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Susan Quilliam - Relationships

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Susan Quilliam - Relationships

  1. 1. SustenanceForLifelSusanQuilliamRelationships
  2. 2. l•  New borns deprived of social interactioneventually die- e.g. Harlow 1940-60, Blakeslee 1995•  Ostracised adults cease to function- e.g. Baumeister & Leary, 1995•  Widows typically show a substantial drop inphysical and mental health-  e.g. Clark, Diener, Georgellis & Lucas, 2004•  Divorce leads to an increase in death rate amongmen with heart disease- e,g. Matthews & Gump, 2002•  Happier individuals without exception havestrongly positive social relationships- e.g. Diener & Seligman, 2002lRelationships–AMatterofLifeandDeath
  3. 3. lThe Introduction to Relationships will•  Explore why relationships create happiness•  Explore how relationships create happiness•  Begin the process of exploring the relationshipsin your own lifelContent
  4. 4. Itisnotgoodformantobealone-TheBible,GenesisHellisotherpeople-JeanPaulSatrel
  5. 5. l20TechniquesforHappyRelationships
  6. 6. l20TechniquesforHappyRelationships1.  making eye contact2.  smiling3.  reducing physical distance4.  giving nonverbal approval signals5.  matching and mirroring6.  asking and listening7.  finding and mentioning commonground8.  giving verbal approval/gratitudesignals9.  revealing personal detail10. creating physical contact 
  7. 7. l20TechniquesforHappyRelationships11.  suggesting further interaction12.  investing time, gifts, symbols,practical support13.  sharing good times14.  enduring bad times15.  fulfilling expectations16.  developing mutual goals17.  supporting difference18.  creating a past19.  dreaming of a future20.  make a private and/or publicstatement of commitment 
  8. 8. l20TechniquesforHappyRelationships11.  suggesting further interaction12.  investing time, gifts, symbols,practical support13.  sharing good times14.  enduring bad times15.  fulfilling expectations16.  developing mutual goals17.  supporting difference18.  creating a past19.  dreaming of a future20.  make a private and/or publicstatement of commitment 1.  making eye contact2.  smiling3.  reducing physical distance4.  giving nonverbal approval signals5.  matching and mirroring6.  asking and listening7.  finding and mentioning commonground8.  giving verbal approval/gratitudesignals9.  revealing personal detail10. creating physical contact 
  9. 9. l1.  Secure attachment2.  Ambivalent attachment3.  Avoidant attachment4.  Disorganised attachment Based on the work of John Bowlby et seqlAttachmentStyles
  10. 10. RelationshipAuditllLeast CloseLess CloseClosestYou
  11. 11. RelationshipAudit-examplellLeast CloseLess CloseClosestYouDance Partner; Recent Friend;Neighbour; Ex-colleagueBoss; Landlord; ClientLover; Brother; Lifelong Friend  Jo  
  12. 12. RelationshipsTodayll‘It was the best of times, it was the worst of times, it was the age of wisdom,it was the age of foolishness’ – Charles Dickens, a Tale of Two Cities
  13. 13. RelationshipsTodayll‘It was the best of times, it was the worst of times, it was the age of wisdom,it was the age of foolishness’ – Charles Dickens, a Tale of Two CitiesThe worst of times•  individuation•  romantic/sexual confusion•  work-life balance•  more windows of need•  the internet•  fractured society
  14. 14. RelationshipsTodayllThe best of times•  compassion•  knowledge/understanding•  freedom•  windows of opportunity •  the internet•  professional support‘It was the best of times, it was the worst of times, it was the age of wisdom,it was the age of foolishness’ – Charles Dickens, a Tale of Two Cities
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