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Dreaming human incompleteness


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presented at 2012 IASD International Conference, Berkeley (USA)

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Dreaming human incompleteness

  1. 1. water dreams Dreaming music the Human IncompletenessMassimo Schinco - Psychotherapist, Italy
  2. 2. in this presentation I will propose somethoughts and suggestions on the subject ofhuman incompleteness and its opposite,the fantasy of completenessour dreams reveal this fantasy in a quiteeffective way and may help us to makeimportant shifts in our existential positionand social behavior in order to recognizeour incompleteness and live aligned with it Massimo Schinco - Psychotherapist, Italy
  3. 3. the hypothesis underlying this claim is thatwe act as co – creators of the sharedreality in a frame ofcontinuitybetween our waking and dreaming statebetween our perceptions and actionsbetween the world of dreams and the“world of material actions” Massimo Schinco - Psychotherapist, Italy
  4. 4. one of the basic issue in understanding thenature both of continuity and co –creation itis the nature ofboundariesand how they are generated Massimo Schinco - Psychotherapist, Italy
  5. 5. XX Xthe “SEX SALAD” dream Massimo Schinco - Psychotherapist, Italy
  6. 6. a woman in her 50s had the following dream“my husband and I go to a party at dear friends’ homewe decided that everybody would bring something toeatI choose to prepare a salad of exterior genital partseverybody contributes: penis, testicles, labia and alsonipples and breasts are cut and chopped in a big bowlat last, to improve the taste, I add some oil and parsley” Massimo Schinco - Psychotherapist, Italy
  7. 7. the dreamer is settled with her marriage and sexual lifebut she is facing other family issues, due to the badhealth conditions of parents and other relativessince years she is striving to defend the boundaries of herown family without going into an open conflict with otherrelatives and without neglecting the needs of the eldersin the last years she got very stressed; the quality of herown life has been reduced and the physician hasprescribed antidepressant to her Massimo Schinco - Psychotherapist, Italy
  8. 8. discussing the dream many interesting elements emerge:in the dream the woman shows a shadowy “witchy” sideof herself (in waking life she is usually considered resolute,but sweet and helpful)with her deeds in the dream she cancels all differencesand destroys the family’s structureshe reveals not only anger and desires of revenge, butalso the desire of getting a new youth and sharing amagic power with her husband and dear friends Massimo Schinco - Psychotherapist, Italy
  9. 9. the dream shows what a fantasy of completeness can be:actually, the dreamer does not features herself as “a partof” larger human systems, because considering oneself as“a part of” would imply that:nobody can stand simply thanks to him/herselfeverybody exists as a self-conscious manifestation of awholenessappropriate and variable boundaries ensure the balancebetween individuation and belongings Massimo Schinco - Psychotherapist, Italy
  10. 10. in the dream instead she features herself as if she wasstriving for“becoming the “whole of all parts” (F. Mina)where all boundaries and distinctions regarding family,couple, gender, individuals and bodily limits are cancelled Massimo Schinco - Psychotherapist, Italy
  11. 11. the inhabitants of the small planets in Saint –Exupery’s “Le Petit Prince” provide effectivemetaphors of the existential position relatedto such a fantasy Massimo Schinco - Psychotherapist, Italy
  12. 12. our dreamer feels rather as if she would be the lamplighter, doomed to never giving up duly lighting and shutting, and faster and faster, a lamp whose light nobody can appreciate …Massimo Schinco - Psychotherapist, Italy
  13. 13. in the same time that the dreamer had the dream anddiscussed it, her attitude to family issues began to basicallychangeshe began to manage more effectively with her ownresponsibilities and those of othersshe became more self- confident and easy in asking forhelp and accepting itshe changed her way to keep situations under control,taking some emotional distance and in the meantimestanding firmly on strategic issues Massimo Schinco - Psychotherapist, Italy
  14. 14. a dream in a Jungian keyMassimo Schinco - Psychotherapist, Italy
  15. 15. a dream-passionate man had this dream“my Soul and I were talking on a balcony. As usual my Soul wasmuch more clever than me, and she said that I was naïf. Out ofthe blue down on the street my Shadow appeared and  waschasing after me. Apparently my Soul helped me to hide fromShadow. We went up some dangerous  spiral staircase andentered an apartment where a happy family was . Not myfamily in the waking reality, but my family in that dream. I triedto hide there but my Shadow sought me out so, since this familycould be in danger because of me, I decided to face himdirectly. He had a gun and I challenged him: ok, shoot me now.Out of a sudden I understood he would not be able to do soanymore, he was defeated and harmless. I took his gun anddismantled it” Massimo Schinco - Psychotherapist, Italy
  16. 16. the dreamer features himself in a dyad on a balcony,together with his own charming soul, far above of the dirtyground and crowded streets … as if they were Dante andBeatrice … what a wonderful twosome!in order to fulfill his fantasy of completeness the dreamerdenies that he himself works as an open system,exchanging energy, materials and information with theenvironment (i.e.: others). He tends to put himself in ahigher position, separate from multiple interaction andexchangethe elements that would contrast this view are treated asrubbish, which is put “out there” on somebody elses back Massimo Schinco - Psychotherapist, Italy
  17. 17. small surprise if what he has rejected and foughtwill fight him in turn, in his dream as a jungianshadow, and in his waking life taking the shapeof negative feelings and actual troubledrelationsin his dream he tries to solve the problem with afurther “ascending strategy”, that will fail whenhe’ll finally take note that he is part of a familyin this very moment his soul disappears and hisshadow becomes innocuous … Massimo Schinco - Psychotherapist, Italy
  18. 18. it makes an important difference toconceive that one’s own soul may bedevised as a family, instead of anindividual, though magic and charmingthis individual can bethe relation with the soul (and,consequently, with the collectiveunconscious) it is no longer a couplerelationship, which is always tending tosymbiosis, becoming much moreorganized and complex instead Massimo Schinco - Psychotherapist, Italy
  19. 19. the being part of a family means to becaught up in not rescindable bonds withrelativesfamily and relativity belong to the sameorder of realitynot rarely, those who have a strongaffinity with the absolute (i.e.: creativeand highly spiritual persons, sportsmenetc.), tend to have troubles in family life Massimo Schinco - Psychotherapist, Italy
  20. 20. reflections for further steps in theoryand practice Massimo Schinco - Psychotherapist, Italy
  21. 21. the taking into account a view of reality based on theidea of continuity implies to devise human beings asperceivers and contributors to the creation of realityespecially by their descriptions of the reality itselfthis view has someway being explored by manyphilosophers, scholars and scientistsin the specific field of dreams the hypothesis ofcontinuity and the nature of boundaries have beenprobed in particular by Ernest Hartmann (2010, 2011) Massimo Schinco - Psychotherapist, Italy
  22. 22. in several previous works of mine I claimed that theway humans feel, think, look at and act in relation toeach other should be approached as a whole(perception, actions and feelings are in functionone of each other) that we can represent aspatterns and processesthese patterns of feelings, thoughts, actions andperceptions reveal themselves as obeyingunderlying ordersboundaries (which distinguish a pattern fromanother one) are a concrete manifestation oforders and feature self –similarity (boundaries tendto have fractal nature) Massimo Schinco - Psychotherapist, Italy
  23. 23. just recall that order is not “something morethan chaos”, it is less insteadin mathematics, chaos does not mean“disorder” but complexity of an infinitedegree, where our capacity of representationfailsthen, every time we “introduce” order, weactually take something important away Massimo Schinco - Psychotherapist, Italy
  24. 24. with this, I’m focusing on the fact that, everytime we introduce order into the chaoticstream of our consciousness, we operate areduction and a simplification that willinteract (more or less harmoniously) withothers’ reductions and simplifications Massimo Schinco - Psychotherapist, Italy
  25. 25. also, in the waking state we have“something less” than in the dreamingstate (we are less aware of emotions,secret desires, personal epistemology andso on)and, conversely, in the dreaming statewe have “something less” than in thewaking state (we disregard theimportance of actual deeds, boundariesand action in “material life”) Massimo Schinco - Psychotherapist, Italy
  26. 26. each one of these conditions tends topresent itself as independent andcomplete, meanwhile both areincomplete and interconnectedrepresentations of the same wholenessthe process of comparing andconnecting the two conditions may haveimportant effects on the life of thedreamerwhy? Massimo Schinco - Psychotherapist, Italy
  27. 27. provided that a complete answer to such aquestion does not existand eventually, in the light of what I statedabove, it should be clear that a completeinterpretation of a dream can not exist Massimo Schinco - Psychotherapist, Italy
  28. 28. I wouldn’t exclude that part of thiseffectiveness may derive straightly fromthe fact that, to be performed, thisprocess of comparison and connectionrequires participants to put themselves inan attitude of relativity andincompleteness in the very frame ofspecific and emotionally important lifecircumstances Massimo Schinco - Psychotherapist, Italy
  29. 29. more than the content of a particularinterpretation in itself, it is the quality ofthis process of re – alignment that allowsthe systems involved to enter self –healingpathways Massimo Schinco - Psychotherapist, Italy
  30. 30. thank you!Massimo Schinco - Psychotherapist, Italy