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  • Thanks for sharing this very important subject, Amir. I like to follow up a conversation with an action. It can be a research on the topic discussed. My children realised that I do listen to them when they noticed that everything they have shown interest in are posted with more information or leads on a blog I created for them.
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Improve Your Conversation

  1. 1. Improve your Conversation (Start communication in a different way)
  2. 2. An inspiration from management Article By: Brian Tracy By: Brian Tracy
  3. 3. One key to becoming a great conversationalist is to  pause before replying.  pause before replying
  4. 4. A short pause, of three to five seconds, is a very  classy thing to do in a conversation.  classy thing to do in a conversation
  5. 5. The Benefits of Pausing
  6. 6. First benefit, You avoid running the risk of interrupting if the other  person is just catching his or her breath before continuing.  person is just catching his or her breath before continuing
  7. 7. Second benefit, Second benefit You show the other person that you are giving careful  consideration to his or her words by not jumping in with  your own comments at the earliest opportunity. 
  8. 8. Third benefit,  Third benefit After pausing you will actually hear the other person  better. His or her words will soak into a deeper level of  your mind and you will understand what he or she is  saying with greater clarity. By pausing, you mark yourself  as a brilliant conversationalist.  as a brilliant conversationalist
  9. 9. Ask Questions
  10. 10. Another way to become a great conversationalist is  to question for clarification.  to question for clarification.
  11. 11. Never assume that you understand what the person  is saying or trying to say. Instead, ask, quot;How do you  mean, exactly?”
  12. 12. This is the most powerful question I've ever learned  for controlling a conversation.  g
  13. 13. It is almost impossible not to answer. 
  14. 14. When you ask, quot;How do you mean?quot; the other  person cannot stop himself or herself from  answering more extensively.  l
  15. 15. You can then follow up with other open‐ended  questions and keep the conversation rolling along.  questions and keep the conversation rolling along.
  16. 16. Paraphrase the Speaker's Words After you've nodded and smiled, you can then say,  quot;Let me see if I've got this right. What you're saying  quot;L if I' hi i h Wh ' i is . . .“ 
  17. 17. Demonstrate Attentiveness Demonstrate Attentiveness By paraphrasing the speaker's words, you demonstrate in  no uncertain terms that you are genuinely paying  attention and making every effort to understand his or her  i d ki ff d d hi h thoughts or feelings. 
  18. 18. Demonstrate Attentiveness And the wonderful thing is, when you practice effective  listening, other people will begin to find you fascinating. listening other people will begin to find you fascinating
  19. 19. Demonstrate Attentiveness They will want to be around you. They will feel  relaxed and happy in your presence.  l d dh
  20. 20. Listening Builds Trust The reason why listening is such a powerful tool in  developing the art and skill of conversation is because  developing the art and skill of conversation is because listening builds trust. 
  21. 21. Listening Builds Trust The more you listen to another person, the more he  or she trusts you and believes in you. 
  22. 22. Listening Builds Trust Listening Builds Trust Listening also builds self‐esteem. When you listen  attentively to another person, his or her self‐esteem will  naturally increase. 
  23. 23. Listening Develops Discipline Finally, listening builds self‐discipline in the listener. Because your mind can process words at 500‐600 words  per minute, and we can only talk at about 150 words per  per minute and we can only talk at about 150 words per minute, it takes a real effort to keep your attention  focused on another persons? words. 
  24. 24. Listening Develops Discipline If you do not practice self‐discipline in conversation, your  If d t ti lf di i li i ti mind will wander in a hundred different directions.  The more you work at paying close attention to what the  other person is saying, the more self‐disciplined you will  become.  become
  25. 25. Listening Develops Discipline In other words, by learning to listen well, you actually  develop your own character and your own personality.  d l h t d lit
  26. 26. Action Exercises Here are two things you can do immediately to put these  ideas into action.  ideas into action First, make a habit of pausing before replying in any  conversation or discussion. You will be amazed at how  ti di i Y ill b d th powerful this technique really is.  Second, continually ask, quot;How do you mean?quot; in response to  anything that is not perfectly clear. This gives you even more  time to listen well. time to listen well.
  27. 27. Thank you,  Thank you @g amirsaiftaz@gmail.com www.amirsaiftaz.blogspot.com

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