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Communication and personal_identity

  1. 1. “Communication and Personal Identity” (Chapter 2)<br />Brad Gangnon<br />Interpersonal Relations <br />2011 April 12<br />
  2. 2. Stuart Smalley: Saturday Night Live<br />“Because I'm good enough, I'm smart enough, and, doggonit, people like me!”<br />The end of “Daily Affirmations”<br />"I am a human being, not a human doing.”<br />"I am a worthy human being.“<br />"Trace it, face it, and erase it.“<br />Thank you to the talented writer Al Franken and his colleagues at SNL!<br />
  3. 3. Quotations from Politicians<br />“Ladies and gentlemen of the convention: My name is Geraldine Ferraro. I stand before you to proclaim tonight: America is the land where dreams can come true for all of us.”<br />1984<br />To the families of special-needs children all across this country, I have a message: For years, you sought to make America a more welcoming place for your sons and daughters.I pledge to you that if we are elected, you will have a friend and advocate in the White House. <br />2008 (Sarah Palin)<br />
  4. 4. What is The Self? (p. 42)<br />Multidimensional process<br />Process = happens in time and space <br />Multidimensional = many parts<br />Internalizing <br />In my mind <br />Acting <br />What I do <br />Social Perspectives<br />Family<br />Friends<br />Community <br />
  5. 5. Self Concept<br />My personal understanding of who I AM<br />Built from Particular Others <br />Direct Definition <br />Reflected Appraisals <br />Identity Scripts <br />Attachment Styles <br />And the Generalized Other <br />Race<br />Gender<br />Sexual Orientation<br />Socioeconomic Class<br />
  6. 6. Particular Others<br />Mother <br />Father <br />Siblings <br />Grandparents<br />Cousins<br />Aunts/Uncles<br />Spouse/Partner<br />Children <br />Parents friends<br />Daycare Provider<br />Pastor/Priest <br />Teachers<br />Classmates<br />Friends <br />Coworkers <br />Supervisor/Boss<br />In the family <br />Outside the family<br />
  7. 7. Direct Definition (pp. 43-44)<br />“…communication that tells us who we are by explicitly labeling us and our behaviors”<br />Positive improves our self-esteem (value we place on ourselves) <br />Praise <br />“You are an excellent _________”<br />You did a good job at _________”<br />“Thank you!”<br />Negative harms our self-esteem<br />Put Down <br />“You screwed up ________”<br />“You should try harder” <br />“ …. Because I said so!”<br />
  8. 8. Reflected Appraisal <br />Others are a mirror for how we see/interpret/evaluate ourselves <br />Mental Process <br />“I think you believe …”<br />“I believe you believe …”<br />“I know you believe …”<br />Three Types: Uppers, Downers, Vultures<br />Uppers <br />Admire and accept <br />Downers<br />Point out and put down<br />Vultures<br />Exploit and attach<br />
  9. 9. Self-Fulfilling Prophecies <br />Internalize and behave <br />First, “we internalize others’ expectations and judgments about us” (p.46)<br />Then, we “behave in ways that are consistent with those expectations and judgments” (p. 46)<br />Reflected appraisal is observed <br />Indirect messages may be intentional or unintentional <br />You see a friend being complemented for working hard<br />Your parents hold the new baby more than they cuddle with you<br />Your sibling is punished for cheating on a test<br />Winners are told “Good game” by losers<br />
  10. 10. “Soft Kitty” Big Bang Theory<br /><br />
  11. 11. Identity Scripts<br />The rules for creating our identities <br />Roles<br />Actions<br />Stories <br />
  12. 12. The Generalized Other <br />Defined: “the views generally held by others in a society” (p.49)<br />Revealed in 3 Ways <br />Learned through interaction<br />Media and institutions <br />Institutional Values<br />
  13. 13. The Big Categories: Race<br />What is this person’s race?<br />How do you know?<br />
  14. 14. The BIG Categories Gender<br />Is this person male or female? <br />How do you know?<br />
  15. 15. The Big Categories: Sexual Orientation<br />What is this person’s sexual orientation?<br />How do you know?<br />
  16. 16. The Big Categories: Socioeconomic Class<br />What class does this person belong to? <br />How do you know?<br />
  17. 17. Recap<br />The self<br />Multidimensional and internalized from particular and general others <br />Learned/developed 4 ways<br />Direct Definition<br />Reflective Appraisal <br />Identity Scripts<br />Attachment Style (just from the reading) <br />Generalized Other <br />Race<br />Gender<br />Sexual Orientation<br />Socioeconomic Class<br />