B ODY L ANGUAGE Known as kinesics (pronounced kineesicks) - is a significant aspect of modern communications and relationships. Body language goes both ways: Your own body language reveals your feelings and meanings to others. Other peoples body language reveals their feelings and meanings to you. The sending and receiving of body language signals happens on conscious and unconscious levels.
Body language is especially crucial when we meet someone for the first time. Body language is very influential in forming impressions on first meeting someone. The effect happens both ways - to and from When we meet someone for the first time, their body language, on conscious and unconscious levels, largely determines our initial impression of them. In turn when someone meets us for the first time, they form their initial impression of us largely from our body language and non-verbal signals.
B ODY LANGUAGE INVOLVES … how we position our bodies our closeness to and the space between us and other people (proxemics), and how this changes our facial expressions our eyes especially and how our eyes move and focus how we touch ourselves and others how our bodies connect with other non-bodily things, for instance, pens, cigarettes, spectacles and clothing our breathing, and other less noticeable physical effects, for example our heartbeat and perspiration
T HIS IS HELPFUL ESPECIALLY WHEN … to determine if a person is paying attention to see if a person is confident or insecure to spot if someone is lying
W E READ BODY LANGUAGE THROUGH … Eyes Mouth Head Arms Hands Handshakes Legs and feet Personal space
E YES Looking to their right or up and to their right: Using their imagination – watch out for exaggeration of the truth or for complete lies. Looking down and to their right, or to their left, or up and to their left: –>Using their memory – they are being honest and truthful. - Looking down and to their left: –>Deep in thought.
S TANDING When you stand, keep your back straight, middle section in alignment with your back, shoulders back, and head up. This posture connotes comfort with yourself and ease in the situation. Slouching, sticking your belly out, stuffing your hands in your pockets, and folding your arms defensively all suggest aggressive unease.
S ITTING Sit with a straight back and with your legs together in front of you or crossed, either at the knee or at the ankle. Normally, women dont cross their legs, but men are allowed. Avoid jiggling your knee, which is a sign of nervousness (and can be pretty annoying to people sitting near you).
H ANDS Some people talk with their hands; others stand with their hands glued to their sides. Most people havent the foggiest notion what their hands are doing when they talk. Using your hands can be effective sometimes, aggressive sometimes, and irrelevant most of the time. Controlling your hands takes effort and willpower. Monitor your hand movements. Avoid making sweeping, cappuccino-clearing gestures during meetings. If you have to, sit on your hands.