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The Obamas’ Relationship Stimulus Plan - Essence.com                                                                      ...
The Obamas’ Relationship Stimulus Plan - Essence.com                                                                      ...
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  1. 1. The Obamas’ Relationship Stimulus Plan - Essence.com 10/6/09 12:54 PM October 6, 2009 Not receiving your Newsletter? click here ENTER SEARCH TERM MEN viewed | shared Relationships | Men POSTED: JULY 20, 2009 The Obamas’ Relationship Stimulus Plan: Their 7 Secrets for a Rock-Solid ADVERTISEMENT NFL STAR THOMAS JONES Partnership Ads by ON LIFE AND LOVE Claire McIntosh 1 Flat Stomach Rule (Obey) Read full story » 'I lost 41 lbs of stomach fat by obeying this 1 simple rule. You can too.' Learn more Bridal Bliss: Essence and Jaime Is Alicia Keys a Homewrecker? (1) Trick to WHITE Teeth Learn the trick, discovered by a UPDATE: Kelis & Nas: mom to turn yellow teeth white Where Do They Stand? for under $5. Learn more Will You Marry Me? 2010: Propose in the Pages of ESSENCE I find President and Mrs. Obama to be so much more relatable than any previous White House occupants. And it's not just their brown skin. Two kids. Two careers. PB&J in the pantry and playthings in the yard. They seem a lot TALES OF A like my husband and me. And as they approach 17 years of marriage, they HOLLYWOOD MOM always appear so loving toward each other. When I see reports of them having with Tichina Arnold date night at the theater or in an intimate bistro, I'm frequently reminded that it's the little things, done consistently, that make love last. Barack and Michelle POSTED: 07.16.09 @ 04:02 demonstrate that brand of authentic commitment we see often in our PM communities but so rarely in the media. As I look forward to celebrating seven NOW IS THE BEST TIME years with my sweetie next month, I thought I'd share (and remember to take TO GIVE to heart) seven keys to Love, Obama Style.Style. I'm sitting here in my bed, thinking 1. Insist on couple time. For parents, that means not letting the time and and evaluating myself, my actions, my energy you spend nourishing your kids result in you starving your marriage. reactions and my behavior. The First Couple's weekend in Paris this spring is a great example of getting the balance just right. While sightseeing on the river Seine and at Notre Dame READ MORE » was a family affair, mom and dad enjoyed an intimate dinner alone at a cozy restaurant later. 2. Keep your promises, no matter what. "I am taking my wife to New York City because I promised her during the campaign that I would take her to a Broadway show after it was all finished," the President told reporters at the airport on the way to another much-publicized night on the town. By the time he was able to make good on the promise, pulling it off was no longer as simple as ordering a couple of tickets. Two helicopters, a small Air Force jet, barricades to keep the paparazzi at bay and security screenings at both the restaurant and the theater were required to make the evening a success. Given all the fuss, he could have easily begged off. But he decided to stay true to his boo. 3. Praise each other in public, share constructive feedback in private. Playful quips about dirty socks aside, Mrs. Obama has frequently shared that she fell in love with her husband's authenticity, truth and principles. The President speaks adoringly of his better half, calling her "the love of my life" in his victory speech, "good looking" at the Inaugural and even "a better dancer" on "The Ellen DeGeneres Show." TEAM 4. Touch each other, often. She holds his hand. He places one on the small MICHELLE of her back while walking. These little wordless ways of saying "you matter to me" can create a bond stronger than that Mighty Mendit Super Glue sold on http://www.essence.com/relationships/men/articles/the_obamas_relationship_stimulus_plan Page 1 of 3
  2. 2. The Obamas’ Relationship Stimulus Plan - Essence.com 10/6/09 12:54 PM infomercials. Laura Bush: I'm 5. Share and support your spouse's dreams without losing sight of Free As A Bird! your own. You say you want to be the first Black man in the White House? poll How many wives would have said "Um, good luck with that!" Our partners face the world with a "Yes we can" attitude when we show them our unflinching belief in their goals and abilities. But don't look to Mrs. Obama to support the status quo as a cookie-cutter consort. She's redefining the role of First Lady in The Heroes Of a way that stays true to her own ideals and passions. Facial Hair 6. Read and respect one another's signals. When things are tense, you may not feel like talking. Picking up on nonverbal cues is key. During the campaign, a Ladies Home Journal reporter asked Michelle "How can you tell More Style News when your husband is really stressed?" "When he is writing small notes late at night. When he's really brooding," Mrs. O. said. "That's when I know [to ask], ‘What happened? What's going on?'" 7) Laugh—and pray! —together often. The Obamas share giggles and Laugh— pray!— gaffaws on a regular basis. They also share God. I'm glad to know that after MORE ON ESSENCE.COM months of church shopping in their new city, they've found, in a chapel at Camp David, a new place to call their spiritual home. The death of Kandi Burruss’s ex-fiancé A.J. Jewell represents another example of the BUY ESSENCE MUSIC Claire McIntosh is a deputy editor for ESSENCE magazine. senseless violence that is plaguing our FESTIVAL community. What’s the solution? MERCHANDISE It starts at home; we must be better parents to Be the FIRST to rock our children your official ESSENCE PAGE: 1 Music Festival® We need greater police presence in our merchandise. RELATED LINKS: communities Barack Obama's Historic Win: A News Analysis There has to be more compassion among our READ MORE » young people On the Road with Barack Obama Who Is Barack Obama? A Super Tuesday Forecast: Harold Ford Jr. Barack Obama, Immortalized in Plastic? CROSSWORD PUZZLES Get solutions for NEXT STORY: 10 Signs to a Good Woman » ESSENCE's new puzzle Print | Email This on Black history and pop culture READ MORE » Full Name Address City OCTOBER'S BEST- Can't go wrong with white plus African SELLING BOOKS ST/PR Zip/Po View our list of the month's hottest reads Posted at 8/11/2009 12:07 PM by Clif E-mail and join the ESSENCE Flag this comment as spam or inappropriate. book club READ MORE » Black Love is expensive and loving Posted at 7/30/2009 11:21 AM by Daniel Morgan SEMEVO ESSENCE VOLUME Become an Essence Flag this comment as spam or inappropriate. Panel Volume Member and share your opinions with the world Join Now! Black Love is expensive and loving Posted at 7/30/2009 11:21 AM by Daniel Morgan READ MORE » SEMEVO Flag this comment as spam or inappropriate. Black Love is expensive and loving Posted at 7/30/2009 11:21 AM by Daniel Morgan SEMEVO Flag this comment as spam or inappropriate. Black Love is expensive and loving Posted at 7/30/2009 11:20 AM by Daniel Morgan SEMEVO Flag this comment as spam or inappropriate. showing 1-5 of total 17 comments 1 2 ... 4 leave your comment YOUR NAME YOUR E-MAIL ADDRESS (DOES NOT SHOW) http://www.essence.com/relationships/men/articles/the_obamas_relationship_stimulus_plan Page 2 of 3

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