ANGER MANAGEMENT Skills needed in dealing with your anger:2. Identify a range of feelings including anger3. Identify aggressive acts by self and others4. Identify the potential consequences to self and other from these aggressive acts5. Identify self-destructive behavior6. Identify thoughts prior to aggressive acts7. Identify internal cues to feelings of anger8. Develop coping mechanisms for dealing with anger9. Express anger without loss of control
ANGER MANAGEMENT Identify a range of Embarrassment feelings including Excitement anger: Disappointment Jealousy Fear Helpless Sadness Left-out
ANGER MANAGEMENT I am in charge of my own feelings:2. I own my feelings.3. It is okay to feel angry.4. Anger is part of being human.5. I learn how to express my anger in helpful ways.
ANGER MANAGEMENT Identify aggressive Throw something acts shown by self and Kick someone or something others: Get in someone’s face Shoving, grabbing, hitting Break something Call someone names Give someone a dirty look Silent treatment Get others to “gang up” Spread rumors
ANGER MANAGEMENT I choose to feel good about myself through expressing my feelings.2. I express angry feelings in ways that are fair to others and me.3. I use fair words…e.g. “I feel when you”
ANGER MANAGEMENT The more I learn to take care of my anger the more powerful I become. 2. I need to control what I do with my anger. 3. I control how I let my anger out. 4. I practice cooling off. 5. I watch my thoughts.
ANGER MANAGEMENT Know the difference between anger and aggression. Anger is an emotion. It is ok to be angry. Aggression is acting out inappropriately and is not ok. Learn to check your aggression and express your anger appropriately.
ANGER MANAGEMENT Ways to Keep Cool:2. Get exercise every day.3. Eat right.4. Get enough sleep.5. Learn to relax.6. Know your feelings.7. Write about those feelings.
ANGER MANAGEMENT Ways to Keep Cool:2. Find a quiet place.3. Take a time out.4. Find fun distractions.5. Make good decisions about what you see and hear.6. Choose friends who make you feel good.7. Learn to forgive and forget.
ANGER MANAGEMENT Identify potential Physical harm to someone consequences of your or self anger to others and Destruction of property yourself…what can Loss of family/friends that mean for you? Loss of job Loss of social privileges Going to jail Getting a bad reputation
ANGER MANAGEMENT Identify self- Negative self-talk destructive behavior… Blaming everyone else How does that help or Taking everything personally hurt you? Assuming Overeating, drinking Driving recklessly Taking drugs Looking for fights Feeling outraged
ANGER MANAGEMENT I stop blaming others and myself.2. Blaming only keeps people upset.3. Blaming is a way of not respecting people.4. I express my feelings and then try to work things out.
ANGER MANAGEMENT Identify thoughts prior You did that on purpose… to aggressive acts: You wanted to hurt me… You deserve this… You never even asked me… You’re being unreasonable… You think you’re so good… I’ll show you… You started it… There’s no justice…
ANGER MANAGEMENT Identify internal cues Stomach gets tight/upset to feelings of anger: Heart is beating faster Clenching fists Feel myself getting flushed Pressure on my temples Sweaty palms Clenched jaw
ANGER MANAGEMENT I don’t have to hold on to my anger.2. I find ways to let it go3. I talk about hurt and angry feelings.4. I look for someone to discuss my anger.5. I discuss my words and actions that hurt others.
ANGER MANAGEMENT Steps to taming anger2. Know what pushes your buttons.3. Know your body’s anger signs.4. Stop and think!5. Cage your rage…it’s your choice.6. Decide what to do.
ANGER MANAGEMENT I take power.2. I stand up for myself and others being hurt.3. I learn to defeat negative self-talk.4. I feel good about learning about myself.5. I am strong when I use fair and firm words instead of fists.
ANGER MANAGEMENT I remember that people are precious.2. I watch my thoughts, words, and actions.3. I stop hurting people with my words and actions.4. I take ownership of the hurtful things I do and say.5. “Bullying” hurts everyone.
ANGER MANAGEMENT 1. Calm down 2. Name the problem 3. Find solutions 4. Pick the best solution 5. Congratulate yourself 6. Evaluate the solution 7. Make changes if necessary
ANGER MANAGEMENT Can you identify any of the steps in resolving conflict, controlling your anger and avoiding aggressive behavior? Well…(then click)
ANGER MANAGEMENT Calm down Show mutual respect Name the problem Find solutions Choose the best solution Congratulate yourself Review the solution that was picked