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Sacred space

  1. 1. DISCLAIMERSWednesday, 16 May, 12
  2. 2. SACRED SPACE a conversation for those who companion the grieving May 14th, 2012 Janna Copeland,B.A., M.Div., NSMPCN Simcoe Funeral Home Amy Pritzker, B.A./B.S.W., Hospice Orillia 38 James St. OrilliaWednesday, 16 May, 12
  3. 3. When we honestly ask ourselves which persons in our lives mean the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a warm and tender hand. The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares... henri nouwenWednesday, 16 May, 12
  4. 4. LOSS is the empty chair grief is the emotion we feel as a result of loss ❀ involves the process that helps us adapt to the changes involved with that loss ❀ involves the perceptions of our loss mourning is what we do to express our grief... ❀ external expressions/actions ❀ involves rituals, acts of remembranceWednesday, 16 May, 12
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  6. 6. The Tasks of Mourning To accept the reality of the loss. To experience the pain of grief. To adjust to the ‘new reality’. To withdraw emotional energy from the ‘old reality’ and reinvest that energy in other relationships and activities. William Worden, Ph.D. - Grief Counsel & Grief Therapy, 2nd Edition, Springer, 1991Wednesday, 16 May, 12
  7. 7. The Mourner’s 6 Reconciliation Needs Receiving Ongoing support Acknowledging the reality of from others the loss Embracing the pain of the Searching for meaning loss Remembering the person Developing a New Self-identity who died (or talking about the loss), or reflecting on memoriesWednesday, 16 May, 12
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  9. 9. characteristics of grief FORGETFULNESS- Missed appointments, keys locked in car, leaving things behind DISORGANIZATION - It may longer to perform tasks, you may misplace things, not manage time well INABILITY TO CONCENTRATE/RETAIN INFORMATION - difficulty focusing on a task, reading a book, watching tv. PREOCCUPATION WITH THE LOSS - wandering thoughts, distracted. LACK OF INTEREST/MOTIVATION - things don’t matter as much. LOWERED TOLERANCE LEVEL - lack of patience, may have more conflict with others, may be irritable. CHRONIC FATIGUE - grief is exhausting, stressful & hard workWednesday, 16 May, 12
  10. 10. things to remember... Grief isn’t just emotional - it also affects us physically, spiritually, relationally and mentally, and it is exhausting. ❀ Oftentimes physicians will prescribe medications to help relieve the symptoms of anxiety, panic and sleeplessness. This is common. ❀ There is no timeline for grief. It takes as long as it takes ❀ Grief can cloud our judgment and our ability to make decisions. It is best not to make any important decisions for at least a year following a dramatic loss. ❀ Lots of rest, exercise, proper nutrition are essential while one is grieving. ❀ Take care of yourself, and try to avoid drugs/alcohol as they only mask the is still there to be dealt with.Wednesday, 16 May, 12
  11. 11. "When a person is born we rejoice, and when theyre married we jubilate,but when they die,we try to pretend nothing has happened.." Margaret MeadWednesday, 16 May, 12
  12. 12. CHALLENGES TO CREATING A SACRED SPACEWednesday, 16 May, 12
  13. 13. CURRENT PRACTICEWednesday, 16 May, 12
  14. 14. THINKING OUTSIDE THE BOXWednesday, 16 May, 12
  15. 15. DISCUSSIONWednesday, 16 May, 12
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