Creating A Proven Track Record
By Chelse Benham

Theodore Roosevelt wrote, “Far better to dare mighty things, to win glori...
the stars for things not going the direction you would want them to go. In a
reactive person, the answer lies outside of t...
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Creating a proven track record

  1. 1. Creating A Proven Track Record By Chelse Benham Theodore Roosevelt wrote, “Far better to dare mighty things, to win glorious triumphs, even though checkered by failure, than to take rank with those poor spirits who neither enjoy much nor suffer much, because they live in the gray twilight that knows not victory, nor defeat.” How brilliant and poetic that statements is. It eloquently captures the essence of risk behavior and its supremacy in achieving progress. Stephen Covey, author of the “The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People,” writes: “If the only vision we have of ourselves comes from the social mirror – from the current social paradigm and from the opinions, perceptions and paradigms of the people around us – our view of ourselves is like the reflection in a crazy mirror room at the carnival. These visions are disjointed and out of proportion. They are often more projections than reflections, projecting the concerns and character weaknesses of people giving the input rather than accurately reflecting what we are.” As Viktor Frankl, psychiatrist and a Nazi death camp captive during World War II, espoused, there is a fundamental principle about the nature of man. Frankl championed the following belief, “Between stimulus and response, man has the freedom to choose.” As Covey writes in his book, “Many people wait for something to happen or someone to take care of them. But people who end up with the good jobs are the proactive ones who are solutions to problems, not problems themselves, who seize the initiative to do whatever is necessary, consistent with correct principles, to get the job done.” According to Covey, listening to the language we speak is a real indicator of the degree to which we see ourselves as reactive or proactive. Reactive Language Proactive Language “There’s nothing I can do.” “Let’s look at our alternatives.” “That’s just the way I am.” “I can choose a different approach.” “I can’t.” “I choose.” “If only.” “I will.” “It makes me so mad.” “I control my feelings.” The language we use becomes the self-fulfilling prophecy or the Galatea effect. If you are a reactive person you may feel victimized. Things may feel out of your control. You may blame outside forces such as people, circumstances and even
  2. 2. the stars for things not going the direction you would want them to go. In a reactive person, the answer lies outside of themselves. They are driven by their feelings, thus they react to the world around them, releasing their personal power to outside forces. As Covey writes, “If our feelings control our actions, it is because we have abdicated our responsibility and empowered them to do so. Proactive people focus their efforts on things that they can do something about. Their energy is positive, enlarging and magnifying, causing their ‘Circle of Influence’ to increase.” If you really want to improve a situation, work on the one the thing that you have control over – yourself. The “Circle of Influence” can be enlarged by being a better listener, being a more cooperative and dedicated employee and being committed to improving yourself through self awareness. Covey recommends making strong efforts at being happier as one of the most powerful proactive changes that can be made. Become who you want to be. Turn inward and listen to your internal dialogue. Are you worthy? Are you special? Do you have something to give to others that is unique to you? If you can not answer “yes” to all of these questions then the work begins there, inside your mind and heart. Evaluate your personal worth as you believe it to be. If you do not, you will indiscriminately absorb and believe all negative cues thrust upon you from others who do not have your best interest at heart. “What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.” – Oliver Wendell Holmes

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