Session 10: X3pure Men’s Series
Reinventing Our Lives
Review
Review
         Unwanted Sexual Behavior
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Review
                   Unwanted Sexual Behavior
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                              |
 White-...
Acceptance of Conditional Love
Acceptance of Conditional Love
  • Non-Sexual Emotional Trigger is Conditional
   Love
Conditional Love
Conditional Love
  • Self-differentiation:
Conditional Love
  • Self-differentiation:
    - an ability to see yourself as separate from those people or groups of
   ...
Conditional Love
Conditional Love
  • We all come from and belong to different
   “systems”.
Conditional Love
  • We all come from and belong to different
   “systems”.
  - Whatever the role we grew up playing, we a...
Reinventing Our Lives
Reinventing Our Lives
  • We feel drawn toward acting out sexually
   when the world around us makes us feel as if it
   i...
Reinventing Our Lives
  • We feel drawn toward acting out sexually
   when the world around us makes us feel as if it
   i...
Four Target Points
Four Target Points
 Recovery Target #1: Psychological Examination of Feelings.
Four Target Points
 Recovery Target #1: Psychological Examination of Feelings.


 Recovery Target #2: Seeking, Establishin...
Four Target Points
 Recovery Target #1: Psychological Examination of Feelings.


 Recovery Target #2: Seeking, Establishin...
Four Target Points
 Recovery Target #1: Psychological Examination of Feelings.


 Recovery Target #2: Seeking, Establishin...
Reinventing Our Lives
Reinventing Our Lives
  • To become and remain sober means that a
   man needs to reinvent his life
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X3 pure men's chapt 10a

  1. 1. Session 10: X3pure Men’s Series Reinventing Our Lives
  2. 2. Review
  3. 3. Review Unwanted Sexual Behavior | |
  4. 4. Review Unwanted Sexual Behavior | | White-Knuckle Change Real Change | | | | Abstinence Understanding of Physiology | | | | Relapse Abstinence | | Acceptance of Conditional Love | | Pursuit of Unconditional Love
  5. 5. Acceptance of Conditional Love
  6. 6. Acceptance of Conditional Love • Non-Sexual Emotional Trigger is Conditional Love
  7. 7. Conditional Love
  8. 8. Conditional Love • Self-differentiation:
  9. 9. Conditional Love • Self-differentiation: - an ability to see yourself as separate from those people or groups of people in your life who love you conditionally, which means that they don’t just love you for who you are (warts and all), but love you only if you act or behave in a certain way.
  10. 10. Conditional Love
  11. 11. Conditional Love • We all come from and belong to different “systems”.
  12. 12. Conditional Love • We all come from and belong to different “systems”. - Whatever the role we grew up playing, we are expected to continue playing that role by the rest of the members of the family because their roles depend on us remaining in the role they expect us to play.
  13. 13. Reinventing Our Lives
  14. 14. Reinventing Our Lives • We feel drawn toward acting out sexually when the world around us makes us feel as if it is not OK to be whom we are and that in order to receive love we need to be someone whom we aren’t.
  15. 15. Reinventing Our Lives • We feel drawn toward acting out sexually when the world around us makes us feel as if it is not OK to be whom we are and that in order to receive love we need to be someone whom we aren’t. • If conditional love is the cause for our acting out sexually, then the solution to our unwanted sexual behavior is the conversion, or change, of conditional love into unconditional love.
  16. 16. Four Target Points
  17. 17. Four Target Points Recovery Target #1: Psychological Examination of Feelings.
  18. 18. Four Target Points Recovery Target #1: Psychological Examination of Feelings. Recovery Target #2: Seeking, Establishing and Engaging in Community.
  19. 19. Four Target Points Recovery Target #1: Psychological Examination of Feelings. Recovery Target #2: Seeking, Establishing and Engaging in Community. Recovery Target #3: Truth, Trust and Territory.
  20. 20. Four Target Points Recovery Target #1: Psychological Examination of Feelings. Recovery Target #2: Seeking, Establishing and Engaging in Community. Recovery Target #3: Truth, Trust and Territory. Recovery Target #4: Development and Exploration of Genuine Faith.
  21. 21. Reinventing Our Lives
  22. 22. Reinventing Our Lives • To become and remain sober means that a man needs to reinvent his life

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