Third Culture Kids (TCK’s) and Cross Cultural Kids (CCK’s) Social Emotional Practicum 2012
TCK’s Defined Spend developmental years outside the parents’ culture. Builds relationships to all of the cultures, full ownership of none. The sense of belonging is in relationship to others of similar background.
CCK Model (Cross Cultural Kid) Someone who is living and meaningfully interacts with two or more cultural environments for a significant period of time The CCK definition is not dependent on the question of where CCK’s grow up, such as outside the passport culture or overseas. CCK’s do not merely live side by side with those from other cultures, but are interacting with more than one culture in ways that have meaningful or relational involvement.
The TCK or CCK Model Third Culture or Cross Culture with Shared Host or Home or First Commonalities Second Culture Culture
CCK Categories Traditional TCK’s Domestic TCK’s Bi/Multicultural International Adoptees Children Children of Minorities Bi/Multiracial Children Children of Immigrants Children of Children of Refugees Borderlanders Educational CCK’s
Cultural Identity Modelin Relationship to Surrounding Culture Foreigner Hidden Immigrant Look different Look alike Think different Think different Adopted Mirror Look different Look alike Think alike Think alike
Who Am I? Finding a sense of personalbalance and identity Adults experience cross cultural transitions and high mobility with an international move But YOU experience growing up cross culturally It is the interplay of these factors for you during your youth that leads to the benefits, challenges and personal characteristics of TCK’s
Achieving Cultural Balance and PersonalIdentity Who we are and where we belong is a developmental task for students We learn the basic rules and values by which our particular culture operates As you grow, you challenge these rules Eventually you internalize the principles and practices you have learned, by challenging and finally accepting (?)—or adjusting within yourself This is achieving cultural balance and personal identity
What about Cultural Balance for TCK’sand CCK’s? Often feel out of balance Why? Because rapid cultural change has been normal. You are one plane ride away from exchanging complete sets of worldviews, expectations of behavior, and even languages Before you know how to behave, you must figure out where you are You are trying to find cultural balance in a world filled with many cultures, many worldviews and you ‘catch it’ from all of your environments
What are the main challenges of a TCKupbringing for you? Finding a sense of personal identity Finding a sense of cultural identity Dealing with unresolved grief Turn to your neighbor and discuss the above concepts. Be ready to share your thoughts with the group.
TCK’s and CCK’s undergo Chronic Cyclesof Mobility Much more often than the population at large Go through the transition cycle with greater frequency so there are multiple and repetitive cycles of loss and grief Grief during a transition is not a negation of the past—it is an affirmation Also TCK’s move often meaning changing cultures as well as places Experience grief because of the very richness of their lives
Reasons for Unresolved Grief Fear of denying the good Learning to live with the mystery of paradox Hidden Losses Loss of relationships, loss of role models, loss of status, loss of their world, loss of lifestyle, loss of possessions Lack of permission to grieve Lack of time to process Lack of comfort
Benefits and Challenges of TCK’s/CCK’s Benefits Challenges Expanded Worldview Confused Loyalties Awareness of more than Value dissonance one way to look at the same thing Painful Awareness of Three Dimensional View Reality of the World Ignorance of the home Cross Cultural Richness culture or perhaps questioning of home culture
TCK Personal CharacteristicsBenefits and Challenges Benefits Challenges Cultural Adaptability Lack of True Cultural Balance Blending In Defining the Differences Prejudice: Less Prejudice: More The Importance of Now The Delusion of Choice Planning at the last minute to not risk disappointment Appreciative of Authority Mistrustful of Authority Real vs. Perceived Arrogance—I’m different from you
TCK Practical Skills Cross-Cultural Skills Observational Skills Social Skills Linguistic Skills
Rootlessness vs. Restlessness Dreaded questions of TCK’s Where are you from? Where is home? The Migratory Instinct Where I am, today, is temporary. But as soon as I get a job or purchase a home, I’ll settle down.
Relational Patterns Large numbers of relationships Deep and valued relationships as TCK’s Home culture relationships ‘shallow’? Relationships levels we pass through Superficial level—small talk ‘Still safe’ level—we exchange facts with no personal risks Judgmental level—we risk comments about our opinions Emotional level—share how we feel about life, ourselves—here we risk a piece of inner worlds, selves Disclosure level—reveal our private thoughts and feelings, allow ourselves to be vulnerable, are truly honest
Why do TCK’s have deeper relationships? Practice Have started new relationships often Content Have a large store of knowledge, feeding many topics for discussion Sense of urgency They perceive little time to develop a particular relationship
Possible Effects of a Cycle of MultipleLosses on Relationships Refusing to care Limits your vulnerability to impending grief Quick release Friends stop calling each other and don’t visit any longer Anger could be part of this Emotional Flattening Refusing to feel the pain; they say they don’t like messy goodbyes
Normal Developmental Tasks Establishing a personal sense of identity Establishing and maintaining strong relationships Developing Competence in decision making Achieving independence Adulthood
Early Maturity of TCK’s In… Broad base of knowledge and awareness Relationship to adults Communication skills Early autonomy
Delayed Adolescence in TCK’s Cross cultural mobility in developmental years Can lead to restrictions of movement due to safety Extended compliance to cultural rules Lack of opportunities for meaningful choices Life is often unpredictable making it hard to make decisions Family separations Operating between different systems-social and educational
Delayed Adolescent Rebellion Extension of delayed adolescence End of the need for compliance Loneliness Need for a home base, vacation time is lonely Anger Manifestation of unresolved grief