Two Sides To Every Family My family is very My family is very loving. dysfunctional.
My not so normal, but normal family Dad: He’s a pretty straight forward guy, is family oriented and loves when everyone is home. He gets along with everyone but usually plays favorite with my older brother, because they have a lot in common. Mom: Very funny, spontaneous, and usually plays favorite with my sister because she is the youngest, only girl, and they have a lot in common. Ryan: Older brother. Funny, likes sports, having fun and has daily conflict with my mom. Josh: Second oldest. Very smart, school oriented, quite, and both my parents agree he is the “parent favorite”. Me: I’m all over the place. Amelia: Very independent, but likes to laugh. Daily conflict with my Dad. OVERALL: We are all very different from each other.
Constant ConflictFamily members fightwith each other indifferent ways. Overtime, most familiesdevelop their rules forconflictual situations.My family tends tobicker and have smallfights quite frequently.It can get very annoyingand old because itsdaily. Like the image,someone is fighting,and if it has nothing todo with you, don’t getinvolved.
Unresolved Conflict. Unresolved conflict is associate with low relationship satisfaction. In my family, we deal with unresolved conflict by avoiding the issue and direct the communication to areas that bring cohesion. The conflict is usually between a parent and a child. My dad tends to fight with my sister, and my mom with my older brother. My guess is because they don’t seem to understand each other. My Dad doesn’t understand why my sister has to see her boyfriend constantly, while my mom doesn’t understand why my brother has to spend 3 hours playing basketball. As a result, its a constant arm wrestle.
How Do we Deal with it? My family loves to laugh and we laugh quite a bit. Even though the conflict is annoying, we can always turn it around and have a good time.
Decision MakingDecision making help toregulate the closenessor distance of familymembers. The morecomplex the familysystem, the moreimportant the decisionpatterns.Decision making, likepower, is a process thatbelongs to the familysystem, not anindividual.
A Big Decision. I recently “came out” to my parents and it was one of the biggest changes in my family. My parents and siblings had nothing wrong with it, but they didn’t know how to tell everyone else. I didn’t see the problem, but since we’re a very honest family, we tried to figure out a way to handle it. I was slightly annoyed, but understood where my parents were coming from.
There’s many principlesthat help guide familiesthrough decision making.My family created a senseof autonomy by respectingmy right to free choice inorder to carry out actionsthat enhance my life. Italso helped create a senseof loyalty by carrying outdecisions mutually agreedapon.My family has a good wayof making decisionsbecause we do it as afamily. If it is a serousdecision, its going to effectall of us.
Good Self Disclosure Self Disclosure is an important complex, and difficult type of communication. It is described as occurring when one person voluntarily tells another about themselves. I think to have a close family, you must talk to each other. My family is very close and we always can open up to each other.
Bad Self Disclosure. Self Disclosure in my family hasn’t always been easy and has caused many problems. My sister usually tells my mother everything, while my oldest brother tells my dad everything. I usually will tell my parents together, or it depends on the topic. It’s bad to hide things from parents because it usually never ends well and someone feels left out. It’s almost like a half secret because one parent knows, while the other doesn’t.
The Answer..Interdependence? Family members who confront there differences, can improve there relationship. I feel that if my brother and sister confronted my parents on how they feel, it could change how they self disclose.
Family Development.As a family, we growwith each other. Theconflicts and changesthat happen everyday,only bring you closer.Families are meant tohelp and support you,as you move forwardwith your life.
For The Love Of Family My family is so unique and I wouldn’t want it any other way. We love spending time together and love to laugh. I feel very lucky be loved and supported by my family.