4. Fully listen. Let the survivor tell the story in her/his own way and at her/his pace. F R Remind your friend it is not her/his fault. I Invite your friend to seek outside help and offer to go with her/him to appointments. e Establish safety. Make sure they have a safe place to stay, and if not, help them find one. N Never blame the victim. D Don’t forget to take care of yourself. Helping a friend can be stressful, seek help or support if you need it.