  of   reverence  for  Christ.  ~  Ephesians  5:21  •  This  passage  applies  to   the  body  of  believers  in   fellowship  with  one   another,  so  it  naturally   applies  to  husbands  and   wives  as  well.    •  However,  just  how   husbands  and  wives  are   to  submit  to  one  another   is  easily  misunderstood  in   our  current  culture.  
  31. 31. Submit  to  one  another  out  of   reverence  for  Christ.  ~  Ephesians  5:21  •  That’s  what  Dance  With  Me   is  all  about  –  learning  what   submission  looks  like  in  the   21st  Century.    •  Dr.  Debi  Smith  teaches   couples  how  to  pay   aXenAon  to  one  another’s   needs  and  how  to  be   responsive  to  one  another   in  light  of  his/her  unique   design  and  purpose.    
  32. 32. For  more  informaAon  …  …  or  to  order  a  copy  of     Dance  With  Me:   A  Hopeful  Roman9c  Interprets  Ephesians  5,     please  visit  our  website  at   www.OCChrisAanCounseling.com  
  33. 33. Thanks  for  taking  the  Quiz!  And  thank  you  for  inves9ng  in  the  future  of   America  by  suppor9ng  one  another!   You’re  the  Best!  
  34. 34. Dance With MeRela9onship  Workshops   Dr.  Debi  Smith   Fred  Judkins   Clinical  Psychologist   Dance  Leader  

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