Family Wellness and Youth in Distress Lesson 4: Self EsteemLesson 4: Self EsteemTitle: Self EsteemTeacher Introduction:This lesson is designed to introduce students to the concepts of self-esteem. As well asintroducing a way to identify current strengths and resources that youth will have at theirdisposal. The exercises included in this lesson will focus on developing a positiveoutlook on ones self. There are several handouts and activities within this lesson. Youmay have to limit the number of activities based upon time and your judgment. It isencouraged that you include Activity 4-B on Asset Mapping/Medicine Wheel andActivity 4-E the Stitch and Design.Goal: • To understand what self-esteem is and how it can be positively developed and integrated into each person’s life to help her/him recognize how improving self- esteem builds character.Objectives: • Define self-esteem • Identify personal strengths • Identify ways to build and improve self-esteemBackground:Utilizing the Medicine Wheel each participant will identify core strengths and interest inwhich create a since of balance in the relational worldview, thus creating a healthy Self-Esteem.What is self-esteem?Self- Esteem is the opinion you have about yourself. Everyone has self-esteem. Itis based on your attitudes and beliefs about your-self. Your self-esteem can have aneffect on your behavior and the choices you make. Sometimes it is difficult to think ofand express good characteristics about ourselves; often bad or negative points seem to beeasier to identify. The best thing you can do when you have a negative thought aboutyourself is to realize that just because you think it doesn’t mean that it’s accurate.Replace the negative thought or belief for a positive one. This practice will help buildyour self-esteem.Materials Needed:Poster paper Copied handoutPencils/Markers ScissorsLined Paper Beach BallRecommended http://www.self-esteem-nase.org/Resources http://www.cyberparent.com/esteem/ http://www.promoteprevent.org/
Family Wellness and Youth in Distress Lesson 4: Self Esteem Family Wellness and Youth in Distress Lesson 4: Self Esteem Classroom Handouts Evaluation Teacher Activities Activities NotesListen to the Observation of Read or otherwise provide the Backgroundpresentation of whole class information to the participantsthe Background discussionLesson andparticipate in awhole classdiscussion.Individual Handout 4- Evaluation of Handout worksheet 4-A and have participantscompletion of A Discussion complete individually. Lead a discussionthe Discussion Starters regarding why someone might not have goodStarters worksheet 4-A self-esteem. Remember that all students needworksheet 4-A. to receive positive feedback to their statements and/or observations about the subject matter.Guided Handout 4- Evaluation of Handout worksheet 4-B (3 pages) and havecompletion of B Handout 4-B participants identify strengths and personalHandout and assets. You may have to brainstorm withMedicine Wheel. individuals to help them see the good. While each participant is filling out his/her medicine wheel you may show an example of class strengths and fill out a medicine wheel on a white board utilizing various strengths that you have observed up to this point. Show that each completed Medicine Wheel represents healthy self-esteem.Listen or read Handout 4- Assessment of Give Handout 4-C to participants. Read thealong with the C participants story then lead the participants in a discussionSitting Bull story attention and to answer the questions at the bottom of theand participate in participation in page. On poster board fill out a Medicinea group the Sitting Bull Wheel for Sitting Bull as a group.discussion discussion.5. Group Handout 4- Observation of Have a beach ball fully inflated and explainparticipation in D participation in that it will represent self esteem. Demonstratethe Bounce Back the Bounce the resilience of the ball by pushing on it andActivity Back activity dropping it on the floor. Ask students for examples of events they experience that can lower self esteem. For each example, let some air out of the ball Stop when 1/3 to 1/2 of the air has been let out. Demonstrate the difference in the resilience of the ball now. The ball is not bouncing back. After the discussion, blow the ball back up and reinforce that self esteem can be raised.
Family Wellness and Youth in Distress Lesson 4: Self Esteem difference in the resilience of the ball now. The ball is not bouncing back. After the discussion, blow the ball back up and reinforce that self esteem can be raised.6. Individual Handout 4- Observation of Guide each participant to write downcompletion of E participation something that they learned from Lesson 4.Stitch and and Instruct them to draw a “Stitch” for theirDesign Activity. understanding moccasin that will remind them of what they of Stitch and learned. Then instruct each participant to draw Design a “Design” for their moccasin that will remind Handout 4-E them of what they will use in the future that they learned in Lesson 4.
Family Wellness and Youth in Distress Lesson 4: Self Esteem Handout 4-A Discussion StartersWhen considering your own self-esteem and how healthy it is, think about and answerthe following questions. 1. What is your opinion of yourself? 2. Do you make decisions or take risks that can be harmful to you without much thought? 3. Do you criticize yourself? 4. Do you think you’re not as handsome/pretty or as popular as someone else? 5. Do you see faults or characteristics in your friends that you don’t like but you ignore them because you don’t think you can have or deserve better friends?If you listed negative comments on question one or answered yes to the other questions,your self-esteem may not be as healthy as it should. But don’t worry, it can be nurturedto become healthier.If you listed a positive opinion of yourself or answered no to the other questions, you’reon the right track. General happiness and self-acceptance will help you maintain yourhealthy self-esteem.
Family Wellness and Youth in Distress Lesson 4: Self Esteem Handout 4-B Asset Mapping Page 1 of 3Asset Mapping is a way to identify the strengths and resources that you will have at yourdisposal as a leader. It is also an excellent way to shift the focus away from what we maycommonly struggle with and place greater attention on what we have in our favor. Wewill apply the Medicine Wheel, which will help us identify balance within our lives.Answer the following questions with as many answers as you can: 1. (Mind) What are your gifts of the mind? Example: Good listening skills, creative, analytical, etc… __________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________ 2. (Emotions) What are your gifts of the heart? Example: Compassionate, empathetic, tolerant, etc… __________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________ 3. (Body) What are you gifts of the hand? Example: Practical skills like building, driving, texting, athletics, etc… __________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________ 4. (Spirit) What are your gifts of the spirit? Example: Things you have faith in; Family, friends, church, the sun coming up, etc… __________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________Take two or three minutes with each of the questions above and then have the groupshare their answers. After taking a few responses, move on to the next set of questions.All answers are valid and respected. 5. What are your areas of interest? Example: Athletics, computers, art, etc… __________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________
Family Wellness and Youth in Distress Lesson 4: Self Esteem Handout 4-B Asset Mapping Page 2 of 3 6. What are you passionate about? Example: Helping others, racing cars, robotics, etc… Note: a passion can be anything that you feel really excited about. It is important to note that a passion may be something that you struggle with or are not able to do. This is okay. __________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________ 7. What are some of your most powerful relationships? Example: Relationship with sibling, community member, coach, etc… __________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________Using your list of answers fill in each quadrant of the Medicine Wheel. Hand outworksheet Asset Mapping Page 3 of 3. Make sure to place at least one answer in thecorresponding quadrant of the Medicine Wheel. You have just identified core strengthsand interest in which create a sence of balance in the relational worldview. This is ahealthy Self-Esteem.Lets make this a daily thing.
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Family Wellness and Youth in Distress Lesson 4: Self Esteem Handout 4-C Sitting Bull Page 1 of 2Sitting Bull was born in 1831 near present-day South Dakota. As a child Sitting Bull’sparents didn’t give him the name Sitting Bull. They named him Slow because theycouldn’t identify any outstanding traits in him.In 1845, when Slow was only 14, he wanted to join a war party. Everyone thought Slowwas too young, but he desperately wanted to prove himself. As the rest of his partywaited for the enemy to approach, Slow got on his pony and charged toward the enemy.The others quickly changed their plans and followed Slow. Shocked by such a bold actas Slow’s, the enemy warriors retreated.Slow’s father was so proud of the victory led by his son, that he gave him the nameSitting Bull, that which the Buffalo God had given him. The buffalo was considered astrong, and courageous creature with lots of endurance. As a result of Slow’s behavior,these were now qualities the people saw in him, Sitting Bull.What kind of self-esteem do you think Sitting Bull had?What did his parents and community think of him at first?Did Sitting Bull let other’s opinions of him affect his self-esteem?What were some of Sitting Bull’s strengths?Does anyone know what happened to Sitting Bull later in his life? If so, please explainhere:Using the previous questions identify strengths that Sitting Bull possessed to earnhis name. As a class fill in a Medicine Wheel for Sitting Bull.
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Family Wellness and Youth in Distress Lesson 4: Self Esteem Handout 4-DWhen you have healthy self-esteem, you are able to bounce back from problems. Youknow that everything is not your fault and that for whatever reasons something hashappened, it will pass and you can handle it. When you doubt your ability to handlesituations, you are less likely to try new things or advance yourself.A beach ball is an example of a healthy self-esteem that is resilient and able to bounceback. What do you think might happen if obstacles or situations are allowed to lowerself-esteem?When the ball was full of air and was pushed on, what happened?When it was full of air and dropped on the floor, what happened?After air was let out of the ball, what happened when it was pushed on?What about when it was dropped on the floor with less air in it?What are some things that can lower self-esteem?Can people lower your self-esteem? How?Is low self-esteem permanent? Why or why not?Is our self-esteem the same all the time? Why?How can you raise your self-esteem?Can other people help raise your self-esteem?How can you help others raise their self-esteem?
Family Wellness and Youth in Distress Lesson 4: Self Esteem Handout 4-E Stitch and DesignStitch:Please write down something that you learned from this lesson:Now draw a “Stitch” for your Moccasin that represents and will remind you of what youlearned from this lesson.Design:Please write down something that you will use in the future from this lesson:Now draw a “Design” for your Moccasin that represents and will remind you of what youwill use in the future from this lesson.Examples of “Stitches” and “Designs” can be simple pictures or patterns.Such as:You may use the same or repeat “Stitches” and “Designs” from other lessons, but maywant to change the color, so that you can remember the lessons learned and how you willuse this in your future.