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Prepositions of communication


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This presentation will help all couples communicate better. Think of communicating WITH people and you will have better relationships

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Prepositions of communication

  1. 1. Prepositions of Communication  3 Prepositions we use when talking:  AT  TO  WITH
  2. 2. Internal Emotional States Bruce Mary P(parent) P (parent) A(adult) A(adult) C(child) C(child)
  3. 3. Internal Emotional States (high conflict) Bruce Mary P(parent){critical} P (parent){critical} A(adult) A(adult) C(child) C(child)
  4. 4. Internal Emotional States (high conflict) Bruce P(parent){critical} Mary c (child)
  5. 5. Internal Emotional States (healthy communication) Bruce A(adult) Mary A(adult)
  6. 6. Use “I” Statements I feel angry when you…. I was disappointed the other night when you…. I was sad when you….
  7. 7. Absolute Language Do not use these words with your partner NEVER ALWAYS EVERY ALL NO ONE EVERY ONE
  8. 8. Request Language  “I would like”  “I would appreciate”  “If you could do that, it would be great”  Requests are not demands—remember you want to talk WITH your partner not to or at
  9. 9. Use Listening Skills  Listen—HEAR what’s being said  Acknowledge—understand what’s being said  Validate—communicate that understanding
  10. 10. Conflict Resolution Bruce Mary P(parent){critical} P (parent){critical} A(adult) A(adult) C(child) C(child)
  11. 11. Conflict Resolution  Don’t Argue—takes 2 to argue  If tempers flare take time out  Use “I” language to discuss conflict  Use validation/acknowledgement to let partner know that you understand---EVEN IF YOU DISAGREE
  12. 12. Challenge  What do you want in your relationship? What you have? Something better?  Conflict=change