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IV. Mastering Communication Essentials <ul><li>1.  Initiate a conversation. </li></ul><ul><li>■  Choose the best  timing  ...
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04 19 09 Mastering The Essentials Of Effective Communication Part 1 Keys To Effective Communication Communication Keys For Couples

  1. 1. West Ridge Church Marriage Ministry <ul><li>“ Can You Hear Me Now?” </li></ul><ul><li>Communication Keys for Couples </li></ul>
  2. 2. IV. Mastering Communication Essentials <ul><li>Luke 14:25-30 </li></ul><ul><li>And anyone who does not carry his cross and </li></ul><ul><li>follow me cannot be my disciple. &quot;Suppose </li></ul><ul><li>one of you wants to build a tower. Will he not </li></ul><ul><li>first sit down and estimate the cost to see if he </li></ul><ul><li>has enough money to complete it? </li></ul>
  3. 3. IV. Mastering Communication Essentials <ul><li>Luke 14:25-30 </li></ul><ul><li>And anyone who does not carry his cross and </li></ul><ul><li>follow me cannot be my disciple. &quot;Suppose </li></ul><ul><li>one of you wants to build a tower. Will he not </li></ul><ul><li>first sit down and estimate the cost to see if he </li></ul><ul><li>has enough money to complete it? </li></ul><ul><li>Similarly, much of communication is just </li></ul><ul><li>common sense </li></ul>
  4. 4. IV. Mastering Communication Essentials <ul><li>It has been said, “Practice makes perfect.” </li></ul><ul><li>Not quite..….. </li></ul><ul><li>Only evaluated practice makes perfect. </li></ul>
  5. 5. IV. Mastering Communication Essentials <ul><li>Common Sense Keys </li></ul>
  6. 6. IV. Mastering Communication Essentials <ul><li>1. Initiate a conversation. </li></ul><ul><li>■ Gain an understanding of your spouse. </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Proverbs 8:5 </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>You who are simple, gain prudence; you who </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>are foolish, gain understanding. </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>1 Peter 3:7 (NASB) </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>You husbands in the same way, live with your </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>wives in an understanding way…. </li></ul></ul>
  7. 7. IV. Mastering Communication Essentials <ul><li>1. Initiate a conversation. </li></ul><ul><li>■ Gain an understanding of your spouse. </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Get to know your spouse – study them! </li></ul></ul>
  8. 8. IV. Mastering Communication Essentials <ul><li>1. Initiate a conversation. </li></ul><ul><li>■ Choose the best timing for a conversation. </li></ul>
  9. 10. IV. Mastering Communication Essentials <ul><li>1. Initiate a conversation. </li></ul><ul><li>■ Choose the best timing for a conversation. </li></ul><ul><li>A man finds joy in giving an apt reply— and how good </li></ul><ul><li>is a timely word! </li></ul><ul><li>If a man loudly blesses his neighbor early in the </li></ul><ul><li>morning , it will be taken as a curse . </li></ul><ul><li>[There is]…. a time to be silent and a time to speak… </li></ul>
  10. 11. IV. Mastering Communication Essentials <ul><li>1. Initiate a conversation. </li></ul><ul><li>■ Choose the best timing for a conversation. </li></ul><ul><li>Don’t launch into a lengthy conversation when your spouse first walks in the door. </li></ul>
  11. 12. IV. Mastering Communication Essentials <ul><li>1. Initiate a conversation. </li></ul><ul><li>■ Choose the best timing for a conversation. </li></ul><ul><li>Don’t start a serious conversation when you: </li></ul><ul><li>-- are exhausted </li></ul><ul><li>-- have limited time </li></ul><ul><li>-- feel the other person is not ready </li></ul>
  12. 13. IV. Mastering Communication Essentials <ul><li>1. Initiate a conversation. </li></ul><ul><li>■ Get their attention before engaging…. </li></ul><ul><li>Acts 3:1-5 </li></ul><ul><li>Peter looked straight at him, as did John. Then </li></ul><ul><li>Peter said, &quot; Look at us !&quot; So the man gave </li></ul><ul><li>them his attention….. </li></ul>
  13. 14. IV. Mastering Communication Essentials <ul><li>1. Initiate a conversation. </li></ul><ul><li>■ Get their attention before engaging…. </li></ul><ul><li>Women pick up on words much faster than </li></ul><ul><li>men! It takes men more time to engage. </li></ul>
  14. 15. IV. Mastering Communication Essentials <ul><li>1. Initiate a conversation. </li></ul><ul><li>■ Provide some brief context . </li></ul><ul><li>Matthew 5:21-22 </li></ul><ul><li>You have heard that it was said to the people long ago, </li></ul><ul><li>'Do not murder, and anyone who murders will be </li></ul><ul><li>subject to judgment.' But I tell you that anyone who is </li></ul><ul><li>angry with his brother will be subject to judgment. </li></ul>
  15. 16. IV. Mastering Communication Essentials <ul><li>1. Initiate a conversation. </li></ul><ul><li>■ Provide some brief context . </li></ul><ul><li>Give some background before launching into </li></ul><ul><li>unfamiliar territory. </li></ul>
  16. 17. IV. Mastering Communication Essentials <ul><li>1. Initiate a conversation. </li></ul><ul><li>■ Don’t talk too long without allowing your spouse to respond. </li></ul>
  17. 19. IV. Mastering Communication Essentials <ul><li>1. Initiate a conversation. </li></ul><ul><li>■ Don’t talk too long without allowing your spouse to respond. </li></ul><ul><li>Proverbs 10:8 …. a chattering fool comes to ruin . </li></ul><ul><li>Proverbs 10:19 When words are many, sin is not </li></ul><ul><li>absent, but he who holds his tongue is wise. </li></ul><ul><li>Ecc 5 Do not be quick with your mouth, do not be hasty </li></ul><ul><li>in your heart to utter anything before God. God is in </li></ul><ul><li>heaven and you are on earth, so let your words be few. </li></ul>
  18. 20. IV. Mastering Communication Essentials <ul><li>1. Initiate a conversation. </li></ul><ul><li>■ Don’t talk too long without allowing your spouse to respond. </li></ul><ul><li>It is a certain sign of self-centeredness when a </li></ul><ul><li>person talks incessantly without allowing the </li></ul><ul><li>other party to join in the conversation! </li></ul>
  19. 21. IV. Mastering Communication Essentials <ul><li>1. Initiate a conversation. </li></ul><ul><li>■ Be aware of nonverbal cues. </li></ul><ul><li>Proverbs 25:23 </li></ul><ul><li>… ..a sly tongue brings angry looks. </li></ul><ul><li>Proverbs 30:13 …those whose eyes are ever </li></ul><ul><li>so haughty, whose glances are so disdainful; </li></ul>
  20. 22. IV. Mastering Communication Essentials <ul><li>1. Initiate a conversation. </li></ul><ul><li>■ Be aware of nonverbal cues. </li></ul><ul><li>Your facial expressions and gestures give </li></ul><ul><li>away what is really in your heart! </li></ul>
  21. 23. IV. Mastering Communication Essentials <ul><li>1. Initiate a conversation. </li></ul><ul><li>■ Exercise discretion in every conversation. </li></ul><ul><li>Proverbs 2:11 </li></ul><ul><li>Discretion will protect you, and understanding </li></ul><ul><li>will guard you. </li></ul><ul><li>Proverbs 11:22 </li></ul><ul><li>Like a gold ring in a pig’s snout is a beautiful </li></ul><ul><li>woman who shows no discretion. </li></ul>
  22. 24. IV. Mastering Communication Essentials <ul><li>1. Initiate a conversation. </li></ul><ul><li>■ Exercise discretion in every conversation. </li></ul><ul><li>Proverbs 23:9 Do not speak to a fool, for he </li></ul><ul><li>will scorn the wisdom of your words. </li></ul><ul><li>Col 4:6 Let your conversation be always full </li></ul><ul><li>of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may </li></ul><ul><li>know how to answer everyone. </li></ul>
  23. 25. IV. Mastering Communication Essentials <ul><li>1. Initiate a conversation. </li></ul><ul><li>■ Exercise discretion in every conversation. </li></ul><ul><li>Definition : </li></ul><ul><li>1 cautious reserve in speech </li></ul><ul><li>2 ability to make responsible decisions </li></ul>
  24. 26. IV. Mastering Communication Essentials <ul><li>1. Initiate a conversation. </li></ul><ul><li>■ Exercise discretion in every conversation. </li></ul><ul><li>Discretion focuses on how and how much is </li></ul><ul><li>appropriate in our speech. </li></ul><ul><li>It is an issue of judgment . </li></ul>
  25. 27. IV. Mastering Communication Essentials <ul><li>1. Initiate a conversation. </li></ul><ul><li>■ Exercise discretion in every conversation. </li></ul><ul><li>It’s not just what you say – </li></ul><ul><li>it’s how you say it that matters. </li></ul>
  26. 28. IV. Mastering Communication Essentials <ul><li>1. Initiate a conversation. </li></ul><ul><li>■ Exercise discretion in every conversation. </li></ul><ul><li>We need to choose our words carefully since </li></ul><ul><li>they have much power. </li></ul><ul><li>Don’t be too lazy to think ! </li></ul>
  27. 29. IV. Mastering Communication Essentials <ul><li>1. Initiate a conversation. </li></ul><ul><li>■ Be as specific as possible. </li></ul><ul><li>Proverbs 31:26 </li></ul><ul><li>She speaks with wisdom, and faithful </li></ul><ul><li>instruction is on her tongue. </li></ul>
  28. 30. IV. Mastering Communication Essentials <ul><li>1. Initiate a conversation. </li></ul><ul><li>■ Be as specific as possible. </li></ul><ul><li>Your husband can’t read your mind. </li></ul><ul><li>Guys don’t take hints too well. </li></ul><ul><li>If you want something, just ask…. </li></ul>
  29. 31. IV. Mastering Communication Essentials <ul><li>2. Look and Listen Intently </li></ul><ul><li>■ Focus on the person talking. </li></ul><ul><li>Proverbs 4:1 Listen, my sons, to a father's </li></ul><ul><li>instruction; pay attention…. </li></ul><ul><li>Proverbs 4:20 My son, pay attention to what I </li></ul><ul><li>say; listen closely to my words. </li></ul><ul><li>Proverbs 5:1 My son, pay attention to my </li></ul><ul><li>wisdom, listen well to my words… </li></ul>
  30. 32. IV. Mastering Communication Essentials <ul><li>2. Look and Listen Intently </li></ul><ul><li>■ Actively listen to what they are saying! </li></ul><ul><li>Luke 8:18 </li></ul><ul><li>Therefore consider carefully how you listen. </li></ul><ul><li>James 1:19 </li></ul><ul><li>My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone </li></ul><ul><li>should be quick to listen, slow to speak and </li></ul><ul><li>slow to become angry… </li></ul>
  31. 33. IV. Mastering Communication Essentials <ul><li>2. Look and Listen Intently </li></ul><ul><li>■ Actively listen to what they are saying! </li></ul><ul><li>Proverbs 12:15 </li></ul><ul><li>The way of a fool seems right to him, but a </li></ul><ul><li>wise man listens to advice. </li></ul><ul><li>Proverbs 15:31 </li></ul><ul><li>He who listens to a life-giving rebuke will be at </li></ul><ul><li>home among the wise. </li></ul>
  32. 34. IV. Mastering Communication Essentials <ul><li>2. Look and Listen Intently </li></ul><ul><li>■ Actively listen to what they are saying! </li></ul><ul><li>Zechariah 7:12 </li></ul><ul><li>They made their hearts as hard as flint and </li></ul><ul><li>would not listen to the law or to the words that </li></ul><ul><li>the LORD Almighty had sent by his Spirit </li></ul><ul><li>through the earlier prophets. So the LORD </li></ul><ul><li>Almighty was very angry. </li></ul>
  33. 35. IV. Mastering Communication Essentials <ul><li>2. Look and Listen Intently </li></ul><ul><li>■ Don’t respond before hearing other person </li></ul><ul><li>completely. </li></ul><ul><li>Proverbs 13:3 </li></ul><ul><li>He who guards his lips guards his life, but he </li></ul><ul><li>who speaks rashly will come to ruin. </li></ul><ul><li>Proverbs 18:13 </li></ul><ul><li>He who answers before listening — that is his </li></ul><ul><li>folly and his shame. </li></ul>
  34. 36. IV. Mastering Communication Essentials <ul><li>2. Look and Listen Intently </li></ul><ul><li>■ Don’t respond before hearing other person </li></ul><ul><li>completely. </li></ul><ul><li>James 1:26 </li></ul><ul><li>If anyone considers himself religious and yet </li></ul><ul><li>does not keep a tight rein on his tongue, he </li></ul><ul><li>deceives himself and his religion is worthless. </li></ul>
  35. 37. IV. Mastering Communication Essentials <ul><li>2. Look and Listen Intently </li></ul><ul><li>■ Don’t respond before hearing other person </li></ul><ul><li>completely. </li></ul><ul><li>Don’t jump to conclusions . </li></ul>
  36. 38. IV. Mastering Communication Essentials <ul><li>3. Respond to Your Spouse </li></ul><ul><li>■ First, make sure you understand what was said. </li></ul><ul><li>Proverbs 18:2 </li></ul><ul><li>A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but </li></ul><ul><li>delights in airing his own opinions. </li></ul>
  37. 39. IV. Mastering Communication Essentials <ul><li>3. Respond to Your Spouse </li></ul><ul><li>■ First, make sure you understand what was said. </li></ul><ul><li>Matthew 13:14-15 </li></ul><ul><li>In them is fulfilled the prophecy of Isaiah: 'You will be </li></ul><ul><li>ever hearing but never understanding; you will be ever </li></ul><ul><li>seeing but never perceiving. For this people's heart </li></ul><ul><li>has become calloused; they hardly hear with their ears, </li></ul><ul><li>and they have closed their eyes. </li></ul>
  38. 40. IV. Mastering Communication Essentials <ul><li>3. Respond to Your Spouse </li></ul><ul><li>■ First, make sure you understand what was said. </li></ul><ul><li>Seek first to understand, then to be understood. </li></ul>
  39. 41. IV. Mastering Communication Essentials <ul><li>3. Respond to Your Spouse </li></ul><ul><li>■ First, make sure you understand what was said. </li></ul><ul><li>Ask clarifying questions to understand. </li></ul><ul><li>Use summary statements to validate . </li></ul>
  40. 43. IV. Mastering Communication Essentials <ul><li>3. Respond to Your Spouse </li></ul><ul><li>■ Visualize and empathize with your spouse. </li></ul><ul><li>John 11:33-35 When Jesus saw her weeping, and the </li></ul><ul><li>Jews who had come along with her also weeping, he </li></ul><ul><li>was deeply moved in spirit and troubled. “Where have </li></ul><ul><li>you laid him?&quot; he asked. &quot;Come and see, Lord,&quot; they </li></ul><ul><li>replied. Jesus wept. </li></ul>
  41. 44. IV. Mastering Communication Essentials <ul><li>3. Respond to Your Spouse </li></ul><ul><li>■ Visualize and empathize with your spouse. </li></ul><ul><li>Put yourself in their shoes . </li></ul><ul><li>Feel what your spouse is saying ! </li></ul>
  42. 45. IV. Mastering Communication Essentials <ul><li>3. Respond to Your Spouse </li></ul><ul><li>■ Respond appropriately to your spouse. </li></ul><ul><li>Proverbs 15:28 The heart of the righteous weighs its </li></ul><ul><li>answers , but the mouth of the wicked gushes evil. </li></ul><ul><li>Proverbs 29:20 Do you see a man who speaks in </li></ul><ul><li>haste? There is more hope for a fool than for him. </li></ul><ul><li>Proverbs 17:27 A man of knowledge uses words with </li></ul><ul><li>restraint, and a man of understanding is even-tempered . </li></ul>
  43. 46. IV. Mastering Communication Essentials <ul><li>3. Respond to Your Spouse </li></ul><ul><li>■ Respond appropriately to your spouse. </li></ul><ul><li>We need to respond emotion for emotion ! </li></ul><ul><li>But don’t over-react . </li></ul>
  44. 47. IV. Mastering Communication Essentials <ul><li>4. Other Practical Tips </li></ul><ul><li>■ Practice radical honesty . </li></ul><ul><li>Proverbs 15:4 </li></ul><ul><li>The tongue that brings healing is a tree of life, </li></ul><ul><li>but a deceitful tongue crushes the spirit. </li></ul>
  45. 48. IV. Mastering Communication Essentials <ul><li>4. Other Practical Tips </li></ul><ul><li>■ Add humor to your conversations. </li></ul><ul><li>Proverbs 17:22 </li></ul><ul><li>A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a </li></ul><ul><li>crushed spirit dries up the bones. </li></ul><ul><li>Proverbs 12:25 </li></ul><ul><li>An anxious heart weighs a man down, but a </li></ul><ul><li>kind word cheers him up. </li></ul>
  46. 49. IV. Mastering Communication Essentials <ul><li>4. Other Practical Tips </li></ul><ul><li>■ Add humor to your conversations. </li></ul><ul><li>Learn to take joy in the little things . </li></ul><ul><li>But don’t ever use humor to demean your </li></ul><ul><li>spouse. </li></ul>
  47. 50. IV. Mastering Communication Essentials <ul><li>4. Other Practical Tips </li></ul><ul><li>■ Use the “ sandwich method ” </li></ul><ul><li>I know your deeds….toil and perseverance…cannot </li></ul><ul><li>tolerate evil men…you have perseverance…have </li></ul><ul><li>Endured…and have not grown weary. </li></ul><ul><li>'But I have this against you, that you have left your first </li></ul><ul><li>love. 'Therefore remember …repent…do </li></ul><ul><li>'Yet this you do have, that you hate the deeds of the </li></ul><ul><li>Nicolaitans, which I also hate. </li></ul>
  48. 51. IV. Mastering Communication Essentials <ul><li>4. Other Practical Tips </li></ul><ul><li>■ Use the “ sandwich method ” </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Think of something positive to say </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>before and after the tough stuff. </li></ul></ul>
  49. 52. IV. Mastering Communication Essentials <ul><li>4. Other Practical Tips </li></ul><ul><li>■ Make time to talk. </li></ul><ul><li>Daily -- dinner together turn off TV </li></ul><ul><li>Weekly -- have a weekly meeting </li></ul><ul><li> -- have a family calendar </li></ul><ul><li>Periodically -- have a Date Night (no kids!) </li></ul><ul><li>Annually -- have a Planning Weekend </li></ul>
  50. 53. IV. Mastering Communication Essentials <ul><li>4. Other Practical Tips </li></ul><ul><li>■ Make time to talk. </li></ul><ul><li>We always make time for the things that are </li></ul><ul><li>important to us. </li></ul><ul><li>We should be intentional about our long-term </li></ul><ul><li>priorities. </li></ul>
  51. 54. IV. Mastering Communication Essentials <ul><li>4. Other Practical Tips </li></ul><ul><li>■ Develop a positive outlook on life. </li></ul><ul><li>Proverbs 15:13 </li></ul><ul><li>A happy heart makes the face cheerful…. </li></ul><ul><li>Proverbs 15:15 </li></ul><ul><li>… .the cheerful heart has a continual feast. </li></ul><ul><li>Prov 15:30 A cheerful look brings joy to the </li></ul><ul><li>heart, and good news gives health to the bones. </li></ul>
  52. 55. IV. Mastering Communication Essentials <ul><li>4. Other Practical Tips </li></ul><ul><li>Romans 8:31 - 39 </li></ul><ul><li>What, then, shall we say in response to this? </li></ul><ul><li>It is God who justifies . </li></ul><ul><li>Christ Jesus…is at the right hand of God interceding </li></ul><ul><li>Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? </li></ul><ul><li>… in all these things we are more than conquerors </li></ul><ul><li>… [ nothing] will be able to separate us from the love of God </li></ul>
  53. 56. IV. Mastering Communication Essentials <ul><li>4. Other Practical Tips </li></ul><ul><li>Philippians 4:4 Rejoice in the Lord always. </li></ul><ul><li>I will say it again: Rejoice! </li></ul>
  54. 57. IV. Mastering Communication Essentials <ul><li>4. Other Practical Tips </li></ul><ul><li>Philippians 4:4 Rejoice in the Lord always. </li></ul><ul><li>I will say it again: Rejoice! </li></ul><ul><li>As followers of Christ, we above all others </li></ul><ul><li>should have a “half-full” mindset. </li></ul>
  55. 58. <ul><li>Five Major Keys of Effective Communication </li></ul><ul><li>1. Maturing Character </li></ul><ul><li>2. Mutual Understanding </li></ul><ul><li>3. Unconditional Acceptance </li></ul><ul><li>4. Common Sense </li></ul>

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