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4 Ways Society Makes You Suck With Women


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Society conditions us to suck with women and dating in many ways. Find out 4 major ways that society ruins you so that you can fight back and improve yourself.

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4 Ways Society Makes You Suck With Women

  1. 1. 4 Ways Society Makes You Suck With4 Ways Society Makes You Suck WithWomenWomenThere are many ways that modern society influences us negatively when it comes towomen and dating. Fortunately, the pickup artist community seeks to undo thedamage in order to turn men into men again, but many PUAs are oddly unspecific interms of identifying what damage society actually does. I’m here to be specific.1. “The first rule of Fight Club1. “The first rule of Fight Club…””The first and second rules of Fight Club are both “You do not talk about Fight Club.”ABOUT MEABOUT MEChief startedlearning pickupand seduction in2003. He hasextensiveexperience innot only datingplenty ofwonderfulwomen, but alsoin teachingother men howto be successfulin their lovelives. His viewson seductionand dating havebeen largelyinfluenced byhis experienceas a musicalperformer,Americanculture, and ZenBuddhism. [ReadMore …]
  2. 2. The first and second rules for men when it comes to dating and relationships seemto be “You do not talk about dating and relationships.”Most men today have tacitly agreed that the subject of dating and relationships isnot something that a “real man” would seek help with, let alone read a book about.And, generally speaking, it appears as though it is unmanly to get help or supportwith anything at all.While it is true that a real man gets things done without having his hand heldthroughout his whole life, the fact of the matter is that we could all use a little bit ofhelp every now and then, especially if it’s something that we are bad at. Whilesociety defines an integral aspect of masculinity as something too individualistic, wesuffer the consequences of these societal standards through the lack of datingdialogue.I couldn’t even begin to tell you how many times I have personally been ridiculed formy interest in the subject of pickup. Men aren’t “supposed” to learn about makingthemselves more attractive.Women have a very strong and widely accepted community of dating help – everymagazine targeted toward women has tons of articles about dating. They talk toeach other all the time about the men they’re seeing and they support each otherwith valuable knowledge and advice. We men, however, have mostly just been onour own.
  3. 3. 2. Male guilt2. Male guiltA lot of guys in the pickup artist community blame feminists for emasculating anddisempowering men. I used to be one of those guys, until I learned more about whatit actually means to be a pickup artist – someone who actually understands women.Those bitter and resentful guys do have a point, though. The zero-sum gameattitudes of feminism’s second wave had sought to undermine male societalhegemony in an attempt to shift the balance of power. The indirect casualties of thisgender war included the common man’s sense of masculinity. In today’s westernworld, a lot of guys have become confused about what it means to be a man, andthey constantly feel barraged by force-fed guilt from feminist messages.What this has led to is a widespread male guilt. Not everyone experiences it, butmany boys do. A lot of us grew up believing that handing over all of our power towomen is the right thing to do. We grew up believing that we should fear womenand respect them more than we respect ourselves because being a confident malewho takes what he wants in life is old-fashioned and outdated in the same immoralway racism is old-fashioned and outdated.Being forced to feel guilt simply for being born with a penis is unjust, and it messeda lot of us up. It made us put women on a pedestal and undermined our self-esteem,making us pathetically unconfident and utterly incompetent in the dating world.
  4. 4. This is why a lot of guys became resentful and misogynistic upon learning somestuff from the seduction community, and I was no exception. Fortunately, Ieventually learned many things to turn my bitterness into compassion, like the factthat I was wrongfully generalizing women just like the second wave feministsgeneralized and blamed men as a whole.3. Sexual shame3. Sexual shameThis one ties in pretty closely with male guilt. You know what I’m talking about –“All men are perverts who only think with their penises!” More specifically, though,we are conditioned to be shameful of any sexual expressions that may “offend”anyone.In most cultures of the world today, a twisted sense of so-called morality hasovertaken the general public’s perception of sex. We teach children that hate is moreacceptable than love by covering their eyes when intimate scenes appear on TVwhile implicitly teaching them that violence in media is no big deal. We scold ourchildren for becoming sexually curious and teach them to feel shame for theirnatural drives.Kids play “Doctor.” Men want women. Women want men. Sexuality is natural, yetwe’ve repressed our own sexual expressiveness and damaged our own states of
  5. 5. sexual mental health. We’ve spent years and years trying not to be sexuallyexpressive, and that muscle of sexual expression has atrophied to the point where itcan’t even do a single sexual-expression push-up.We as a society have tricked ourselves into believing that sexual expressiveness isoffensive, which makes absolutely no fucking sense if you think about it. “You arestupid” is offensive. “Every person of your race behaves in this ignorant way” isoffensive. “Certain maternal members of your immediate family constantlydemonstrate a lack of integrity by practicing infidelity on a regular basis” isoffensive. “I want to have sex with you” is not offensive. It’s actually quite flattering.If you haven’t figured it out by now, sexual shame makes you suck with womenbecause you need to be naturally – and shamelessly- sexually expressive in order tobe an effective seducer.4. The media promises that you will be with a hot4. The media promises that you will be with a hotsupermodel somedaysupermodel somedayThis one is a little complex, so be sure to stay with me on this one.Look at your average commercial targeted toward young men. The message isusually something along the lines of, “Buy this product and hot women will throwthemselves at you!” Axe (known as “Lynx” in Europe, I believe) body spray plays thisup in their ads so much that it’s downright comical. Aside from commercials, look atevery Hollywood movie ever. The story usually involves a male protagonist that doessomething that results in him getting together with the very, very attractive female
  6. 6. protagonist at the end of the movie. The message is, “Your reward for accomplishinganything is a hot woman!”All of these messages that we grow up with culminate in a deeply rooted belief thatwe deserve to have hot women. As writer David Wong puts it:But we, as the audience, know that in the end the herowill “get the girl,” just as we know that at the end of themonth we’re going to “get our paycheck.” … From birthwe’re taught that we’re owed a beautiful girl. We allthink of ourselves as the hero of our own story, and weall (whether we admit it or not) think we’re heroes forjust getting through our day.This mentality makes us objectify and commodify women. Not only is thismorally reprehensible, but it also makes it inherently more difficult for us to connectwith women. It makes it harder for us to relate with them. It makes us give off that“creepy” vibe. It makes us suck with women.Now, with all that said and done, there’s something else I need to tell you.Something much more important than all of the things on this list.Blaming society and other people for turning you into a loser isn’t going to make youcool, and it certainly isn’t going to bring you any sort of justice. It’s important torecognize the specific external influences that negatively impacted you, but in theend the only thing that will do you any good will be to move on and go forward withthe new information you have learned instead of looking back and dwelling on thepast.Don’t get me wrong – I’m not saying that you need to forget everything you justread. On the contrary, all of this information is important for you to know so thatyou’re better prepared for the future. However, don’t let that leave a bitter taste inyour mouth. This world and the society you live in is actually a pretty damn greatplace. There’s just room for improvement.