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No one knows for sure why or even howlove happens although while studying thedifferent aspects of love, psychologisthave found six different styles of love.Eros LoveLudus LoveStorge LoveMania LovePragma LoveAgape Love
Eros love can beclassified as a highlysexually and emotionalcharged relationshipbetween two people. Aneros lover would likelytake risk in therelationship. Most eroslovers desire a partnerwith highly physicalattractive qualities.
Eros lovers usually feel genuinely attracted to another individual, although their love tends to be subconsciously a narcissistic love in certain aspects.Eros lovers are typically very romantic and seemto burn with desire for their partner. Howeverthis type of all consuming love cannot stand thetest of time. Once their desires are satisfied,eros lovers typically move on to their conquestand the cycle starts all over again.
Some psychologist believe that eroslovers can bring many potentiallypositives to a relationship. Some eroslovers concern for their partners wellbeing tend to establish healthycommunication skills. A study shoulderos lovers will more likely comprise onconflicts with integrating and obliginglythen other love styles. Those who exhibit this love style tend to be more extroverted and agreeable then most, while also having a higher self esteem. Typically eros lovers do not partake in deviate behavior such as drugs, antisocialism, and depression.
Society tends to look down on those who follow the ludus love style. The ludus lover prefers maintaining several relationships at once then settling down with one person. Ludus lovers prefer the thrill of the chase then actually making a real emotional connection with a partner.
Those who lean more to the ludus style tend to remainunsatisfied with their current relationships. Ludus styletend to avoid jealousy in a relationship even thoughtheir relationships tend to be short lived. Typically luduslovers do not tend to concern themselves whether theirpartner is loyal or not . Most prefer a more sexualrelationship then one with more of a deep emotionalattachment involved. Neuroticism has found a positive link about Ludus lovers. Showing that people who have unstable personality traits may become involved in game-playing or non- committed behaviors.
Ludus lovers tend to use manipulation in order tocontrol or exploit their partners flaws. This caninvolve lying, cheating, and deception in order to getwhat they want. Love is only a game to a ludus lover,they never attach to anyone too close so they never arehurt by loves cruel thorn at times yet they never feelloves security either.
Storge love usually comes from a long term friendship that has gradually turned into love. Storge lovers focus more on compatibility and companionship then physical attractiveness. They generally focuses more the friendship aspect of the relationship and not so much on the sexually aspect as some other love styles do.
Storge lovers are usually described as loyal andtrustworthy. They do not usually fall into loveinstantly or necessarily have the mindset of love atfirst sight, they would prefer to cultivate a relationshipslowly over time. Storge lovers tend to want tofamiliarize themselves with their partner beforeintense emotions come into play. This takes time and adesire to want to understand their partner whilefeeling genuine feelings of love towards them. This iswhy they usually are friends with their partner beforethey fall in love with them. Studies have show the storge lovers have are negatively correlated with depression, impulsiveness, and neuroticism.
Storge lovers tend to place a lot of importance oncommitment so that neither partner breaks the otherstrust with infidelity. Sex is usually a less of importanceon this love style then others, usually because this lovestyle is more focused on the emotional aspect ofbelonging and sense of security. This love does not comewith a lot of feelings per-say yet is full of security andcomfort in this relationship.
Usually these lovers are very possessive and dependent on their partners. They typically become extremely obsessed with their love partners and cannot think logically when they are not around them. This style of love tends to fall in love very quickly and this love is overwhelming for them turning their very life upside down.
Manic lovers tend to have lower self esteem as well asimpulse control and some studies have shown they havehigher rats for depression and borderline personalitydisorderManic lovers desire a lot of attention and affection, whennot given this they can perceive this as rejection which doesnot lead to positive results. Usually they have a lot of anxietyand with this high anxiety levels if they perceive rejectionthis would only intensify their anxieties.
Manic lovers tend to be extremely jealous even if some of theirjealousy seen as irrational. They do not do well with loss ofcontact with their partners no matter the for how short of time.They can become very easily distressed without their partner orat least their whereabouts.When their partners turn their focus away from them, maniclovers tend to try anything in their power to bring their partnersattention back on themselves no matter how foolish they maylook. Manic lovers love intensely and want to be loved intenselyback so much so they become obsessed with the relationship andworry constantly that it will fail.
Love is not intense, overwhelming , or crazy yet based on reason and common sense, to a pragma lover. Pragma lovers usually choose a partner with whom they are very compatible with, and are a practical choose for their economical and social status.
In cultures where people A typical pragma lover does nottend to arrange marriages usually invest their time in love inthe people in there someone who is “unworthy”.relationships tend to have a Pragmatic lovers tend to look atpragmatic love style. There each of their assets an look foris no passion or friendship the best “deal” in their loverin these marriages but their before attaching themselves tocommitment. If there is a them. Usually pragmatic loversissue or problem they will are faithfully and loyal as longwork as a team to fix this nothing changes in their partner,problem. if this happens they ten to look for another partner. Pragmatic lovers tend worry about social then personal qualities.
When entering a relationship they will go down a check list ofperson to see if they are truly compatible; “Will this person getalong with my family”, “Will this person earn enough money tomake life easier”, and “Will they be a good mother/father?”.When they find someone who meets much of their criteria theythen look at their family history, and check up on their partnersfamily in order to find out about hereditary problems. Pragmatic lovers tend to break up or divorce for practical reasons. These relationships do not typically fall though due to the fact that pragmatic lovers have more realistic expectations in their relationship. When they do get divorced though they may actually plan the divorce for some future date, such as after putting their youngest child through school or reach a certain goal then they can get a divorce.
Agape lovers tend to want to care and nurture their partner. This love tends to be a compassionate, caring, and selfless type of love. Usually this love is more so associated with God in many religions.
Agapic love is extremely forgiving assumes when theirpartner mess up it is only because of ignorance orthrough error that is not in their partners typicalpersonality. If an agapic lover partner had an affair and anchild was conceived with another man he would love thechild and concern himself with the pain his partner maybe feeling. If his partner contracted a STI from someonehe would more than likely help his partner through thehard times and help medically then be anger over theaffair.Agapic lovers do not tend to simply fall in love their loveis always open to others even strangers as long as you letthem in. They offer a more spiritual love that does notseek to gain personal rewards. An agapic lover caresabout their partners happiness and would let go of theirpartners if they seemed happier somewhere else.
Most agapic lovers would be willing to accept a partner who istied with immoral or illegal activities even with they personallydisapproved of such behaviors. An agapic lover will alwayssupport their partner no matter what. They are also very patientwith the behaviors of their partners.With agapic lovers they tend to forget theirown needs and desires. Nothing wrongwith agapic love unless taken to theextremes this can cause a problem.Religiously agape love style due to its self-sacrificing nature can be seen as admirable.
Storge - with agape or Agape- Ludus pragma Agape- 90% of other styles Manic- Ludus Manic - with agape, and Storge-Ludus under the right circumstances Eros Manic- Pragma Pragma - with agape or storge Pragma- Eros ·Ludus - best with Ludus ·Eros - under the right circumstances with Storge, agape, Pragma, or manic, if that person meets erotic ideals Positive matches Negative matches
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