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Feeling Blah


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What can you do when you are Feeling Blah?

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Feeling Blah

  1. 1. ==== ====When you feel blah. . . . ====Post Christmas or Hannukah Blues, January blah, winter doldrums. Whatever you call it, it beginsafter the holiday season when the weather is cold and the days are shorter and ends beforeSpring.Post holiday blues (PHB) is an expectation condition, not to be confused with the neurologicalcondition called Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD). It originates from one of several situations:· High expectations for the holiday that dont materializePaula says, "Every year I look forward to our familys get-together, telling myself Dad wont getdrunk this year and ruin everything. I create this fantasy, and then I am crushed when it doesntcome true."· No expectations for the holiday, but still disappointedTom says, "I hate Christmas. Its my wifes tradition to spend the day with her parents. Married tenyears, ten Christmases, and I still feel left out. Even though I start with absolutely no expectationsto enjoy the day, Im still surprised how disappointed I am afterwards."· Let down after a wonderful holidayJohn says, "I love getting together with my family. Its like a warm and loving injection. Yet, forabout a week or two afterwards, I get depressed. Its taken me years to see the connection: a let-down after that wonderful sense of belonging."· Let down after the party is overMartha says, "I spend six weeks planning, shopping, baking, and decorating. Then everyonecomes, has a great time, and goes home. I wash the dishes, store the decorations, and its allover. Such a let down."Whether or not you enjoyed your holiday, its over, and now theres a lull. You feel cranky, blah,depressed, or just plain moody. PHB, especially if you dont like winter, is a reaction to that lull.There are things you can do though to lessen the effects of PHB. By knowing the blues (or blahs)are coming, you can take preventive steps. Here are some suggestions that may spark some ofyour own.
  2. 2. If youve had a wonderful holiday, you can counter the let-down by finding ways to extend thatfeeling of belonging and connection. You might start a mid-year reunion with your family orarrange monthly get-togethers or telephone-get-togethers. Or, you might capture the special orfunny moments in a scrapbook.If youve had a disappointing (or miserable) holiday, you might:· Get involved in something youve been putting off, like building a shed or making newcurtains,· Start something new, like volunteering at the animal shelter or getting active in yourneighborhood· Plan your next vacation now, when you need to be thinking about a pleasant futurerather than brooding over an unpleasant past.PHB Rescue PlanIf you cant pull yourself from your blues, you may first need a PHB Rescue Plan. For it to work,though, you must follow these guidelines.1. Give yourself permission to be blue rather than tell yourself to shake out of it.2. Set aside 10 minutes when you can be in the dumps, mope around, and feel sorry for yourself.You may be grumpy or weepy, so warn others to stay away during these few minutes. When youfeel blue at other moments, tell yourself to wait until your next 10 minute period. Schedule asmany periods each day as needed.3. Have something planned for the end of your 10 minute period that will pull you into a differentframe of mind. It might be preparing dinner, calling your best friend, watching an engagingtelevision show, or even leaving for work. Planning what comes right after your moping will make iteasier to shift out of that mood.Some people fear if they give into the blahs, they will feel worse. Not true, not if you know youhave a limited time and then you must get on with your everyday life. This Rescue Plan teachesyour body to respect the limits you set for yourself, so you can have your emotions but be incontrol of them.(This same plan can be used for other emotional situations, whether it be grieving a death or notgetting an anticipated award.)The Rescue Plan should help, but if by mid-February, if you are still down, you might want toconsult a therapist. Sometimes the seasonal PHB passes, but in its wake it sets off other feelingswhich extend the blues.And, heres another tip: get your FREE copy of Rules To Enhance Your Friendships (another form
  3. 3. of support to get through this period) at In addition, I also inviteto you to check out the next Unique Retreats for Women, athttp://www.UniqueRetreatsForWomen.comDr. Karen Gail Lewis, The Woman Who Helps Women And The People They Love, DrKGL.comArticle Source: ====When you feel blah. . . . ====