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  • Changing abusive behavior is a long and hard process that you cannot do alone. It is extremely important that you get professional help to get through it. Though you may not know it, you rely on your beliefs and attitudes to justify the abuse. With help you can change these beliefs and learn how to treat your partner with respect. Remember that physical and sexual violence arenít the only types of abuse. You may be harming your partner in verbal or emotional ways, like through intimidation, threats, isolation, and other means of control. You should be taking steps to end all forms of abuse. It will take time to deal with this, but you must make the commitment to ending the abuse immediately.
  • Dating Violence Presentation

    1. 1. <ul><li>Leslie Castillo Amie Berlinski </li></ul>
    2. 2. What is Dating Violence? <ul><li>Dating violence is defined as the physical, sexual, or psychological/emotional violence within a dating relationship </li></ul>
    3. 3. Dating violence rates higher for teens <ul><li>A comparison of intimate partner violence rates </li></ul><ul><li>between teens and adults reveals that teens are at </li></ul><ul><li>higher risk of intimate partner abuse. </li></ul>
    4. 4. Video Exert <ul><li>Causing Pain: Real Stories of Dating Abuse and Violence </li></ul><ul><li>This 2006 Emmy nominated film about teen dating abuse and violence shows real teens telling their stories of dating abuse and violence. The film describes how dating abuse and violence starts, how it progresses, how the abuser acts, and how to recognize it. </li></ul>
    5. 5. Teen dating violence runs across race, gender, & socioeconomic lines. Both males & females are victims, but boys & girls are abusive in different ways: Girls are more likely to yell, threaten to hurt themselves, pinch, slap, scratch, or kick; Boys injure girls more severely and frequently; Some teen victims experience violence occasionally; Others are abused more often…sometimes daily. “ Teen Victim Project,” National Center for Victims of Crime,,
    6. 6. Prevalence of Violence <ul><li>Approximately one in three adolescent girls in the US is a victim of physical, emotional or verbal abuse from a dating partner. 1 </li></ul><ul><li>Nationwide, nearly one in ten high-school students (8.9 percent) has been hit, slapped or physically hurt on purpose by a boyfriend or girlfriend. 2 </li></ul><ul><li>Nearly one in three sexually active adolescent girls in ninth to twelfth grade (31.5 percent) report ever experiencing physical or sexual violence from dating partners. 3 </li></ul><ul><li>One in four teen girls in a relationship (26 percent) says she has been threatened with violence or experienced verbal abuse, and 13 percent say they were physically hurt or hit. 4 </li></ul>
    7. 7. Continued… <ul><li>One in three teens reports knowing a friend or peer who has been hit, punched, kicked, slapped or physically hurt by a partner, and 45 percent of girls know a friend or peer who has been pressured into having either intercourse or oral sex. 4 </li></ul><ul><li>One in five tweens – age 11 to 14 – say their friends are victims of dating violence and nearly half who are in relationships know friends who are verbally abused. 5 </li></ul><ul><li>Two in five of the youngest tweens, ages 11 and 12 , report that their friends are victims of verbal abuse in relationships. 5 </li></ul>
    8. 8. <ul><li>Jennifer Ann Crecente was a high school honors student that was murdered by an ex-boyfriend on February 15, 2006. </li></ul>
    9. 9. <ul><li>On March 1, 2009, police say the 18-year-old from Charlotte, North Carolina, was gunned down by her ex-boyfriend. Charney's ex-boyfriend Gary Daniel has been charged with her murder and has not yet entered a plea. </li></ul>
    10. 10. Sophie Elliot was stabbed to death by a former boyfriend on January 9, 2008 Sophie died after being stabbed or cut 216 times . <ul><li>Her mother described the &quot;on-again, off-again&quot; relationship between her daughter and her boyfriend </li></ul><ul><li>conversations she had with her daughter in which Sophie told her of put-downs from him, a series of arguments, </li></ul><ul><li>an assault that happened on his flat a week before her death and </li></ul><ul><li>how he had told her she had ruined his chances of becoming a lecturer at the university. </li></ul>
    11. 11. <ul><li>Bunn high school student fatally shot </li></ul><ul><li>May 11, 2007 BUNN, N.C. A 17-year-old Bunn high school junior's estranged boyfriend gunned her down in her front yard Thursday afternoon when she arrived at the home where she lived with her aunt and the couple's 2-year-old son. </li></ul><ul><li>Christopher Harris, was waiting in a car when Hernandez got off a school bus. She took off running, running to the front porch, to the front door, and he jumped out of his car,. He got out with a shotgun and shot her in the back. She fell to the ground. He ran up and shot her point-blank. </li></ul><ul><li>Hernandez died on the front steps of the home investigators said the couple's 2-year-old son was inside the house, along with her aunt. Hernandez's school backpack lay by the four steps leading from the lawn to the porch.Thomas tried to get inside. He could not get in and then turned the shotgun on himself. </li></ul>
    12. 12. The Cycle of Violence
    13. 13. Early Warning Signs <ul><li>Extreme jealousy </li></ul><ul><li>Controlling behavior </li></ul><ul><li>Quick involvement (sexual) </li></ul><ul><li>Unpredictable mood swings </li></ul><ul><li>Alcohol and drug use </li></ul><ul><li>Explosive anger </li></ul><ul><li>Isolates you from friends and family </li></ul><ul><li>Uses force during an argument </li></ul><ul><li>Shows hypersensitivity </li></ul><ul><li>Believes in rigid gender roles </li></ul><ul><li>Blames others for his problems or feelings </li></ul><ul><li>Cruel to animals or children </li></ul><ul><li>Verbally abusive </li></ul><ul><li>Abused former partners </li></ul><ul><li>Threatens violence </li></ul>
    14. 14. Common Clues That Indicate a Teenager May Be Experiencing Dating Violence: <ul><li>Physical signs of injury </li></ul><ul><li>Truancy, dropping out of school </li></ul><ul><li>Failing grades </li></ul><ul><li>Indecision </li></ul><ul><li>Changes in mood or personality </li></ul><ul><li>Use of drugs/alcohol </li></ul><ul><li>Pregnancy </li></ul><ul><li>Emotional outburst </li></ul><ul><li>Isolation </li></ul>
    15. 15. Sociocultural Implications <ul><li>Very little is known about the experience of intimate partner violence for several groups; however, literature suggests that attitudes toward violence vary across race/ethnicity, are dependent on such factors as acculturation, SES & there are differences between subcultures within a particular race or ethnicity. </li></ul>(Grossman & Lundy, 2007)
    16. 16. African American <ul><li>Black female victims experienced intimate partner violence at a rate 35% higher than White women and about 2.5 times the rate of women of “other” races. </li></ul><ul><li>Studies note that the enduring discrimination against Black men places a responsibility and a burden on African American women regarding their decision to involve police. </li></ul><ul><li>African American women need to consider that their calls for help to the police may result in the incarceration of the batterer as well as further stigmatization of Black men as inherently violent. </li></ul><ul><li>(Grossman & Lundy, 2007) </li></ul>
    17. 17. Asian American <ul><li>Studies regarding responses of Asian women to domestic violence have repeatedly cited “tolerance,” “endurance,” and “being silent” as the coping mechanisms used by victims and survivors. </li></ul><ul><li>Asian women have to overcome language, communication style, culture, and other barriers to gain access to services; they also have to overcome the stigma resulting in shame that reporting domestic violence brings to their families, a shame that is considered highly disrespectful. </li></ul><ul><li>(Grossman & Lundy, 2007) </li></ul>
    18. 18. Hispanics <ul><li>For Hispanics, the situation of abuse often takes place within a context of poverty and underemployment, cultural isolation, undereducation, language barriers, and undocumented status, making access to resources extremely difficult and reliance on familial relationships prominent </li></ul><ul><li>Hispanics are more tolerant of abuse; hitting and verbal abuse has to occur frequently to be considered abuse </li></ul><ul><li>For some Hispanics, an act is not considered to be abusive until there is a weapon. </li></ul><ul><li>(Grossman & Lundy, 2007) </li></ul>
    19. 19. <ul><li>Lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer (LGBTQ) youth experience dating and domestic violence at similar rates and in much the same way as heterosexual couples. However, LGBTQ youth can face unique obstacles in correctly identifying abuse and seeking help. </li></ul><ul><li>Domestic violence affecting LGBTQ individuals continues to be underreported throughout most of the country </li></ul><ul><li>Studies show that 20%-50% of LGBTQ relationships may be abusive making same-sex domestic violence just as widespread as abuse in heterosexual relationships. </li></ul>DOMESTIC VIOLENCE & LGBTQ (SOURCE Break the Cycle)
    20. 20. LGBTQ youth who are being abused in their relationship can face additional obstacles in accessing help <ul><li>Concern over revealing their sexual identity to friends, family and service-providers can be one of the biggest obstacles, especially for young people. </li></ul><ul><li>Identifying abuse can be even more complicated for LGBTQ youth given their age and developing ideas of what healthy relationships look like. </li></ul><ul><li>It takes great courage for all victims of abuse to speak out about what they are experiencing, but LGBTQ youth face the concern of being re-victimized by those that they turn to for help. </li></ul><ul><li>Homophobic friends, family members and service-providers can leave victims of same-sex domestic violence feeling alone, isolated and unwanted. </li></ul><ul><li>LGBTQ victims of abuse may also be unaware of options available for protection including obtaining a domestic violence restraining order or protective order. </li></ul><ul><li>Although laws vary from state to state, and some specifically make restraining orders only available to heterosexual couples, most states have gender-neutral laws that do not discriminate on the basis of sexual orientation. </li></ul>
    21. 21. What can we do? Implications for School Counselors
    22. 22. How to help a victim of Teen Dating Violence <ul><li>Let student know that violence under any circumstance is not acceptable </li></ul><ul><li>Express understanding, concern and support </li></ul><ul><li>Point out strengths and abilities in student </li></ul><ul><li>Encourage student to confide in parent/guardian or trusted adult </li></ul><ul><li>Refer student to counseling and other resources </li></ul>
    23. 23. Ways to help the abuser of teen dating violence <ul><li>Educate them, that violence is always a choice. </li></ul><ul><li>That there are no excuses for violence and no one else to blame for their behavior. </li></ul><ul><li>Focus on how their abuse affects their partner, family and children.Help them to fully accept how seriously they have hurt the people they care about. </li></ul><ul><li>Accept the consequences of their behavior. their partner has the right to get help from police or the courts. There may be legal consequences for being abusive, either with jail time or a restraining order, so helping them understand this. </li></ul><ul><li>Help them to reach out for support from friends and family and realize that they are not alone and that they will need support to help them if they wish to change. </li></ul><ul><li>Find program or run a group that focuses on abusive relationships. A good program will help them end violent behavior and create a better relationship for them and their partner. </li></ul><ul><li>Teach Respect, and realizing that they need to respect their partner's right to be safe and healthy as they work toward change, even if this means they can't be together. </li></ul><ul><li>Because change is hard, there may be times when they justify their actions or feel like giving up. Having a strong commitment from those who really want to change are more likely to be successful. </li></ul>
    24. 24. As School Counselors we need to…. <ul><li>Educate students about teen dating violence, sexual assault, and healthy dating relationships </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Can even implement it in the form of curriculum or workshop sections </li></ul></ul><ul><li>Change the attitudes & beliefs that allow for teen dating violence </li></ul><ul><li>Provide the resources/referrals for victims & perpetrators </li></ul><ul><li>Develop a system for students to report incidents/threats </li></ul><ul><li>Help Victims create an effective safety plan to better protect them at your home, school, work and community. </li></ul><ul><ul><li>can be going to a confidential shelter or changing schools. Or minor like changing email passwords or the route they take to work and school. The safety plan will also help to escape a violent incident safely, and prepare them to end their relationship when they are ready. </li></ul></ul>
    25. 25. Prevention in the schools <ul><li>It is important to raise awareness </li></ul><ul><li>Start a peer education program on teen dating violence </li></ul><ul><li>Ask library to purchase books on subject </li></ul><ul><li>Incorporate a dating violence education component into health/sex education class </li></ul><ul><li>Send information (pamphlets) home to parents on ways they can talk to their teens about dating violence </li></ul>
    26. 26. Awareness and Prevention Week <ul><li>Congress designated </li></ul><ul><li>February 4 through February 8, 2008, as </li></ul><ul><li>‘‘ National Teen Dating Violence Awareness & Prevention Week” </li></ul>
    27. 28. Resources <ul><li>Break the Cycle: </li></ul><ul><li>National Teen Dating Abuse Help line: </li></ul><ul><li>National Center for victims of crime: </li></ul><ul><li>Liz Clairborne: </li></ul><ul><li>Center for Disease & Control Prevention: </li></ul>
    28. 29. References <ul><li>1 Davis, Antoinette, MPH. 2008. Interpersonal and Physical Dating Violence among Teens. The National Council on Crime and Delinquency Focus. Available at Morbidity and Mortality Weekly Report . 53(SS02);1-96. </li></ul><ul><li>3 Decker M, Silverman J, Raj A. 2005. Dating Violence and Sexually Transmitted Disease/HIV Testing and Diagnosis Among Adolescent Females. Pediatrics . 116: 272-276. </li></ul><ul><li>Grossman, S.F., & Lundy, M. (2007). Domestic Violence Across Race and Ethnicity: Implications for Social Work Practice and Policy. Violence Against Women 13(10) 1029-1052 </li></ul><ul><li>2 Grunbaum JA, Kann L, Kinchen S, et al. 2004. Youth Risk Behavior Surveillance --- United States, 2003. http://www. cdc . gov / mmwr /preview/ mmwrhtml /ss5302a1. htm . </li></ul><ul><li>4 Liz Claiborne Inc. 2005. Omnibuzz® Topline Findings-Teen Relationship Abuse Research. Teenage Research Unlimited. Available at http://www. loveisnotabuse .com/ surveyresults .htm . </li></ul><ul><li>National Coalition of Anti-Violence Programs. ìLesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Domestic Violence in 2001.î New York, NY; 2002. </li></ul><ul><li>5 Tween and Teen Dating Violence and Abuse Study, Teenage Research Unlimited for Liz Claiborne Inc. and the National Teen Dating Abuse Helpline. February 2008. </li></ul>