CALLING MEN AND BOYS
The White Ribbon Campaign works towards inspiring men of all ages to
embrace change. Men can make a difference regarding violence, harassment
and sexual assault.
Their vision is for a masculinity that embodies the best qualities of being human.
They believe that men are part of the solution and part of a future that is safe
and equitable for all people.
White Ribbon positively
teaches men and boys by
programming that challenges
patriarchal language and
behaviors that lead to
violence against women.
Violent relationships in adolescence can have
serious ramifications for victims: Many will
continue to be abused in their adult
relationships and are at a higher risk for
substance abuse, eating disorders, risky
sexual behavior, and suicide.
THINGS MEN CAN DO TO TAKE A STAND
AGAINST SEXUAL ASSAULT AND
This issue is real. Believe survivors’
experiences. Your support will make a
difference. Tell them
‘it’s not your fault ’
No one asks for or deserves to be
sexually assaulted or harassed.
it’s not your fault
Don’t walk on by if you
witness harassment or an
assault on the street or
anywhere: assess the risk,
then intervene and confront
or defuse the situation
TRUST YOUR GUT
Ask if you can help people
who have experienced
violence and connect
them to support services.
Help the organizations
that support survivors of
Lead by example. Question
your own attitudes and
behaviors and how they may
disrespect or harm women.
Sexist language and street
harassment all contribute to a
IT STARTS WITH YOU
culture of violence.
Talk to your family, friends and co-
workers about the roles they can
play in ending violence against
women. Challenge men and young
men in your life to make a
BE A ROLE MODEL
The White Ribbon campaign
offers the resources you need
to get involved and make a
There are many misconceptions often used
by individuals to justify the domestic abuse.
Many do not want to believe they are in an
abusive relationship or are abusing their
partners and use the following statements to
rationalize the abusive behavior from their
partners or themselves:
Domestic violence is rare.
Domestic violence is not a problem in my community.
Domestic violence only happens to poor women.
Domestic violence only happens to women of color.
Some people deserve to be hit.
Domestic violence is a personal problem between families.
If it were that bad, they would just leave.
Alcohol and drug abuse cause domestic violence.
Domestic violence is only a one time, isolate incident.
Domestic violence only happens between husband and wife.
Domestic violence is not a crime.
We strive to:
• Raise awareness in our community of the magnitude, proliferation and
dangers of teen dating abuse;
• Educate and encourage teens to engage in healthy relationship
• Help teens, and parents, to recognize and act upon warning signs;
• Provide resources to identify places of help for teens in
distress, or in potentially dangerous dating situations.
WHAT IS DATING ABUSE?
• Dating abuse is a pattern of controlling
behavior that someone uses against a
girlfriend or a boyfriend. At the heart of
dating abuse is and .POWER CONTROL
• Girls are more likely to yell,
threaten to hurt themselves,
pinch, slap, scratch, or kick;
• Boys injure girls more severely
• Some teen victims experience
• Others are abused more
Teen dating violence
runs across race,
Both males and
females are victims.
GUESS THE STATS - 1
• 1. A comparison of Intimate Partner
Violence rates between teens and adults
reveals that ________are at higher risk of
intimate partner abuse.
GUESS THE STATS - 2
• 2.“_______of female and _________of male
high school students endorse some form of
sexual coercion, including unwanted kissing,
hugging, genital contact, and sexual intercourse.
GUESS THE STATS - 3
• 3. Teen dating abuse most often takes
place in the _________of one of the
GUESS THE STATS - 4
• 4. About ___________teens report verbal,
physical, emotional or sexual abuse each
1 IN 4
GUESS THE STATS - 5
• 5. Only ___________ of teens who have
been in or known about an abusive dating
relationship report having told anyone
GUESS THE STATS - 6
• 6. ______ of parents surveyed either
believe teen dating violence is not an issue
or admit they don’t know if it’s an issue.
DATING VIOLENCE CAN TAKE PLACE IN
PERSON OR ELECTRONICALLY, SUCH AS
REPEATED TEXTING OR POSTING SEXUAL
PICTURES OF A PARTNER ONLINE.
• Ignoring the partner’s
• Intimidation and
• Damaging personal
• Preventing the partner
• Humiliating a partner in
public or private
• Excessive or abusive
• Sharing private
PSYCHOLOGICAL / EMOTIONAL
• Unwanted touching,
kissing, or other sexual
• Making unwanted sexual
• Posting the partner’s
private sexual photos
• Not allowing the partner to
use birth control
• Name calling
• Putdowns of the person
or their family and
• Yelling or shouting
• Insulting the partner’s
beliefs and values
• Using sexually
• Threatening the person
or their family and
• Stealing your money
• Using your ATM or
credit card without your
• Deliberately breaking or
• Not letting you go to
• Stress leads to job loss
• Extreme jealousy
• Controlling behavior
• Quick sexual involvement
• Unpredictable mood wings
• Alcohol or drug use
• Explosive anger
• Isolating a partner from friends
• Using force during an argument
• Showing hypersensitivity
• Believes in rigid gender roles
• Blames others for his or her
problems or feelings
• Cruel to animals or children
• Verbally abusive
• Abused former partners
• Threatens violence
WHITE RIBBON – DASH PROJECT
Washington DC July 19, 2014
Nick Ransom with Wendy
Claunch (Vice President of
Wendy Claunch is the
content manager and
technical writer for DASH.
DASH and WHITE
Materials for our exhibit were
provided by DASH. These items
included a green throw for the
table, a banner, about 200
bracelets that were inscribed
with “dating abuse stops here”,
150 brochures and 100 flyers. In
addition to these materials, we
made about 100 white ribbons,
and the trifold display board.
• Did you know that one in four people will be the
victim of abuse?
Do you know anyone who has been
the victim of abuse?
REFLECTIONS ON THE DAY
• My favorite male interview: "I think dating abuse is a system of patterns and behaviors that
occur between a man and his spouse or whoever he or she is in a relationship with. This can be
anything from sexual abuse to verbal abuse. I guess that would also include emotional and
physical abuse too then." "I really like all the information that you have listed on your fliers and
poster! But yeah, I always had a vague idea of what the warning signs were but never really
knew for sure. I just figured I'd know it when I see it. It's like common sense. I didn't know that
people in these kinds of relationships should create a safety plan for getting out. I guess you
can never be to careful when it comes to protecting yourself" - Josh from Montgomery County
Maryland (White male. He took one of everything)
• Favorite female interview: "WOW! Just WOW! I'm so happy all of yall are doing this! This makes
my day so much better. Seeing young people, especially young men coming out here to
educate the public." "Dating abuse to me is when a male tries to harm the female he is in a
relationship with emotionally, mentally or physically. Sometimes I guess it could be the other
way around too... But I don't think it's that common" "I didn't know people will try to limit your
social circle. I mean I guess my boyfriend could want me to himself all the time. But hopefully
he would never keep me from going out and getting some me time with my friends. That's eye
opening." -Tahlya from Huston Texas (African American female. She took one of everything and
a few extra for her friends)
WHAT HAVE WE LEARNED
• We have learned through this process that no one is immune to violence.
• We have learned that abuse strikes men, women, and children of all nationalities, ages,
educational levels, and income levels.
• We have learned that even those that have a strong support system fall victim to abuse.
• We have learned that the abused is most often silent enabling the abuse to escalate.
• We have learned that there are warning signs that we need to be aware of so that we can
help others in need.
• We have learned that we need to stop others from abusing by talking, educating,
mentoring, and campaigning against abuse.
KEY POINTS TO REMEMBER
• ANYONEcan be a victim of dating violence. Victims (and abusers) come from
all age groups, races, classes and backgrounds.
• ABUSEgets worse over time. It may begin with verbal abuse and escalate to
physical or sexual assault or other violence.
• YOUcannot change the abuser. For any change to take place, the abuser must take
responsibility for his/her behavior.
WHERE TO GO FOR HELP
• National TEEN Dating Abuse Helpline:
• National Domestic Violence Hotline:
• National Sexual Assault Hotline:
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Teen dating violence runs across race, gender, and socioeconomic lines. Both males and females are victims. Violence is not gender specific although boys injure girls more severely. Whether abuse occurs only once or once a day abuse is a crime and must be stopped.
The following slides show some of the horrific statistics that surround dating abuse. A comparison of Intimate Partner Violence rates between teens and adults reveals that teens are at higher risk of intimate partner abuse.
Seventy seven percent of female and 67 percent of male high school students endorse some form of sexual coercion, including unwanted kissing, hugging, genital contact, and sexual intercourse.
Most abuse occurs in the home where typically individuals feel safe. If the abuse is committed in the abused person’s home the trauma is replayed over and over again. Teens do not typically have the resources to leave the home and move elsewhere.
One quarter of teens are the victim of some form of abuse. Since many people remain silent about their abusive experiences the numbers could be much higher.
Only 33 % of teens who have been in or known about an abusive dating relationship report having told anyone about it. There are a number of reasons that this statistic is so alarming. These include fear for themselves, their family and friends, thinking that they deserved to be hit, a lack of self-esteem, feeling like no one will listen, not knowing who to turn to, a lack of trust with authority, and depression.
The number of parents surveyed either believe teen dating violence is not an issue or admit they don’t know if it’s an issue was an astonishing 81%. If the parents are not aware of the problem, then they cannot make their children aware of dating violence and its warning signs.
Dating violence can take place in person or electronically, such as repeated texting or posting sexual pictures of a partner online
The physical actions of abuse include: hitting, slapping, punching, shoving, pinching, kicking, pulling hair, throwing objects, choking, or using a weapon.
The psychological and emotional aspects of violence include, ignoring the partner’s feelings, using intimidation and isolation, displaying inappropriate anger or rage, damaging someone’s personal property, preventing a person from leaving, humiliating a partner in private or public forums, excessive online contact, or sharing private information or photos online.
Sexual abuse can be physical, verbal, or technical. Calling someone sexually explicit names, showing someone’s private sexual photos, or not allowing your partner to use birth control are all sexually abusive acts. Sexual abuse is not just physical unwanted sexual activity of any kind.
Verbal abuse is extremely common. It is so common in fact that many people do not consider this a form of abuse. Most abusers respond by saying that they were just arguing and they didn’t really mean to call them a name or to threaten them. This is one of the first signs of abusive behavior.
Financial abuse is not a type of abuse that readily comes to mind but it is one of the rising issue around teen dating. A partner who steals you money, doesn’t let you go to work, or deliberately breaks your possessions is also considered an abuser.
These are some of the warning signs of an abusive personality. There are others and each individual is different, but this list offers the most common abusive traits. The warning signs include: Extreme jealousy, Controlling behavior, Quick sexual involvement, Unpredictable mood wings, Alcohol or drug use, Explosive anger, Isolating a partner from friends and family, Using force during an argument, Showing hypersensitivity, Believes in rigid gender roles, Blames others for his or her problems or feelings, Cruel to animals or children, Verbally abusive, Abused former partners, and Threatens violence.
Our physical project consisted of a booth with information, pamphlets, bracelets, key chains, and white ribbons. The location was to be in one of the larger downtown DC shopping venues. However, we were unable to get the necessary permits so we set up along one of the gravel pathways that boarder the national mall in Washington DC. We were about halfway between the Washington Monument and the Capitol Building. This ended up working much better than the original plan, because there was a more diverse population of people that walked by the exhibit.
Wendy Claunch is the Vice President of DASH. She helped us with our project by offering support and guidance to anyone who stopped and had questions. She provided her time offering us and others her invaluable expertise to go compliment our colorful display.
Nick made a tri-fold poster and put information from the DASH website all over it. It was bright, colorful and eye catching. We also made 80 white support ribbons and put them in a basket. We brought a table and two chairs. Wendy supplied us with a green throw for the table, a banner, about 200 rubber bracelets that said "dating abuse stops here" on them which went in the other basket, 150 brochures and 100 fliers. She also gave us about 20 pins and 15 or so key chains. We also listened to the advice that we received from one of our classmates and offered people the opportunity to take a very short two question survey. The survey was anonymous as no personal information was obtained.
We passed out all our pamphlets and fliers, as well as all the bracelets and key chains. In the four hours we were there we counted 253 people who stopped by our booth. Of those 253. one hundred and twenty seven of them took the survey.