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Communication and Conversation

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Communication, especially in the US, will bring you riches. These 27 slides will help you make good friends anywhere in the world under every circumstance.

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Communication and Conversation

  1. 1. Start a Conversation and Make Friends BIBU(r) Better India Better US bibu.life@gmail.com http://www.linkedin.com/in/bibulife Tweet: @bibulife 2015-2016
  2. 2. Acknowledgments  “How to Start a Conversation and Make Friends” – Don Gabor  “Ten Powerful Phrases for Positive People” – Rich DeVos BIBU(r) Better India Better US bibu.life@gmail.com http://www.linkedin.com/in/bibulife Tweet: @bibulife 2015-2016
  3. 3. Introducing Newer Topics to …  Strangers No previous judgments, no previous opinions …  Relatives Exactly opposite to strangers BIBU(r) Better India Better US bibu.life@gmail.com http://www.linkedin.com/in/bibulife Tweet: @bibulife 2015-2016
  4. 4. S-O-F-T-E-N Body Language  Research shows that over half of face-to- face conversation is nonverbal.  S: Smile BIBU(r) Better India Better US bibu.life@gmail.com http://www.linkedin.com/in/bibulife Tweet: @bibulife 2015-2016
  5. 5. S-O-F-T-E-N Body Language  O: Open Arms BIBU(r) Better India Better US bibu.life@gmail.com http://www.linkedin.com/in/bibulife Tweet: @bibulife 2015-2016
  6. 6. S-O-F-T-E-N Body Language  F: Forward Lean BIBU(r) Better India Better US bibu.life@gmail.com http://www.linkedin.com/in/bibulife Tweet: @bibulife 2015-2016
  7. 7. S-O-F-T-E-N Body Language  T:Touch START END BIBU(r) Better India Better US bibu.life@gmail.com http://www.linkedin.com/in/bibulife Tweet: @bibulife 2015-2016
  8. 8. S-O-F-T-E-N Body Language  E: Eye Contact BIBU(r) Better India Better US bibu.life@gmail.com http://www.linkedin.com/in/bibulife Tweet: @bibulife 2015-2016
  9. 9. S-O-F-T-E-N Body Language  N: Nod However, a nod does not necessarily mean agreement. If you want to be sure someone agrees with what you’re saying, ask, “Do you agree?” BIBU(r) Better India Better US bibu.life@gmail.com http://www.linkedin.com/in/bibulife Tweet: @bibulife 2015-2016
  10. 10. Ways to Start Conversations 1. Make a positive or light-hearted comment. 2. Ask a closed-ended or open-ended question. 3. Offer a compliment followed by an easy-to-answer question. 4. Introduce yourself. BIBU(r) Better India Better US bibu.life@gmail.com http://www.linkedin.com/in/bibulife Tweet: @bibulife 2015-2016
  11. 11. RevealYour Goals Reveal your goals and struggles. ◦ Most people empathize with you and will usually be encouraging. ◦ They may assist you in some way. BIBU(r) Better India Better US bibu.life@gmail.com http://www.linkedin.com/in/bibulife Tweet: @bibulife 2015-2016
  12. 12. 5 Seconds to Remembering Names  The first second: ◦ Focus on the moment of introduction.  The second second: ◦ Don’t think about what to say – listen for the name.  The third second: ◦ Repeat the name aloud.  The fourth second: ◦ Think of someone you know with the same name.  The fifth second: ◦ Use the name during and at the end of the conversation. BIBU(r) Better India Better US bibu.life@gmail.com http://www.linkedin.com/in/bibulife Tweet: @bibulife 2015-2016
  13. 13. Keep the Conversation Going  Key Words ◦ People ◦ Places ◦ Things ◦ Other specific details that “paint pictures” for the listener. BIBU(r) Better India Better US bibu.life@gmail.com http://www.linkedin.com/in/bibulife Tweet: @bibulife 2015-2016
  14. 14. Keep the Conversation Going  Free Information ◦ Facts and details a speaker volunteers without specifically being asked.  Tip: Use free information to change topics that are important to you. BIBU(r) Better India Better US bibu.life@gmail.com http://www.linkedin.com/in/bibulife Tweet: @bibulife 2015-2016
  15. 15. Keep the Conversation Going  Common Interests ◦ Areas of mutual experience and involvement. BIBU(r) Better India Better US bibu.life@gmail.com http://www.linkedin.com/in/bibulife Tweet: @bibulife 2015-2016
  16. 16. Keep the Conversation Going  Hot Buttons ◦ Try to find the really big events in a person’s life – they create big enthusiasm in a person’s life. BIBU(r) Better India Better US bibu.life@gmail.com http://www.linkedin.com/in/bibulife Tweet: @bibulife 2015-2016
  17. 17. GettingYour Ideas Across  Encourage Cooperation and Receptivity. ◦ Tell others the purpose of your conversation. ◦ Develop respect for others. BIBU(r) Better India Better US bibu.life@gmail.com http://www.linkedin.com/in/bibulife Tweet: @bibulife 2015-2016
  18. 18. EndYour Conversation Gracefully  Step 1: Restate something interesting the other person said.  Step 2: Say you enjoyed the chat. BIBU(r) Better India Better US bibu.life@gmail.com http://www.linkedin.com/in/bibulife Tweet: @bibulife 2015-2016
  19. 19. EndYour Conversation Gracefully  Step 3: (optional) Say,“let’s talk again soon.”  Step 4: Use the person’s name and say goodbye. BIBU(r) Better India Better US bibu.life@gmail.com http://www.linkedin.com/in/bibulife Tweet: @bibulife 2015-2016
  20. 20. 50 Ways to ImproveYour Conversations 1. Be the first to say hello. 2. Introduce yourself to others. 3. Take risks. Don’t anticipate rejection. 4. Display your sense of humor. 5. Be receptive to new ideas. 6. Make an extra effort to remember people’s names. 7. Ask a person’s name if you have forgotten it. 8. Show curiosity and interest in others. 9. Tell other people about the important events in your life. 10. Tell others about yourself, and what your likes are. 11. Show others that you are a good listener by restating their comments in another manner. 12. Communicate enthusiasm and excitement about things and life in general to those you meet. 13. Go out of your way to meet new people. BIBU(r) Better India Better US bibu.life@gmail.com http://www.linkedin.com/in/bibulife Tweet: @bibulife 2015-2016
  21. 21. 50 Ways to ImproveYour Conversations 14. Accept a person’s right to be an individual. 15. Show your sense of humor when talking to others. 16. Tell others what you do in a few short sentences. 17. Reintroduce yourself to someone who has forgotten your name. 18. Tell others something interesting or challenging about what you do. 19. Be aware of open and closed body language. 20. Use eye contact and smiling as your first contact with people. 21. Greet people you see regularly. 22. Seek common interests, goals, and experiences in the people you meet. 23. Make an effort to help people if you can. 24. Let others play the expert. 25. Be open to answering common ritual questions. 26. Get enthusiastic about other people’s interests. BIBU(r) Better India Better US bibu.life@gmail.com http://www.linkedin.com/in/bibulife Tweet: @bibulife 2015-2016
  22. 22. 50 Ways to ImproveYour Conversations 27. Balance the giving and receiving of information. 28. Be able to speak about a variety of topics and subjects. 29. Keep abreast of current events and the issues that affect all of our lives. 30. Be open to other people’s opinions and feelings. 31. Express your feelings, opinions, and emotions to others. 32. Use “I” and reveal your feelings when you talk about personal things. 33. Don’t use the word “you” when you mean “I”. 34. Show others that you are enjoying your conversations with them. 35. Invite people to join you for dinner, social events, or other activities for companionship. 36. Keep in touch with friends and acquaintances. BIBU(r) Better India Better US bibu.life@gmail.com http://www.linkedin.com/in/bibulife Tweet: @bibulife 2015-2016
  23. 23. 50 Ways to ImproveYour Conversations 37. Ask other people their opinions. 38. Look for the positive in those you meet. 39. Start and end your conversation with a person’s name and a handshake or warm greeting. 40. Take time to be cordial with your neighbors and coworkers. 41. Let others know that you want to get to know them better. 42. Ask others about things they have told you in previous conversations. 43. Listen carefully for free information. 44. Be tolerant of other people’s beliefs if they differ from yours. 45. Change the topic of conversation when it has run its course. BIBU(r) Better India Better US bibu.life@gmail.com http://www.linkedin.com/in/bibulife Tweet: @bibulife 2015-2016
  24. 24. 50 Ways to ImproveYour Conversations 46. Always search for another person’s “hot button”. 47. Compliment others about what they are wearing, doing, or saying. 48. Encourage others to talk with you by sending out receptivity signals. 49. Make an effort to see and talk to people you enjoy and have fun with. 50. When you tell a story, present the main point first, and then add the supporting details afterward. BIBU(r) Better India Better US bibu.life@gmail.com http://www.linkedin.com/in/bibulife Tweet: @bibulife 2015-2016
  25. 25. Ten Powerful Phrases 1. “I’m wrong” 2. “I’m sorry” 3. “You can do it” 4. “I believe in you” 5. “I’m proud of you” BIBU(r) Better India Better US bibu.life@gmail.com http://www.linkedin.com/in/bibulife Tweet: @bibulife 2015-2016
  26. 26. Ten Powerful Phrases 6. “Thank you” 7. “I need you” 8. “I trust you” 9. “I respect you” 10.“I love you” BIBU(r) Better India Better US bibu.life@gmail.com http://www.linkedin.com/in/bibulife Tweet: @bibulife 2015-2016
  27. 27. Ten Powerful Phrases  With the ten previous powerful phrases, we can all make our homes, communities, and world more positive places to live. To have a friend, you have to be a friend. BIBU(r) Better India Better US bibu.life@gmail.com http://www.linkedin.com/in/bibulife Tweet: @bibulife 2015-2016

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