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Memahami Psikologi Remaja Zaman Sekarang

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Memahami Psikologi Remaja Zaman Sekarang

  1. 1. Memahami Psikologi Remaja Masa Kini
  2. 2. Takruf Nama Dari Mana? Study – apa dan di mana? Keja – apa dan di mana? Satu sebab nak jadi fascilitator MHI?
  3. 3. Interactive I 2 tugas utaman facilitator MHI? 2 objektif utama MHI? 2 cabaran utama sebagai facilitator MHI?
  4. 4. Interactive II What is adolescence? Apa itu REMAJA? Siapa itu REMAJA?
  5. 5. DEFINISI REMAJA
  6. 6. Western DefinitionBayi Kanak-Kanak Remaja Dewasa • 0 – 1 year • 2 – 10/11 years • Puberty, 10/11 – early 20s
  7. 7. Islamic Family Law (Federal Territories) Act 1984, s. 84(1)(2)  The right of hadinah(custody) to the custody of the child terminates upon the child attaining the age of seven, in the case of a male, and the age of nine years in the case of female, but the Court may upon the application of hadinah, allows her to retain the custody of the child until the attainment of the age of nine years, in the case of a male, and the age of eleven years in the case of a female.  After termination of the right of hadinah, the custody devolves upon the father, and if the child has reached the age of discernment (mumayyiz), he or she shall have a choice of living with either of the parents, unless the Court otherwise orders.
  8. 8. Definisi Islam Within the Islamic education system, there are principally three fundamental stages in the manner in which education should be imparted to children. Between birth until six a child must be showered with utmost care and affection so much so that by the time he reaches the age of seven, he is convinced and secured of his parents’ love and affection. Between the ages of seven till ten, discipline must be introduced for this is the period when he reaches the age of discretion/discerning (mumaiyyiz) during which he should be encouraged to perform the basic rites of Islam namely performance of prayers and fasting during the Ramadhan. When he reaches ten disciplinary measures ought to be imposed upon non-compliance.
  9. 9. Definisi Islam Diangkatkan pembebanan hukum dari tiga (jenis orang): orang tidur sampai dia bangun, anak kecil sampai dia baligh, dan orang gila sampai ia sembuh. (Bukhari, Abu Daud, al- Tirmidzi, al-Nasai, Ibnu Majah dan al-Daruquthni dari Aisyah dan Ali bin Abi Thalib).
  10. 10. Definisi Islam  Lahir – 6 tahun – “Menatang minyak yang penuh”  Curahkan segala kasih sayang  6 tahun – Mumayyiz  Mula ajar asas-asas agama dan ibadah wajib  Mereka sebagai murid  10 tahun ke atas – akil baligh  Mula perkasakan disiplin  Mereka sebagai kawan – dengan batas yang sesuai
  11. 11. Interactive III Based on your observations, what describes “remaja”? What are the keywords that describe/symbolize/explain “remaja”?
  12. 12. Psikologi Remaja
  13. 13. 1: Ingin tahu, ingin rasa, ingin cuba… (Curiosity)
  14. 14. Generasi Y
  15. 15. Anti- tradition? Question everything Rebellious Think and act outside the box New things are always good!
  16. 16. Teknik Interaksi  Layani dan santuni semua pertanyaan  Jangan terlalu “skema” atau “judgemental”  Gunakan “experiential” learning Role-play, doing things, critical thinking, rhetorical questions  Jom kita “alami” di minda, sebelum rasa- rasa dan buat-buat  Selitkan pandangan Qur’an dan Sunnah  17:32; 23:3; 3:90-91
  17. 17. 2: Kecelaruan Identiti
  18. 18. Identity Search
  19. 19. Identity Search  Traditional agents of identity development:  Family  Religion/Nilai  Community  Friends  School  Modern agents:  Technology (all kinds of gadgets)  Schools  Friends  Now & Then  Then – emphasis on being the same  Now – emphasis on being unique, different, one of a kind
  20. 20. Penceraian di Malaysia  2000 – 2010 – peningkatan 105%  2012 – 20%  1 penceraian bagi setiap 5 perkahwinan  Lebih 80% kes penceraian melibatkan pasangan Muslim  1 penceraian dalam 15 minit
  21. 21. Teknik Interaksi  Kitalah ibu, kitalah ayah  Terimalah mereka “seadanya”, dengarkan cerita mereka, peluk dan ciumlah perasaan mereka  Kitalah kawan  Fahamilah ranjau hidup mereka, selamilah lubuk hati mereka  Perkenalkan icons atau role models yang positif  Perkenalkan icons atau role models yang positif – dari Qur’an dan Sunnah  Perkenalkan “identiti kerjaya”
  22. 22. 3: Teknologi & Internet
  23. 23. Techno Savvy
  24. 24. Techno Savvy Internet, computer, “Windows” to other worlds  Technology  Shortens emotions  Truncates thinking  Everything is at a click of a mouse – fast, fast, fast!  Technology is the source of  Information – good and bad  Making human connections – FB, etc.  Entertainment – music, games, etc.  Visual/physical stimulation  Addiction
  25. 25. Data from CIA World Factbook, as of 12 Jan. 2012  China  United States  Japan  Brazil  Germany  India  Malaysia (26)  Singapore (65)  Samoa (198)  Tonga (199)  East Timor (207)
  26. 26. Star, 17 Nov 2012 (done by Nielsen & Social Bakers)  Internet users in Malaysia view social network sites 14 billion time every month  Malaysian internet users spend almost 20 hours per week online  80% Malaysian have downloaded videos, followed by 51% actively in YouTube activity  87.9% of Malaysians on the internet access Facebook  67% of YouTube videos viewed in Malaysia  Singapore lead the Asian region in online usage, spending 25 hours online each week, followed by Pilipino 21.5% and 19.8% Malaysians  Total 13 million of Facebook users in Malaysia
  27. 27. Penggunaan Internet di Kalangan Remaja Malaysia  Chatting/Social Networking - FB  Hiburan (muzik, drama, games, etc.)  Maklumat  Pornography - sex  Kerja sekolah
  28. 28. Internet Addiction  Count the number of hours online  21 hours, excluding academic-related  Find the reason – gaming:  Lonely, looking for friends  Parents not getting along – stress buster  Power or dominance issue  Financial reward  Gradually reduce the number of hours online  Replace the free hours with other healthy activities, but giving similar emotional satisfaction  Monitor the progress
  29. 29. Pornography Addiction  15-minute Rule Technique  It begins with a thought to see online  Give it 15 minutes before switching it on  During the 15 minutes  Sleep, talk to mom, watch tv, etc.  If the thought is still there, give it another 15 minutes  It teaches self control
  30. 30. Impulsivity, Invincibility , Immediate Gratification (3Is)
  31. 31. Impulsivity, Invincibility , Immediate Gratification (3Is)Deadly combo:  Impulsive – I do as I feel; kalau rasa seronok, buat je..  Invincible – Unlimited energy – Aku muda lagi, baru 15 tahun!  Immediate gratification – Now! Buat apa fikir2 pasal masa depan, lama lagi tu.  Substance use and abuse  Risk-taking behavior – speeding, sex, etc.  Technology oh technology!
  32. 32. Teknik Interaksi  Experiential learning  Bincangkan isu-isu sensitif dengan terbuka  Sex, HIV/AIDS, Dadah, etc.  “Negative” role models  Kaitkan gaya hidup sekarang dengan masa depan
  33. 33. 5. Conflict & Contradictions
  34. 34. Conflict & Contradictions
  35. 35. Conflict & Contradictions On definition – sandwich generation Child or adult? Physical vs. social? Confusion Technology A sense of being adult – can do better than many adults can!
  36. 36. Teknik Interaksi  Wahai faci, cakap mesti serupa bikin!  Jangan selalu PMS!  Expect ups and downs – keep explaining.  Regular follow-ups!  Jadilah role models sebaik yang mungkin dan seorang kawan
  37. 37. Interactive IV Apa yang boleh kita belajar dari kisah Badwi yang kencing dalam Masjid Nabi (saw)?
  38. 38. Pengajaran  Tegur selepas emosi dah pulih/stabil.  Bila nak betulkan remaja, jangan sampai jadi perkara yang lebih besar.  Islam itu agama yang mudah. Jadi, permudahkanlah urusan manusia.  Islam itu agama berkasih sayang; maka kasihkanlah sesama manusia.
  39. 39. MUTABA’AH  Pemantauan, audit, follow-up, berterusan , mustamirrah  An-Naml, 27:20-23  Abasa, 80:1-10  Akhlak Rasulullah saw selepas solat bersama sahabat  Kerja rutin malaikat pagi dan petang  Imam Hasan Al-Banna  1928 – 1949 – ziarah lebih dari 3,0000 kampung
  40. 40. Tugas Mutaba’ah Takruf Mu’ayasyah
  41. 41. Takruf  Nama – nama panggilan  Pekerjaan  Alamat  Status perkahwinan  Kecenderungan, potensi, minat  Orientasi pemikiran  Wawasan dan impian  Keruhanian  Kadar keseriusan ibadah  Kesihatan
  42. 42. Takruf  Kesihatan  Pendidikan  Keluarga  Jadual hidup  Empat emosi utama:  Suka  Sedih  Marah  Putus asa
  43. 43. Mu’ayashah - Bergaul MHI: 14 Dec. 2013– 4 Jan. 2014 Follow up, pemantauan
  44. 44. Bila Nak Mu’ayashah?  Sebelum dan selepas program  Qiamullai  Riadhah  Masak  Mandi  Ma’thurat  Makan  Dll  Selepas MHI
  45. 45. Apa Yang Nak di Mutaba’ahkan?  Perasaan  Progress  Ibadah  Akhlak  Tidur  Ceramah, facilitator, tempat tidur, makanan, ahli kumpulan, faisliti, dewan ceramah, concern, etc.
  46. 46. Kenapa Mutaba’ah? Ia adalah rukun ketiga kerananya hendaklah sebahagian kamu memikul beban sebahagian yang lain. Demikian itulah intipati konkrit iman dan intisari ukhuwwah. Hendaklah kamu sentiasa bertanya sebahagian yang lain mengenai kehidupannya dan bersegeralah memberikan bantuan apabila diperlukan. (Majmu’atur Rasail)
  47. 47. Mutaba’ah Takruf – ada catatan harian Mu’ayashah – ada catatan harian

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