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Public speaking

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Public speaking and presenting to large crowds done excellently despite fear - my story

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Public speaking

  1. 1. June 2014 PUBLIC SPEAKING Andrei Postolache
  2. 2. 01 I HAVE MY FEARS LIKE WE ALL DO
  3. 3. 01 BUT I ONLY HAVE TWO IRRATIONAL ONES HEIGHTS PUBLIC SPEAKING&
  4. 4. 01 I HAD NO PROBLEMS SPEAKING UP AS A CHILD
  5. 5. 01 BUT THEN SOMETHING CHANGED
  6. 6. I BECAME FEARFUL OF IT AND ENDED UP AVOIDING IT FOR THE FIRST 30 YEARS OF MY LIFE
  7. 7. TO THE POINT OF GIVING UP EVER DOING IT
  8. 8. THIS IS THE STORY OF MY RECOVERY
  9. 9. AND THE ROAD I TOOK TO GET GOOD AT THIS SHIT
  10. 10. when starting, don’t wait to feel good about it - it won’t ! learn to feel really bad and do it ONE: THERE IS NO COMFORT
  11. 11. 0 - 28 years of age: zero speaking, zero audience, zero progress, zero confidence - the thought alone made me sick with terror ! 28-33: 20+ speaking, 6 TV appearances, > 2000 live audience, feels good TWO: AIM TO FEEL BAD A LOT
  12. 12. you will fear it ! you will do very badly THREE: THE FIRST TIME they will forgive and forget
  13. 13. FOUR: THE SECOND TIME you’ll be happy you could do it and get over the fear ! the speech itself will still be really bad they will still forgive and forget
  14. 14. prepare extensively ! preparation is where you learn from mistakes and gain confidence ! for complex presentations, I routinely exceed a ratio of 50 to 1 - 50 hours of prep for 1 hour of presentation/speech FIVE: PREPARATION
  15. 15. research, experience, mastery of the topic ! could take years the actual successful presentation or speech is the thin red line we do this anyway; this is our life, our work this is what we don’t do well and this is where “failure” begins we fear the thin red line specific presentation prep: structure, rehearsal, visuals, key points, props etc
  16. 16. fear of “why would they listed to me” combined with lack of preparation means they will not listen to you ! ! lack of preparation = blurting out information in an uninteresting way => reinforcement of fear “I knew they didn’t want to listen to me” PREPARATION IS THE KEY TO BOTH CONTROLLING FEAR AND SAYING SOMETHING USEFUL FOR OTHERS
  17. 17. SIX: THE PREPARED PRESENTATION from horrible, you are now advancing to mediocre ! it’s less harrowing to you and sort of useful to the audience they are beginning to remember a little
  18. 18. SEVEN: IMPROVEMENT you’ve done several ! you are now able to focus on improvement ! you put yourself into as many speaking situations as you can, as varied as you can - practice they are beginning to know you a little
  19. 19. ABOUT EMOTIONS don’t look for “control” ! let them be, let them flow learn to operate with them, alongside them ! in time, with practice, they will become something pleasant
  20. 20. THE END is only the beginning only now can you hope to really communicate with your audience it’s the next presentation that will be the one and the one after that and …

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