2. “Without change, everything will
worse, not better.”
Stevan Hobfoll, PhD

4. “Your career won't take care of you. It won't
call you back or introduce you to its parents.
It will forget your birthday and wreck up your
car. Your career will never marry
you...treat you career like a bad boyfriend.
That way, if your career takes a turn, you can
always sleep with somebody else.
Amy Poehler

5. “Being a working mother can be fraught with
tension at certain times. I definitely relate to
the frantic fear that you’re screwing up — of
doing the wrong thing despite the best of
intentions. I get up very early and get a lot
of things done before my kids get up. And I
compartmentalize...
Julia Louis-Dreyfus

6. “Don't forget about your family in
your 20s. Because honestly, you're
gonna need them to baby-sit your
kids when you're in your 30s, and if
you've ignored them or been a
bitch to them, they're not going to
want to help you when you really
need it. And you will need it.
Because it's free.
Judy Greer

7. “I wasn’t going to give up who I was
before I had the baby. It’s important to
stay true to that as an example — also
for my son to find out what his goals
are, what he’s passionate about
doing...It’s a tough thing. I had a
moment leaving him today to get ready
for tonight of missing him, but every
working mom goes through it. They
know what it feels like.
Christina Aguilera

8. “I think [balancing work and family]
is something that most women in
this country can relate to. It’s a
tough balance, trying to be the best
mom. And obviously my family is
my priority. And then also, I love
what I do, and I love that I get to
have a job that I enjoy so much and
gives me the freedom to spend a
lot of time with my daughter, frankly,
and travel and everything else. But
it is hard not to spend every
second with her.
Jessica Alba

9. “I was surrounded by plenty
of working moms. I was
brought up to believe I
could do anything I wanted
professionally and, of
course, be a mother at the
same time. But I’m finding
out that it’s complicated. It
requires a lot of thought
and planning...
Maggie Gyllenhaal

10. “I think it’s a false trade-off to
say quality time vs. quantity
– you have to have both. So
if you have long work hours
like I did, how do you get
rid of things in your life
you don’t need in order to
put that extra time into
your children?
Hillary Clinton

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13. “I'll take all tasks that
can be done remotely,
like paying bills.
Alex Conrad
Sure! I'll take care of
stuffs that needed to
be done in person.”
Parker Conrad
“

14. Be explicit in defining
each others' roles. And
do it in advance! It will
keep things from falling
through the cracks.
Define
Your Rules

15. “Marriages require a lot of
attention and feeding.
Trae Vassallo You've got to make sure that the
relationship is healthy before you
worry about other things.
Steve Vassallo
“

16. Many working couples take
their relationships for granted.
This should not be the case.
When you are with your
spouse, be fully present even
if you have an important
meeting tomorrow morning.
Relationships First

17. “By having logistical things taken
care of on the home front, I feel
like we’re able to spend real
quality time with our kids.
Trae Vassallo

18. Consider hiring a nanny that can take
care of the kids and handle routine tasks
like shopping and child-chauffeuring.
No Time? Outsource!

19. No Time? Outsource!
With errands out of the way, you can
spend whatever little time you have in
building your family relationships.

20. “If the laundry isn't folded properly,
it's no big deal!”
Alex Conrad

21. There are no perfect marriages. If
you expect perfection, you'll end up
stressed and disappointed. Lower
you “Martha Stewart” standards and
don't hold each other accountable
for having a perfect life.
Don’t expect
Perfection

22. “While we were dating, we took
long walks together to talk about
issues and our relationship.
Lindsey Scrase
Now that we are married,
we are still doing it.
Theresa Hagel
“

23. Whatever your habits are -
eating dinner together or
watching movies- make time.
It's a great way to decompress
and enjoy each other's
company.
Keep
Rituals & Habits

24. You’ve got to define what is
important to you as a family,
and you’ve got to stick to it.
Theresa Hagel
“

25. As a couple, set limits and
define what's best for your
family. For instance, if the
husband travels a lot, the
wife should choose a job that
doesn't require too much
travel.
Set Boundaries

26. I guarantee there are a bunch of [men]
in this room who say, ‘I really want to
marry someone who is a brilliant [career
person],’ but then when they get
married, they also want their spouse to
have kids and be a supermom.
Steve Vassallo
“

27. Before marriage, have an
open dialogue about
your expectations of
each other. Be realistic.
Be clear.
Be Realistic

29. Do you really want to use
your family, do you really
ever want to look at your
spouse and your kid, and
see your jailers?

30. Great friend, great spouse,
great parent, great career.
Is that not a package? Is
that not who you are? How
can you be one without the
other?

31. CONCLUSION
A great career
Healthy family relationship
Work-life balance
If you choose to do so, you can ALWAYS
have it all!

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