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  • 1.) You’re sitting down to breakfast at a diner, and the woman across from you has a black eye and a bloody lip. Later, you notice the man that she’s with grab her wrist during an argument. What would you do?\n2). Your neighbor’s child always has bruises and he’s never outside. When you see him getting into the car and ask him what happened, his mother quickly says “He fell down.” What do you do? \n3). You’re all ready to walk out the door and your boyfriend/girlfriend says he/she doesn’t like your outfit and wants you to change. Do you change or do you stay in the same outfit? \n4). Your boyfriend/girlfriend insists on taking your check to pay all of your bills. What do you do?\n5). What would you do if your boyfriend/girlfriend pushed you up against a wall? Would you fight back or would you call for help?\n6). It’s Friday night and you want to hang out with friends but your boyfriend/girlfriend says no. What would you do? \n7). You see one of your old friends from elementary school, who happens to be the opposite sex, and your boyfriend/girlfriend get jealous. He/She tells you not to speak to them anymore. Would you still speak to them or would you stop?\n8). You accidentally spill soda on the floor. Your partner gets mad and starts calling you names. Do you say mean things back or do you let it go?\n\nThese scenarios were all examples of domestic abuse. The whole point of me having you do this activity was to see how you’d react if you were put in a situation like one of those. \n
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  • Domestic Violence is important to me because I have family members, close friends, and neighbors who were and still are victims of dating abuse. I never actually witnessed it but I do hear about it so I wanted to be aware for myself and for others. Dating abuse is talked about a lot but I feel like it should be talked about more. Many people die from not getting out of unhealthy relationships so I think that we should bring it to peoples attention more by talking about it in school. \n
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  • Domestic Violence is when one or both partners in a relationship is being physically or mentally abused out of power and control. In a relationship, anyone can be abused and it doesn’t matter if you are a male or female. Most people think that women are only the victims in abusive relationships because they hear about women getting abused more but men are actually victims too. Anyone can be the victim and anyone can be the abuser. It doesn’t matter what race, skin color, age, or size you are, you could still be a victim. \n
  • One in four women will experience domestic violence in her lifetime.\n
  • Each year in the United States, an estimated four million women report physical or sexual abuse from their male partners.\n
  • 50% of the men who beat their wives, abused their children.\n
  • In 2004, 1,544 deaths were domestic violence related and 25% of the deaths were males and 75% were women.\n
  • The average battered woman leaves the relationship seven times before actually leaving for good.\n
  • Domestic Violence happens in lesbian and gay relationships just as often as heterosexual relationships. Each year, 100,000 lesbians and 500,000 gays are beaten by their partners. The only difference in gay relationships is that they expose their partners sexual preference to their family, friends, and co-workers. If a victim is gay, they don’t get as much help from shelters, law enforcement agencies, and organizations. Some states don’t recognize same sex relationships as domestic violence and 1,500 shelters denied same sex victims in 1994.\n
  • Different types of Abuse:\nPhysical\nEmotional\nSexual\nEconomic\n
  • There are several different types of abuse. One example of abuse is physical. Physical abuse is when hitting, shoving, pushing, biting, and forced sex is involved in a relationship. In 1996, 30% of female murder victims were killed by their husbands or boyfriends because they did not get out of an abusive relationship. 35,000 men are physically assaulted by an intimate partner yearly.\n
  • Another form of abuse is emotional. The most common examples of emotional abuse are; name calling, put downs, and threats. Insecurities and low self-esteem causes emotional abuse. Emotional abuse can be just as horrifying as physical.\n\n
  • (Also known as partner rape) is a form of physical abuse.\nSexual abuse is usually unwanted, forced sex. People believe that partner rape isn’t as serious as stranger rape but it is. Victims of partner rape carry the effects longer than victims of stranger rape. \n\nThings the victims say: \n“That didn’t happen, it’s only rape if it’s a stranger does it, he wouldn’t really hurt me.”\n“It wont happen again.”\n“It’s my fault, I led him/her on.”\n“It’s not that bad, at least he didn’t beat me up.”\n\nThey usually feel betrayed because they can’t believe that someone they thought loved them would hurt them on purpose, humiliated because they feel dirty, and they end up being scared because they don’t want it to happen again.\n\n\n
  • When someone is being economically abused, they aren’t allowed to work or go to school. Their partner doesn’t allow them to work because they want control over all of the income coming in. If the victim is working, the abuser takes all of their money and makes them quit their job. They also, beat them while they’re on their way to interviews and while they’re on their way to work. Often, the abuser stalks them, makes death threats, and threatens to commit suicide in front of them if they don’t listen. By doing so, the abuser can continue to be abusive if the victim isn’t financially stable. Also, the victim isn’t allowed to visit family. The abuser is afraid that the victim will tell family or friends what is really happening in the relationship.\n
  • Abusers can be anyone. They can be doctors, lawyers, judges, nurses, cops, mechanics, or they can even be unemployed. Most of the time, abusers are only abusive toward their spouse or children. The characteristics of abusers: They need a lot of attention, they’re jealous, controlling, they depend on their partner, they have low self-esteem, and they are usually very manipulative.\n\n\n
  • Usually, the abuser starts to become abusive from his/her past and environment. For example, a young woman sees her mother come home from work, screaming and yelling at her father, so she thinks it’s ok to do so. Domestic violence is also linked to poor self-esteem. Children who have violent homes usually end up with low self-esteem because they think they aren’t good enough.\n
  • When the abuser is jealous over small things, that could be a sign of Domestic Violence. Example: “Why are you talking to him, you’re trying to leave me for him?” Also, control issues play a huge part in abuse. Example: Saying “you can’t go to the mall with your friends.” Control issues lead to physical and mental problems.\n\n
  • This is violence wheel and it basically tells how Domestic Violence comes from power and control issues. \nUsing threats: Makes the person do something, if they don’t. They threaten to hurt them.\nIntimidation: Making him/her feel afraid of them by using looks or gestures.\nEmotional Abuse: Put downs & name calling.\nIsolation: Controlling what he/she does. Isolating them from their friends/family.\nDenying & blaming: Saying the abuse didn’t happen.\nUsing children: Using children to relay messages.\nUsing privilege: Making him/her their servant.\nEconomic abuse: Taking their money.\n \n
  • The victims of Domestic Violence could be anyone. There are many effects on the victims, like developing low self-esteem, self-confidence, and they become convinced they are crazy or they blame themselves for being abused.Many of the victims will suffer from post-traumatic stress disorder, anxiety, and depression. They develop them because of the continuous cycle they can’t escape from. The only way the victims will bounce back is to build their self-esteem back up. To do so, they have to be in a positive environment. \n
  • Domestic violence has a major effect on children and teenagers, emotionally and physically. Nearly, half of children in abusive families become abusers of emotional and physical abuse. Most bullies are violent because they get it from home.Children are more vulnerable to sexual and physical abuse. In households where one adult abuses the other, children are 1,500 times more likely to be abused than children who don’t witness it. Children make up 27% of Domestic Violence killings and 90% of the children are under 10 years old, and 56% are under two years old. If children are living in an abusive household, it increases their chances of having developmental, behavioral, and emotional problems and it increases their chances of being abusive. The major effects on children are: aches and pains, bed wetting, sleep disorders, childish behavior, depression, and low self-esteem. They also become suicidal, they cut themselves, and they also develop eating disorders. Boys usually grow up to be violent like the male figure in their lives and girls usually grow up to deal with the violence like the woman in their lives.\n
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  • Every year, three million women are abused by their boyfriends or husbands. One out of three women has been forced into sex or beaten by their partner. Women are six times more likely to get beaten by intimate partners than men. 85% of recorded cases of violence were against women in 2001. Any woman can be a victim of violence, it doesn’t matter what race or size she is. \n
  • 835,000 men get battered each year.\nNo one really knows about it because men are usually too embarrassed to report it.\nThe only difference with men is, emotional abuse hurts more than physical abuse. Being called a coward or other names have different psychological impact than it does on women. \nWomen usually humiliate their partners by calling them names in front of other men. \n\n
  • Domestic violence leads to psychological and physical signs. \nLow self-esteem - the victim doesn’t believe he/she is good enough and they believe that they can’t make it on their own without their partner. \nAbsence from work or school - They take time off from work or school a lot, usually late to work or school, bruises on their body.\nPersonality changes - A person who is usually happy all the time, becomes quiet around their partner.\nFear of conflict - In an argument with someone, they give in and they don’t stick up for themselves. \nSelf blame - Blame themselves for being abused because they don’t want to make their partner look bad.\n
  • Teen Dating Abuse is the same exact thing as Domestic Violence but it only involves teenagers. It involves physical, emotional, and sexual abuse. Jealousy plays a big part in Teen Dating Abuse. The one who is doing the abusing, puts the victim down in front of their friends and he/she tries to embarrass them. They also force them to have sex. In DV, the male is usually reported as the abuser but in TDV, the male and female both report equally. In an abusive teenage relationship, both the victim and abuser, usually do poorly in school and turn to drugs and alcohol. They also have a greater pregnancy risk. \n
  • One in five female high school students reports being physically or sexually abused by a dating partner. Most teens see abuse in their families so they think it’s okay to do the same to their boyfriend or girlfriend. Some of them get scarred from their younger years and that is how the abuse comes about. \n
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  • Common Excuses:\n\nHow it cycles:\nSaying sorry doesn’t make it ok and accepting the apology only makes it ok for them to do it again. There is no excuse for not being able to control your anger and hitting someone. \n“I’m sorry”\n“I do it because I can’t control my anger.”\n“He says he won’t do it again”\n
  • Visible: Facial bruises, neck scrapes, loose/broken teeth, cigarette burns, bite marks, rope burns, & welts, n\n\nCovered: Chest bruises, rectal or genital injuries, & stomach bruises.\n\nDefensive injuries: The side of the forearm and palms to block blows to the chest and head, bottoms of feet when trying to kick, back of the head and legs.\n\n
  • The abuser threatens to kill the victim, themselves, and their family members if they leave. The woman’s injuries increases after she leaves the relationship once because she didn’t listen. Most victims stay with their abuser because they are scared, intimidated, and they try to protect their children from turning into victims. The abuser tells the victim that he/she will change and they believe it so they stay. They also become affectionate after the abuse begins. The victim might not have financial and emotional support from family and friends so they stay in the relationship. \n
  • Usually a victims self-esteem is low from the emotional and physical abuse so he/she needs support from friends and family. The abuser is usually viewed as the victims supporter (love, affection,money). Remind them that they aren’t the blame for getting abused and they don’t deserve it. It usually takes a while for them to leave. Setting up a safety plan is smart to do because the abuser will try to hurt the victim if they leave. The safety plan should include: transportation and shelter. \n
  • “At first she stayed because of the children.They were babies. They needed a father. He was never a father. Then she stayed because she didn’t want to go on welfare. She was embarrassed to be a single mother with three children, going into the grocery store with food stamps. What would people think? Then she stayed because of her faith. She loved god. She wanted to do the right thing. She wanted her family together. What would god think? He hit her once. After that, he demeaned her, made her feel small, small, small. Told her she was stupid. She started to believe it. She didn’t think she could make it on her own. After all, she was only a housewife, a mother, and stupid. To me, she was EVERYTHING. She stayed because she felt sorry for him, felt responsible for his actions, and saddened about leaving a broken man. She stayed for 30 long years. When she finally decided to leave, he begged, he pleaded, he cried. He said that he couldn’t live without her, couldn’t survive without her. He said she was his only friend.” - Kim Sisto Robinson (Kay’s Sister)\n\nKay Marie Sisto was an innocent mother of three who was a victim of domestic abuse. On May 26th, 2010, she was shot in the head three times by her soon to be husband. \n\nIf you know someone in an abusive relationship, help them get out because Kay didn’t have anyone to go to for support.\n\n
  • There are many ways to get out of an abusive relationship. The police are the most important people to talk to about abuse. They can help you get the person in jail and they can also get the person a lawyer. Family lawyers help with restraining orders, divorce, child support, custody issues, and separation advice. Also, shelters can help a person get out because they give you a place to stay. \n\n\n
  • Marian’s Attic is a thrift store and all of their donations and proceeds go to Laurel House, a domestic violence agency. At Marian’s Attic, clothes, shoes, household appliances, and jewelry are all accepted. \n\n\n
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  • Laurel House is a safe agency that helps adults and their children get away from domestic violence. At Laurel House, they provide shelter, clothes, education, law enforcement, and counseling for the adults and children who stay there. Most of the clothes at Laurel House are sent from Marian’s Attic. The closest location is in Norristown, Pennsylvania.\n\n\n
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    1. 1. www.picnik.com
    2. 2. Domestic Violence “For every minute you remain angry, you give up sixty seconds of peace of mind.” - Ralph Waldo Emerson http://www.handbill.us/wp-content/uploads/2011/03/stop_the_violence.gif http://thinkexist.com/quotation/for_every_minute_you_remain_angry-you_give_up/223464.html
    3. 3. Overview• What is Domestic Violence?• Statistics• Different types of Abuse• Teen Dating Abuse• What causes it?• What are the signs?• How to get out of an abusive relationship• Who to contact. http://www.judyscaregiver.com/.a/6a01157013754c970b0120a5dee222970c-800wi
    4. 4. PersonalRelevance Why should others care? http://trumpethope19.files.wordpress.com/2008/06/why.jpg
    5. 5. Thesis • Domestic violence is when one or both people in a relationship are being abused, either emotionally or physically. The easiest way to stop the abuse is to get out of the relationship while you still can. http://www.flickr.com/photos/44102314@N05/4540791103/in/photostream/
    6. 6. Definition http://www.domesticviolence.org http://laurel-house.org http://cache.jezebel.com/assets/resources/2008/02/abuse2808.gif
    7. 7. STATISTICS http://www.flickr.com/photos/umwomen/5264222728/
    8. 8. Each year in the United States,four million women reportphysical or sexual abuse fromtheir male partners. http://www.breakingperceptions.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/09/mixed.jpg
    9. 9. •50% of the men who beat their wives, abused their children also. http://www.ilonagranet.com/images/get_help.jpg http://theayglist.files.wordpress.com/2010/05/domestic-violence-400x258.jpg
    10. 10. In 2004, 1,544deaths weredomesticviolence related.25% of thedeaths weremales and 75%were women. http://zephyrliving.files.wordpress.com/2011/02/stop-hurting-us.jpg
    11. 11. The average batteredwoman leaves therelationship seven timesbefore she leaves for good. http://www.flickr.com/photos/mpeimpiii/457490052/
    12. 12. Homosexuals http://www.flickr.com/photos/desouzaphoto/2965444615/
    13. 13. www.picnik.com
    14. 14. Physical Abuse http://www.flickr.com/photos/artofts/5386004147/
    15. 15. Emotional/Mental Abuse Words are just as hurtful http://www.flickr.com/photos/houtlust/2969327844/
    16. 16. Sexual Abuse http://www.flickr.com/photos/raajii/3293372836/in/faves-msryan/
    17. 17. Economic Abuse Money Jobs Quality time with family http://www.mtbsafe.org/RTF1.cfm?pagename=NewPageName1 http://www.helpguide.org/mental/domestic_violence_abuse_types_signs_causes_effects.htm http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_TmKc74lthCs/Sl9Klz_kELI/AAAAAAAAASQ/g0T7Ukgh9aM/s320/money.jpg
    18. 18. Who are the abusers? http://www.istockphoto.com/file_thumbview_approve/7961923/2/istockphoto_7961923-group-of-friends.jpg
    19. 19. Causes “The healthy man does nottorture others.Generally it is the tortured whoturn into torturers.” - Carl Jung http://www.quotationspage.com/quote/37795.html
    20. 20. How it starts in therelationship http://www.thefeministwire.com/content/2011/02/domestic-violence-physical-abuse-450a102908.jpg
    21. 21. VI WO HL EE EN LCE http://www.flickr.com/photos/moggsoceanlane/2585003973/
    22. 22. Who are the victims? http://sexual-sanity.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/03/sad-people-collage1.jpg
    23. 23. Childrenhttp://www.flickr.com/photos/msryan/516480873/
    24. 24. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pcodyFKKdVM
    25. 25. Women http://www.flickr.com/photos/ladyisdarling/3399554462/in/photostream/
    26. 26. Men get abused too.It may not get spokenabout, but it happens.• ”Although she had been physically aggressive in the past, she turned downright violent toward me. It started by hitting me with the phone, throwing objects at me, kicking and clawing. She drew blood a number of times. Under advice from my attorney, I was warned that even taking a defensive position could be seen as an act of violence toward her. The ONLY physical action I took toward her was to restrain her from hitting or biting or kicking me. She was an expert at falling down and screaming -- "see kids, look at what your dad is doing to me." - Anonymous http://batteredmen.com/gjdvstor.htm http://batteredmen.com http://www.oregoncounseling.org/handouts/DomesticViolence/men.htm
    27. 27. Signs of someone being abusedLow self-esteemAbsence from work or schoolPersonality changesFear of conflictSelf blame http://helpguide.org/mental/domestic_violence_abuse_types_signs_causes_effects.htm http://marcroger.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/01/man-crying.jpg http://www.nydailynews.com/img/2011/01/08/450x362-alg_crying-woman.jpg
    28. 28. Teen Dating Abuse vs. Domestic Violence http://www.clotheslineproject.org/teen_dating_violence.htm http://www.onlinedating-match.com/images/float/teen-dating-abuse.JPG http://tyrashow.warnerbros.com/teen_dating_abuse_on_rise.jpg
    29. 29. Teen Dating abuse leads to Domestic Violence http://www.flickr.com/photos/jbraunphotography/3377026287/
    30. 30. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K8BeikDUPnk
    31. 31. MYTHS• “Alcohol and drugs cause dating abuse”• “Women only get abused”• “Only poor people are victims”• “Domestic Violence doesn’t happen in my neighborhood”• “He/She deserved to it” http://www.laurel-house.org/about-domestic-violence/facts-vs-myths
    32. 32. Common Excuses SHE BELIEVED http://mbernatz90.files.wordpress.com/2009/11/rihanna.jpg http://www.examiner.com/images/blog/wysiwyg/image/chris_brown_rihanna.jpg http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_qoqrkp25A60/Scmi6Q-xgKI/AAAAAAAAAa8/bkThdu0r5Fw/s400/rihanna-chris-brown-300x284.jpg
    33. 33. Injuries*Visible*Covered*Defensive http://www.flickr.com/photos/ladyisdarling/3398375163/
    34. 34. Why do they stay? http://www.flickr.com/photos/44102314@N05/4541429764/in/photostream/
    35. 35. Stop Domestic Violence!Help A Victim Get Out! http://www.coffeehousedownunder.com/portfolio/images/stop-domestic-violence-logo.png
    36. 36. KAY’S JOURNAL ENTRY “I have nothing else to give him.  He will not leave me alone.  I feel sorry for him.  So very sorry.  He continually   crushes my spirit.  Help me. Help me. Help me.” http://helloladies.com/2011/01/domestic-violence-kays-story/ http://myinnerchick.com/2011/04/03/give-voice-kay-m-sisto-walkrunroll/
    37. 37. How to get out... http://www.policeorthotics.com/police_officers.jpg
    38. 38. http://www.laurel-house.org/about-laurel-house/marians-attic
    39. 39. Application Part 1
    40. 40. Application Part 2
    41. 41. http://www.laurel-house.org/
    42. 42. Organizations• Laurel House • http://www.laurel-house.org• Marian’s Attic • http://www.laurel-house.org/about-laurel-house/marians-attic• Nehemiah’s Way • http://www.laurel-house.org/about-laurel-house/our-programs/nehemiahs-way• Faith Communities & many more... • http://www.laurel-house.org/faith-communities• SAFE (Stop Abuse for Everyone) • http:www.safe4all.org http://marquetteeducator.files.wordpress.com/2010/04/diversity.jpg
    43. 43. Works CitedPenny, Leisring A. "Journal Of Aggression ." What Will Happen if I Punch Him?: n. pag. EBSCOHOST. Web. 23 Dec. 2010. In this journal, Leisring A. Penny talks about a different view of domestic violence. Instead of the man being the abuser, its the woman. She decided to do a study on how many college women beat on their boyfriends during an argument and more than half of them did. By doing her study, she found out that aggressive women who argue in a relationship are most likely to get their way.McCaw, Brigid, et al. "Domestic Violence and Abuse, Health Status, and Social Functioning." Women & Health: n. pag. Ebscohost. Web. 18 Jan. 2007. <http://web.ebscohost.com/ehost/ detail?hid=122&sid=11b40c47-b52e-49c0-a1c1-40268a7fe12c%40sessionmgr14&vid=9&bdat a=JnNpdGU9ZWhvc3QtbGl2ZQ%3d%3d#db=f5h&AN=26523052>. Brigid McCaw, Jacqueline Golding, Melissa Farley, and Jerome figured out that most women who have been in abusive relationships are most likely to have relationship problems. Most of the women who were abused had problems socially interacting with people.Newton, C.J. "Domestic Violence: An Overview." Findcounseling.com. Mental Health Journal, Feb. 2001. Web. 1 May 2011. <http://www.findcounseling.com/ journal/domestic-violence/sexual-abuse.html>."What is Emotional Abuse." Findcounseling.com. Mental Health Journal, Feb. 2001. Web. 1 May 2011. <http://www.findcounseling.com/journal/ domestic-violence/emotional-abuse.html>"What is Physical Abuse." FIndcounseling.com. Mental Health Journal, Feb. 2001. Web. 1 May 2011. <http://www.findcounseling.com/journal/ domestic-violence/physical-abuse.html >."What is Physical Abuse." FIndcounseling.com. Mental Health Journal, Feb. 2001. Web. 1 May 2011. <http://www.findcounseling.com/journal/ domestic-violence/physical-abuse.html >. http://www.flickr.com/photos/neleenjan/3590124900/
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    45. 45. Conclusion• After researching Domestic Violence, I learned that it doesn’t matter what race, size, or sex you are, you can still be a victim of abuse. I also learned about the possible ways to get out of an abusive relationship and the ways to get help. http://www.flickr.com/photos/harpazo_hope/5043198940/