Dealing with divorce with positive parenting solutions
Dealing with Divorce with Positive Parenting Solutions
If you are dealing with difficult times in your lives turn to
a divorce class for tips on helping your loved ones.
Surely, you would feel the difference in resolving matters.
All of us, as part of life,
will experience loss at
some stage or other
separation or other means.
But with a divorce class
you can learn positive
parenting solutions to aid
those you love. Some
people get over it quickly
while others hold onto that
grievance for the rest of
their lives. Often this loss
is associated with the
death of an elderly
relative, sometimes it is the tragic passing away of a younger loved one through
some unexpected accident. Even the beloved family pet leaves people grieving
when he or she is gone. Parents might feel at a loss when their children grow up
and move to a faraway country or even a different State. Divorcees are often hung
up over their loss of what could have been the ideal marriage, and people lose their
jobs during tough economic times. Financial loss from joblessness, poor business
decisions or gambling is a common cause of depression and even suicide. Serious
illnesses, including addiction, can also cause large amounts of grief.
It is commonly recognized that
there are 5 stages we must go
through when dealing with loss
or divorce. These usually but not
always occur in the following
The person in the denial stage
rejects his or her loss, denying
that it has actually happened.
They use illogical thinking like
“oh it’s just a bad dream” to hide
and ignore what has happened.
Usually people should be left to
get through this stage on their own.
Here the person gains false
hope and tries to ‘bargain’
away their loss, willing to
do ‘whatever it takes’ to
make this loss go away.
Sometimes people pray to
God or other higher being,
expecting miracles to be
performed on their behalf.
It sounds a little strange,
but is a normal part of the
This often occurs as the second stage, before the bargaining. The griever cannot be
in control of the situation, so a natural reaction is to be mad at it. People can be
mad at God, or the person who brought them the bad news (such as friend, relative,
doctor etc.). Once again this is perfectly normal and persons going through this
stage should be allowed to vent and get this out of their system.
The depressed person has
moved through the Denial
stage and has usually dealt
with his or her Anger and
Bargaining ordeals. The
depression occur here –
crying, deep sadness, loss
of hope and faith and a
general feeling that life is
not worth living.
become withdrawn from
friends and family, and this often affects those around them. This is when they
most need to be loved and supported.
Now the person who has experienced the loss has begin to come to terms with the
situation. Then and only then can they learn to adapt their lives accordingly and
begin to let go and move on.
Going through this process can take from a few months to a few years depending
on the person. One should never underestimate the value of a friend’s love and
companionship in overcoming the pain involved. The most important thing is to
be there for them and help them enjoy other aspects of life. This can aid their
Dealing with loss is never easy, for the person who goes through it or for those
around them. It is obviously hard to recognize these stages if they are happening
to you, but the best thing you can do to prepare for your loss or someone else’s is
to be aware of this five-stage process.
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