As we enter this series of lessons there are some presuppositionsGod is the creator of marriage and thereforeHis design and purpose for marriage whenfollowed works best.Whether you are a faithful or casual believer,God’s Word when practiced in your marriagewill bring amazing results.No matter what shape your marriage is in, ifyou are willing to trust in God’s Word, it canimprove.
Love Happens Top reasons people marryLove 91%Companionship 88%To signify a lifelong commitment 82%Security for children 79%To make a public commitment to each other 77%Legal status or for financial security 66%Because of religious beliefs 62%Response to family pressure 50%Desire for a special occasion 45%
Most people get married for good reasons, yet divorce rates are still high. Why?• We sometimes idealize marriage• Others underestimate the amount of effort it really takes to make a relationship work.• And because of the high rate of divorce, many are wondering if marriage is worth the trouble.
According to a 2002 survey on marriage and cohabitation• Approximately 28% of men and women cohabited before their first marriage.• Among men and women who considered religion very important, more than 4 in 10 had cohabited at some time in their lives.• Unmarried cohabitations are less stable than marriages.
According to the National Center for Health Statistics Report• The probability of a first marriage ending in divorce or separation in the first 5 years is 20%.• But the probability of a premarital cohabitation breaking up within 5 years is 49%.• After 10 years the probability of a first marriage ending is 33%, compared to 62% for cohabitations.
Marriage is not primarily about you• It is just as important to BECOME the right person as it is to FIND the right person.• The myth of “The One” is not biblical.• The one you married is the one with whom you are to make a life.
The ultimate purpose of marriage is to reflect God’s imageEph 5:31-32 "Therefore a man shall leave his father andmother and hold fast to his wife, and the twoshall become one flesh."32 This mystery is profound, and I am sayingthat it refers to Christ and the church.ESV
The Foundation of MarriageGenesis 2: 15-24Eve’s creation was different from the animals’creation; clearly she was special!Ishah is the Hebrew word for “woman”, andish is the Hebrew word for “man.” Adammade a distinction in his naming of Eve.Just as Eve was a gift to Adam, your spouse isa gift from God to you.
Receiving Your Spouse“Receiving your spouse” means more than“accepting” him or her, it means you embracethe God-given differences He’s built into eachof you.It’s remembering every day that moment youjoined together at the alter – each a special giftto the other.Your spouse is not your enemy.Receiving your spouse is a DAILY choice.
Staying connected in the valleyThe loss of a child, and other tragedies, can bedifficult to work through with your spouse.However, many couples find that the process ofworking through a tragedy draws them closertogether.
When you are hurting…Spend time reading the Word of god bothindividually and as a couple.Pray together. Use scriptures to enrich your prayertime.Journaling is a concrete way to express to God howyou feel and helps a spouse understand yourstruggle.Worship corporately with other believers, evenwhen you don’t feel like it.Verbalize your choice to make your attitude better,not bitter.
Completing the PictureI must receive my spouse as God’s perfect giftfor me.I must choose to believe that my spouse is notmy enemy.I must renew my commitment to thepermanency of marriage.I affirm that the primary purpose of mymarriage is to reflect the glory of God.