Chapter Four Building High  Self-Esteem
Chapter Preview: Building High Self-Esteem <ul><li>Define and describe impact on your life </li></ul><ul><li>Discuss how s...
Total Person Insight <ul><li>Our level of self-esteem affects virtually everything we think, say, and do.  It affects how ...
Two Major Components <ul><li>Self-efficacy-belief you can achieve what you set out to do </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Developed t...
Self-Esteem = Self-Efficacy + Self-Respect <ul><li>One’s appreciation of own worth and importance </li></ul><ul><li>Experi...
<ul><li>Character to be accountable for behaviors  </li></ul><ul><li>Acting responsibly toward others </li></ul><ul><li>Co...
How Self-Esteem Develops <ul><li>Self-concept </li></ul><ul><ul><li>bundle of facts, opinions, beliefs, and perceptions ab...
Childhood <ul><li>Experience early in life have a significant impact on one’s life and potential in later years </li></ul>...
Adolescence <ul><li>Develop personal identity as a unique individual </li></ul><ul><li>Age 11 to late adolescence </li></u...
Adulthood <ul><li>Reinforced self-concept molded by past </li></ul><ul><li>Adults tend to define themselves in terms of: <...
Total Person Insight <ul><li>How many times do we pay for one mistake? The answer is thousands of times. The human is the ...
How Self-Esteem Influences Your Behavior <ul><li>Powerful influence on behavior </li></ul><ul><ul><li>at work  </li></ul><...
Locus of Control <ul><li>External locus of control </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Belief that life is almost totally controlled by ...
Characteristics - Low Self-Esteem <ul><li>Tendency toward </li></ul><ul><ul><li>External locus of control </li></ul></ul><...
Characteristics - High Self-Esteem <ul><li>Tendency toward internal locus of control </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Belief that one...
Building Self-Esteem <ul><li>Self-esteem can grow or deteriorate throughout life </li></ul><ul><li>The person you will be ...
How to Build Self-Esteem <ul><li>Identify the source of low self-esteem: </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Careful examination of defi...
How to Build Self-Esteem <ul><li>Identify and accept your limitations: </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Accept yourself for who you a...
How to Build Self-Esteem <ul><li>Take responsibility for your decisions: </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Making decisions helps you ...
Total Person Insight <ul><li>There is little understanding in our culture that being an adult is an ongoing process of lea...
How to Build Self-Esteem <ul><li>Engage in strength building </li></ul><ul><li>Maximize your strengths </li></ul><ul><li>D...
How to Build Self-Esteem <ul><li>Seek the support and guidance of mentors: </li></ul><ul><ul><li>A mentor helps you learn ...
How to Build Self-Esteem <ul><li>Tips for building a mentor relationship: </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Having multiple mentors is...
How to Build Self-Esteem <ul><li>Set goals: </li></ul><ul><ul><li>People who set goals maintain high self-esteem </li></ul...
How to Build Self-Esteem <ul><li>Practice guided imagery </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Creative and empowering method to harness t...
Goal Setting Principles <ul><li>Spend time reflecting on things you want to change in your life </li></ul><ul><li>Develop ...
Figure 4.1 - Self-Esteem Cycles
Using Positive Self-Talk <ul><li>Use positive self-talk: </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Self-talk takes place silently in the priva...
Creating Self-Talk Statements <ul><li>Create self-talk statements for each of your goals: </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Be specifi...
Table 4.2 - Creating Semantically  Correct Self-Talk
Organizations Can Help <ul><li>Low self-esteem often means poor performance </li></ul><ul><li>Organizations realizing impo...
Figure 4.2 - Factors That Enhance The Self-Esteem of Employees
Organizations Can… <ul><li>Help workers feel </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Valued </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Competent </li></ul><...
Chapter Review <ul><li>Define self-esteem and describe its impact on your life </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Self-esteem is a comb...
Chapter Review  <ul><li>Discuss how self-esteem is developed </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Starts from birth </li></ul></ul><ul><u...
Chapter Review  <ul><li>Characteristics of low and high self-esteem  </li></ul><ul><ul><li>People with high self-esteem te...
Chapter Review <ul><li>Characteristics of low and high self-esteem </li></ul><ul><ul><li>People with low self-esteem tend ...
Chapter Review  <ul><li>Identify ways to raise your self-esteem </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Take responsibility for decisions </...
Chapter Review  <ul><li>Organizations can help workers raise their self-esteem </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Workers need to feel:...
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BA 15 Chapter 4

  1. 1. Chapter Four Building High Self-Esteem
  2. 2. Chapter Preview: Building High Self-Esteem <ul><li>Define and describe impact on your life </li></ul><ul><li>Discuss how self-esteem is developed </li></ul><ul><li>Identify characteristics of people with low and high self-esteem </li></ul><ul><li>Identify ways to raise your self-esteem </li></ul><ul><li>Ways organizations can help raise self-esteem </li></ul>
  3. 3. Total Person Insight <ul><li>Our level of self-esteem affects virtually everything we think, say, and do. It affects how we see the world and our place in it. It affects how others in the world see and treat us. It affects the choices we make—choices about what we will do with our lives and with whom we will be involved. It affects our ability to both give and receive love. And, it affects our ability to take action to change things that need to be changed. </li></ul><ul><li>Tschirhart Sanford and Mary Ellen Donovan </li></ul><ul><li>Authors , Women & Self-Esteem </li></ul>
  4. 4. Two Major Components <ul><li>Self-efficacy-belief you can achieve what you set out to do </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Developed though experience of mastery </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>success builds confidence to succeed in other areas </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><li>Self-respect </li></ul><ul><ul><li>What you think and feel about yourself </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Self-respect likely earns respect from others </li></ul></ul>
  5. 5. Self-Esteem = Self-Efficacy + Self-Respect <ul><li>One’s appreciation of own worth and importance </li></ul><ul><li>Experience of being capable of meeting life’s challenges and being worthy of happiness </li></ul>
  6. 6. <ul><li>Character to be accountable for behaviors </li></ul><ul><li>Acting responsibly toward others </li></ul><ul><li>Confidence in ability to </li></ul><ul><ul><li>think </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>understand </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>make decisions </li></ul></ul>Self-Esteem = Self-Efficacy + Self-Respect
  7. 7. How Self-Esteem Develops <ul><li>Self-concept </li></ul><ul><ul><li>bundle of facts, opinions, beliefs, and perceptions about yourself that are present in every moment of every day </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>much is unconscious, yet continues to influence judgments, feelings, and behaviors </li></ul></ul>
  8. 8. Childhood <ul><li>Experience early in life have a significant impact on one’s life and potential in later years </li></ul><ul><li>Foundation of self-esteem in childhood emerges later in life </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Emotional stability impacts self-esteem </li></ul></ul><ul><li>Defining negative experiences occur </li></ul><ul><ul><li>i.e. uncaring parent, too much television </li></ul></ul>
  9. 9. Adolescence <ul><li>Develop personal identity as a unique individual </li></ul><ul><li>Age 11 to late adolescence </li></ul><ul><li>Resolve questions about </li></ul><ul><ul><li>self-worth </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>sexuality </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>independence </li></ul></ul><ul><li>Role models are important </li></ul>
  10. 10. Adulthood <ul><li>Reinforced self-concept molded by past </li></ul><ul><li>Adults tend to define themselves in terms of: </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Things they possession </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>What they do for a living </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Internal value system and emotional makeup </li></ul></ul>
  11. 11. Total Person Insight <ul><li>How many times do we pay for one mistake? The answer is thousands of times. The human is the only animal on earth that pays a thousand times for the same mistake. The rest of the animals pay once for every mistake they make. But not us. We have powerful memory. We make a mistake, we judge ourselves, we find ourselves guilty, and punish ourselves….Every time we remember, we judge ourselves again, we are guilty again, and we punish ourselves again, and again, and again. </li></ul><ul><li>Don Miguel Ruiz </li></ul><ul><li>Author, The Four Agreements </li></ul>
  12. 12. How Self-Esteem Influences Your Behavior <ul><li>Powerful influence on behavior </li></ul><ul><ul><li>at work </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>in personal life </li></ul></ul><ul><li>Healthy self-esteem is </li></ul><ul><ul><li>less vulnerable to negative views of others </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>more tolerant and respectful of others </li></ul></ul>
  13. 13. Locus of Control <ul><li>External locus of control </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Belief that life is almost totally controlled by outside forces </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Success is luck </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Often rely on approval from others </li></ul></ul>
  14. 14. Characteristics - Low Self-Esteem <ul><li>Tendency toward </li></ul><ul><ul><li>External locus of control </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Self-destructive behaviors </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Poor human relations skills </li></ul></ul>
  15. 15. Characteristics - High Self-Esteem <ul><li>Tendency toward internal locus of control </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Belief that one is largely responsible for what happens </li></ul></ul><ul><li>Feel emotions without letting them affect behavior in a negative way </li></ul><ul><li>Less likely to take things personally </li></ul><ul><li>Accept people as unique, talented individuals </li></ul><ul><li>Have productive personality </li></ul>
  16. 16. Building Self-Esteem <ul><li>Self-esteem can grow or deteriorate throughout life </li></ul><ul><li>The person you will be tomorrow has yet to be created </li></ul><ul><li>Slow evolution </li></ul>
  17. 17. How to Build Self-Esteem <ul><li>Identify the source of low self-esteem: </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Careful examination of defining moments in life </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Make list of labels others use to describe you </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Determine which ones you’ve internalized </li></ul></ul>
  18. 18. How to Build Self-Esteem <ul><li>Identify and accept your limitations: </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Accept yourself for who you are now </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Don’t demand perfection </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Don’t dwell on the past </li></ul></ul>
  19. 19. How to Build Self-Esteem <ul><li>Take responsibility for your decisions: </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Making decisions helps you develop confidence in your own judgment </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Be willing to set goals </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Accept the consequences of your decisions </li></ul></ul>
  20. 20. Total Person Insight <ul><li>There is little understanding in our culture that being an adult is an ongoing process of learning and self-correcting: Life is always changing, revealing what was previously unknown and unplanned for. </li></ul><ul><li>Fran Cox and Louis Cox </li></ul><ul><li>Authors, A Conscious Life </li></ul>
  21. 21. How to Build Self-Esteem <ul><li>Engage in strength building </li></ul><ul><li>Maximize your strengths </li></ul><ul><li>Discover your talents </li></ul><ul><li>A talent is any naturally recurring pattern of thought, feeling, or behavior that can be productively applied </li></ul><ul><li>Strength building requires knowledge and skill </li></ul>
  22. 22. How to Build Self-Esteem <ul><li>Seek the support and guidance of mentors: </li></ul><ul><ul><li>A mentor helps you learn something that you would otherwise not have learned as well or as quickly </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Effective tool used in organizations </li></ul></ul>
  23. 23. How to Build Self-Esteem <ul><li>Tips for building a mentor relationship: </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Having multiple mentors is best </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>A mentor should have the qualities of a good coach </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Market yourself to prospective mentors </li></ul></ul>
  24. 24. How to Build Self-Esteem <ul><li>Set goals: </li></ul><ul><ul><li>People who set goals maintain high self-esteem </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Make your goals realistic </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Picture yourself reaching the goal </li></ul></ul>
  25. 25. How to Build Self-Esteem <ul><li>Practice guided imagery </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Creative and empowering method to harness the power of the mind </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>To visualize means to form a mental image of something </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>If you want to succeed, picture yourself succeeding over and over </li></ul></ul>
  26. 26. Goal Setting Principles <ul><li>Spend time reflecting on things you want to change in your life </li></ul><ul><li>Develop a goal-setting plan that includes steps to achieve the goal </li></ul><ul><li>Modify your environment by changing stimuli around you </li></ul><ul><li>Monitor your behavior and reward progress </li></ul>
  27. 27. Figure 4.1 - Self-Esteem Cycles
  28. 28. Using Positive Self-Talk <ul><li>Use positive self-talk: </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Self-talk takes place silently in the privacy of your mind </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>It is the personal conversations you have with yourself </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Your self-talk can dramatically affect your behavior </li></ul></ul>
  29. 29. Creating Self-Talk Statements <ul><li>Create self-talk statements for each of your goals: </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Be specific about the behavior you want to change </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Begin each statement with a first-person pronoun </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Describe the results you want to achieve </li></ul></ul>
  30. 30. Table 4.2 - Creating Semantically Correct Self-Talk
  31. 31. Organizations Can Help <ul><li>Low self-esteem often means poor performance </li></ul><ul><li>Organizations realizing importance of their role in developing self-esteem </li></ul>
  32. 32. Figure 4.2 - Factors That Enhance The Self-Esteem of Employees
  33. 33. Organizations Can… <ul><li>Help workers feel </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Valued </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Competent </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Secure </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Empowered </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Connected </li></ul></ul>
  34. 34. Chapter Review <ul><li>Define self-esteem and describe its impact on your life </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Self-esteem is a combination of self-respect and self-efficacy </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>People with high self-esteem feel competent and worthy </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>People with low self-esteem feel incompetent, unworthy, and insecure </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>High self-esteem is a powerful foundation for success </li></ul></ul>
  35. 35. Chapter Review <ul><li>Discuss how self-esteem is developed </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Starts from birth </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Parents, friends, associates, the media, and colleagues all influence self-esteem </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Adolescents depend on social relationships to define their value </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Adults use their possessions, jobs, and/or internal values </li></ul></ul>
  36. 36. Chapter Review <ul><li>Characteristics of low and high self-esteem </li></ul><ul><ul><li>People with high self-esteem tend to: </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Maintain internal locus of control </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Manage their emotions </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Rarely take things personally </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Accept other people as unique and talented </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Have productive lives </li></ul></ul></ul>
  37. 37. Chapter Review <ul><li>Characteristics of low and high self-esteem </li></ul><ul><ul><li>People with low self-esteem tend to: </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Maintain external locus of control </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Participate in self-destructive behaviors </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Exhibit poor human relations skills </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Rely on the opinions of others for self-worth </li></ul></ul></ul>
  38. 38. Chapter Review <ul><li>Identify ways to raise your self-esteem </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Take responsibility for decisions </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Engage in strength building </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Accept imitations </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Identify talents </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Work with a mentor </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Set goals </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Practice guided imagery </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Use positive self-talk </li></ul></ul>
  39. 39. Chapter Review <ul><li>Organizations can help workers raise their self-esteem </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Workers need to feel: </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Valuable </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Competent </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Secure </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Empowered </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Connected </li></ul></ul></ul>

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