THINGS TO CONSIDER
WHEN WRITING YOUR
Nowadays it's far more common for couples to write the
words for their wedding vows. After all, you've gone to
considerable lengths to personalise your wedding so that it
stands out from the crowd, so why cut corners when it
comes to the vows.
Besides, exchanging vows that the two of you have written
for each other will be far more meaningful and will make
your wedding day feel even more special.
Your wedding vows need not be too complicated nor do
you both have to say the same things.
You can ask the celebrant to read them out and for you to
repeat after, or you can memorise them and say them out
loud; alternatively you can read them from a card. Just go
with what feels most comfortable for you.
Here's a few pointers to get you started:
Pen your vows as early as you can
In the months leading up to your wedding, there will be
so much going on, that you may find it hard to sit down
and put your thoughts to paper. Instead, start writing
your vows as soon as you can so as to avoid rushing the
job at the last minute.
Where to start
A good place is to start by looking at traditional vows for
your religion, and even for others. Look at several to see if
any words or phrases strike a chord with you. You might
like to include some of the elements into your own vows.
Set the tone
Before writing anything down consider whether you want
to write something poetic, something romantic, or even
something a little humorous. If you're taking the humour
route, just remember that your vows are to be taken
seriously, so choose your words carefully.
Spend time together to discuss your vows
Sit down together, perhaps over dinner, to chat about
your reasons for getting married, the strengths of your
relationship and what makes you both tick. What are you
expecting your marriage to achieve, and what is your
perception of a happy marriage. Hopefully airing all of
these points will get your creative juices flowing.
Writing on the same level
Discuss whether to write your vows together or apart and
whether or not you'll show them to each other. Also you
should decide whether to stay traditional or contemporary
and to keep your vows to roughly the same length.
Keep it short
Keep your vows short and don't waffle. Get to the point
quickly, which is why you're marrying your partner, and
leave other things you want to say for the reception. Limit
it to about a minute in length and you'll be surprised at
just how much you can say in that time.
Practice makes perfect
Practice saying your vows out loud until you feel
comfortable with saying them. Make sure there's no tricky
sentences which you can trip over, especially when you're
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