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Womens Health 7


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Womens Health 7

  1. 1. Chapter Seven Building Healthy Relationships
  2. 2. Forming Relationships <ul><li>Healthy relationships evolve, they don’t happen spontaneously </li></ul><ul><li>Adolescents learn by observing “role models” on how to interact with one another </li></ul><ul><li>Most adults don’t receive any formal training for building, nurturing, and maintaining relationships </li></ul><ul><li>As a result, adolescents have a difficult task of learning how to foster healthy relationships without the benefit of previous modeling </li></ul><ul><li>Lesbians have difficulty finding role models for dating based upon past culture </li></ul>
  3. 3. Stages of Dating <ul><li>Attraction (first stage) </li></ul><ul><li>Rituals (shared experiences that deepen a bond) </li></ul><ul><li>Information Sharing (disclosing more personal information as well as engaging in physical contact e.g. kissing, etc.) </li></ul><ul><li>Activities (personal interests that allow mutual acceptance) </li></ul><ul><li>Emotional Intimacy (feeling of knowing and being known) </li></ul><ul><li>Commitment (feelings of attachment and the desire to be in a more intimate relationship) </li></ul>
  4. 4. Gender Role Attributes <ul><li>There is a profound influence on the development of relationships based on psychological factors such as masculinity and femininity </li></ul><ul><li>Recent studies showed a blend of masculine and feminine traits labeled androgynous </li></ul><ul><li>Androgynous individuals were believed to possess the traits that allowed them to function more equally in a relationship and to fare better psychologically </li></ul>
  5. 5. Sociological Factors <ul><li>These factors impact the development of relationships </li></ul><ul><li>Some scholars suggest women are more relational, whereas men are more autonomous </li></ul><ul><li>Females and males tend to be socialized differently according to values and beliefs of their culture </li></ul><ul><li>In the United States, men tend to embrace the cultural and psychological aspects of an individualistic society, while women tend to embrace the messages of a collective society </li></ul>
  6. 6. Theories of Love <ul><li>Maslow’s D love & B Love </li></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>D Love is based on deficiency (meet one’s unmet needs) </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>B Love is based on being secure and having freedom </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><li>Sternberg’s Triangular Theory (Figure 7.1) </li></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Focuses on 3 components with 9 combinations of love </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Commitment </li></ul></ul></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Intimacy </li></ul></ul></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Passion </li></ul></ul></ul></ul></ul><ul><li>John Alan Lee’s 6 Lovestyles </li></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Erotic love </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Ludic love </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Pragmatic love </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Manic love </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Altruistic love </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Storgic love </li></ul></ul></ul>
  7. 7. Traits of a Successful Relationship <ul><li>Separating emotionally from the families of origin and creating a new family </li></ul><ul><li>Maintaining autonomy and balancing it with togetherness </li></ul><ul><li>Establishing a vital sexual relationship that remains free from distractions </li></ul><ul><li>Recognizing the changes that occur with parenthood and keeping communication open </li></ul><ul><li>Confronting crises and facing adversity together </li></ul><ul><li>Determining safe ways to express differences, conflicts, anger, and seeking resolution </li></ul><ul><li>Creating humor that keeps the little things in perspective and maintains the dynamic stimulation </li></ul><ul><li>Nurturing and comforting each other, allowing dependency and vulnerability to feel safe </li></ul><ul><li>Remembering the early romantic, idealized images of love for the partner while facing the reality of shifts in the relationship </li></ul>
  8. 8. Types of Relationships <ul><li>Marriage and Committed Relationships </li></ul><ul><li>Cohabitation </li></ul><ul><li>Interracial and Mixed Race Couples </li></ul><ul><li>Lesbian Couples </li></ul><ul><li>Single Lifestyles and Parenthood </li></ul>
  9. 9. Love Addiction <ul><li>This is a relationship built on faulty thinking and feeling </li></ul><ul><li>This pattern has been described as love/avoidance addiction </li></ul><ul><li>It occurs when the “ love addict ” partner feels the need to be rescued and the other partner “ avoidance addict ” attempts to avoid involvement with the partner </li></ul><ul><li>Their fears become abandonment and intimacy, which become reversed over time </li></ul><ul><li>The relationships will deteriorate until one partner leaves </li></ul>
  10. 10. Divorce <ul><li>According to the U.S. Census Bureau, 52% of all first marriages end in divorce </li></ul><ul><li>The National Center for Health Statistics reported for 2004 the national divorce rate was 3.7 per 1,000 </li></ul><ul><li>The emotional and financial effects of divorce are greater for women, especially older women </li></ul><ul><li>Many women over time will re-marry which have been found to be even more fragile, more than 62% of remarriages, lead to divorce </li></ul><ul><li>Newly blended families fall into conflicts with regards to needs that are sometimes unrealistic or tensions created with different parents </li></ul>
  11. 11. Potential Sources of Conflict <ul><li>External Affair </li></ul><ul><li>Money </li></ul><ul><li>Sexuality </li></ul><ul><li>Child Rearing and Household Labor </li></ul><ul><li>Inattentiveness </li></ul>
  12. 12. Resolving Conflicts-Fighting Fair <ul><li>Successful negotiation requires that both partners must: </li></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Clearly state the problem or complaint </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Agree to discuss the problem or complaint </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Commit to: </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Change the pattern </li></ul></ul></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Find an acceptable compromise </li></ul></ul></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Disagree </li></ul></ul></ul></ul></ul>See Health Tips: Fighting Fair
  13. 13. Chapter Seven Building Healthy Relationships